Have you ever done something for spite only to realize later you were really onl

  1. Charlu profile image80
    Charluposted 5 years ago

    Have you ever done something for spite only to realize later you were really only hurting yourself?

    You know the old "I'll show you" attitude only to later realize you were probably hurting yourself more than anyone.  Most of the time I think it's done in retaliation but it still seems to hurt us more than anyone.  Ever done it and if so how did you feel after?

  2. Lisa HW profile image74
    Lisa HWposted 5 years ago

    Hmm.  Interesting question.  It makes me realize that I don't do things for spite.  I don't know...   Maybe once people reach a certain degree of maturity they don't "do spite". I deal with things, address them, and may even seek (legal) vengeance for some things; but spite isn't something that's ever at the root of what I do.

  3. wychic profile image88
    wychicposted 5 years ago

    I think I originally heard it from the Dalai Lama, but not certain -- "Seeking revenge is like drinking poison with the intent of hurting your enemy." I'm sure there are times when I've done something just to be spiteful, though offhand I don't recall any specific circumstances. I can just about guarantee they all turned out badly. Thankfully, whenever I think of something spiteful to do or say, it generally only takes a moment of thinking to realize that it would hurt me and would not further the positive atmosphere I always try to foster in my personal life. Everything you do, good or bad, will always come back to you; to the best extent that I can, I like to try to ensure it's good things.