What should you do when you find someone dislikes you for no apparent reason?

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  1. Tonipet profile image78
    Tonipetposted 11 years ago

    What should you do when you find someone dislikes you for no apparent reason?

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    msorenssonposted 11 years ago

    Could be a memory from previous lifetimes...he or she may not even know why they dislike you, or it maybe just your perception. Show some compassion

    1. Tonipet profile image78
      Tonipetposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      So true, could also be that the way we look at them as disliking us maybe just our perception.

  3. DanaTeresa profile image79
    DanaTeresaposted 11 years ago

    I give them their space. I do not try to win them over or so anything out of character for me. I treat them with respect and kindness. And hope that they will get to know me and their dislike will fade. Or maybe after a while the reason for the dislike will suface and it can be remedied.

    1. Tonipet profile image78
      Tonipetposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I wish many people can read your answers that they may do the same. Thank you Dana.

    2. DanaTeresa profile image79
      DanaTeresaposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      You should really read my hub "TURN A NEGATIVE COMMENT INTO SOMETHING POSITIVE". I think you would get a lot out of it.

  4. Anjili profile image66
    Anjiliposted 11 years ago

    There will always be fellows who won't like you due no reason or your nose's shape.
    Just let them be and carry on as though they don't exist, until the day you have to help them change a flat tyre. Assist them whithout uttering a word but send them off with a smile. They will seek to make amends if they are normal. Just don't let them disturb your peace.

    1. Tonipet profile image78
      Tonipetposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      A smile is always power!

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    CJ Sledgehammerposted 11 years ago

    There is no way absolutely everyone is going to like even the most lovable amongst us.

    As Thomas Jefferson eluded to...one third of the people will like you no matter what...one third will dislike you no matter what, and one third will not care either way.

    The only solution to this problem is to shake it off, accept it, move on, stand tall, and keep looking up. If you are honorable, respectable, and have moral character...who cares what anyone else thinks! Their loss is someone else's gain.

    As the Bible says, "If God is for you...who can be against you?"

    1. Tonipet profile image78
      Tonipetposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Very nice thought CJ. We all needed this inspiration to move on.  Thank you!

  6. MickS profile image60
    MickSposted 11 years ago

    Don't worry about it, thatt's the way of the world.

  7. nightwork4 profile image60
    nightwork4posted 11 years ago

    nothing. leave them alone and most likely they will do the same. lots of people act like they like someone but they don't, i'd rather know if they like me or not.

  8. cat on a soapbox profile image95
    cat on a soapboxposted 11 years ago

    My approach to life is that some people like me , and some don't and never will. I try to be peasant and find a common ground. If I'm not successful, then I move on.  If it's in a working situation, I do my part and am civil to everyone.  If I ever saw that someone was purposefully screwing with me, I'd report it to a neutral party.

  9. LaThing profile image59
    LaThingposted 11 years ago

    I say hi, smile, and move away. I don't like pushing myself on anyone let alone on someone who doesn't like me!

  10. michememe profile image60
    michememeposted 11 years ago

    If a person can dislike you for no apparent reason, it tells you, they have some issues. If a person have issues, why would you care if they liked you or not, it's obvious something is going on with them.

    My dad, was a stickler for this. If my sister and I came home and said someone didn't like us. He would ask us, and exactly what does this person do for you? Why do you care? With this being driven into us all our lives, we just don't entertain the people "who like us for no reason." We only get one life, can't spend it worried about why folks don't like us.

    1. Tonipet profile image78
      Tonipetposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Nice one michememe. Great Dad to remind you all the time. Liked that what you said "We only get one life, can't spend it worried about why folks don't like us."

  11. Sage in a Cage profile image81
    Sage in a Cageposted 11 years ago

    Over time I have learned that if someone dislikes me for no apparent reason the best thing I could ever do is to just move on. There are billions of people in the world all and you are inevitably going to find people who don't 'warm' to you for whatever reasons.

    Unless I was forced to share my environment with this person every day I would not feel a need to address the problem as there would actually be no problem! It takes a long time to realise that when someone dislikes you it is their problem rather than yours.

  12. daisydayz profile image85
    daisydayzposted 11 years ago

    Unless it is vitally important for them to like you, ie, family or close working position. Then I wouldnt worry, sometimes a dislike can be totally irrational or just a personality clash, as long as you are nice (or civil at least) to them, and it isnt really effecting your life I wouldnt worry. Life is too short to be bothered by people like that.

  13. moonfairy profile image76
    moonfairyposted 11 years ago

    I just love this question and I love and agree with all of the responses. It befuddles me that someone can dislike you at first glance...I wonder if the people they dislike are the opposite of their insecurities??? When it happens to me I try to ignore it with the realization that they don't know my story or my journey and they never will. But it's still uncomfortable, isn't it??

    1. Sherry Hewins profile image94
      Sherry Hewinsposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      It's obviously the right thing to leave them alone and not worry about it, but it's easier said than done.

    2. Tonipet profile image78
      Tonipetposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      It's very uncomfortable, yes. We may pacify our bothered minds why should we feel bad, but it continues to affect us.

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    Miss Kate000posted 11 years ago

    If you are unable to find out why they dislike you, as it might be simply a misscommunication or something they heard, then i wouldn't bother. People who aren't willing to get to know you aren't worth your time.

    1. Tonipet profile image78
      Tonipetposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      So true, I agree to that Miss Kate. Why bother when people aren't even willing to know us. That saves us from bothersome. Thanks!

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    Debbie Dallasposted 11 years ago

    I worry of this often?  I feel like Everyone Hate me?  Yikes!  Well feel great about u and the rest shall follow!! I guess when u love yourself, then nothing else matters!  OH! Yes!! Get a dig- they love you 24/7- 110% of the time GAURANTEED!  Till death do u part!! wink

    1. Tonipet profile image78
      Tonipetposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      A lot of us tend to worry about this, but you're right. When you love yourself, nothing else matters. Nice thought, thank you Debbie.

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    zerbini87posted 11 years ago

    I have not read all the answers, so hopefully mine does not echo previous questions.  I have always taken the approach of gently confronting the person to gain their angle.  Maybe I have done something, whether intentionally or not, or perhaps even there is nothing wrong.  Maybe the person just seems to not like you.  Whatever the case, confront them and see what they have too say.  If they say they do not like you, but have no reason, then its their loss not knowing you, and have them be on their merry way.  There are others you can be friends with, those that will honestly care and like you for who you are.

    1. Tonipet profile image78
      Tonipetposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      What a friendly gesture zerbibi. It may take one a lot of energy to make such a move but it's well worth it. If they say they simply don't feel like you then leave them their way. Just make sure you take the merry way, lol. Thank you for stopping.

  17. dmoney4god profile image60
    dmoney4godposted 11 years ago

    There is nothing you can do besides just moving on with your life

    1. Tonipet profile image78
      Tonipetposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you for the nice comment. Really appreciate it.

  18. unknown spy profile image68
    unknown spyposted 11 years ago

    as they say, you can't please everybody.. what i do is i just stay away from that person.it's their choice to dislike you and i dont have the right to say 'like me' when they don't..


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