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What will you do when you come to know that your lover is going to marry with so

  1. anupma profile image80
    anupmaposted 5 years ago

    What will you do when you come to know that your lover is going to marry with someone else?

    One of my friend's lover is going to marry with other girl just after a few of days of their break up.. She is very depressed, can you people suggest me some solution to console her?

  2. GlendaGoodWitch profile image90
    GlendaGoodWitchposted 5 years ago

    I am truly sorry for your friend. Obviously he has been cheating with this other girl for a long time.
    I always give girls advice to have more in their lives than their guy, so that when things happen, they are not totally devastated.
    She should talk to you about what she really wants to do. maybe there is something she was putting off because she was with this guy, like a class, or hobby, and she should use this time to pursue it. She will need to date someone else, but at this time she may not be ready.
    If she is ready, eHarmony, or better yet, she could meet someone while pursuing her own hobbies. Those meet ups become the best relationships.

    1. anupma profile image80
      anupmaposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      This can help her. I said her to engage herself in her favorite works.

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    detroitmareposted 5 years ago

    I actually went through that when I was a bit younger...in my early 20s.  I let it bother me for a very long time and eventually contacted my ex and got to know her and her husband.  That helped, but it surely wouldn't help so soon after.  My best suggestion is to keep her busy, keep her mind off of it.  Easier said than done.  Not letting too much time pass before she seeks out a new relationship is probably a good idea.

    1. anupma profile image80
      anupmaposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Thanx, but she can't concentrate on anything as she use to say. This affair affects her deeply.

  4. dashingscorpio profile image86
    dashingscorpioposted 5 years ago

    I noted you referred to this guy as being your friend's "lover" and not her boyfriend. Is it possible they never discussed being "exclusive" or she made an "assumption" that she was the only one he was seeing? At any rate there is not much for her to do but to accept the reality that she was not "the one" for him. On the other hand he was not "the one" for her either. The whole notion of soul mates is based around two people having (mutual feelings) for one another. Not long ago someone posted a question asking, "What does it mean when your boyfriend says he loves you but is not (in love) with you?" I explained to her it means he cares a lot about her or admires many of her qualities BUT she is NOT "the one". It would not surprise me if her "lover" said something along those lines at one time or another. And on some level she probably did not see herself spending the rest of her life with him.
    Each of us chooses our own friends, lovers, and spouse. When we engage in a game of "sinners & saints" we make ourselves the "victim". This not self-empowering. Only you friend can know in her heart if she thought she was going to marry this man or if she was content with what they had. Our ego has a way of making us feel as though we were in a competition and we lost. The truth is your friend was never going to marry this guy. She wasn't "the one" in his eyes. Just as most of the people we date are not "the one". It's not the end of the world. In the end everything happens for the best!