How do you forgive a person when they just keep treating you the same way over a

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   jencooperposted 12 years ago

   How do you forgive a person when they just keep treating you the same way over and over again?
   
   I think so many of us feel that it is important to forgive to have peace in our lives.  The problem sometimes comes when you think you have forgiven and found peace and then they just treat you the same way over again.  I would love to get some different ideas as to how to handle something like this.

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   algarveviewposted 12 years ago

   I don't think you need to forgive to forget... You just skip to the forget part and pay no more attention to that person, ignore them, if they are not good to you, why should you care about them...

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   dashingscorpioposted 12 years ago

   There is a major difference between forgiving and forgetting. When you forgive someone you don't want to ignore the lesson you learned. If someone is not treating you the way you want to be treated then it is time to take back your power with regard to choice. Remember none of us are "stuck" with anyone! You get to choose who you want to spend your time with! You are entitled to have your own "deal breakers" in life.
   Start by forgiving yourself for putting you in the same position over and over again. You can't change another person. All you can do is control who you are going to spend time with. Thankfully that is enough.

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   yeagerinvestmentsposted 12 years ago

   If possible, remove yourself from their lives until the problem is addressed. I would make it very clear to that person that over and over I have been hurt by your actions and words and can no longer be apart of it. It's not easy at all but I think you will find some kind of peace until a longer range plan is established.

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   Virtuous1posted 12 years ago

   Remember forgiveness heals you and place them in God's hand to deal with. We can't stop people from hurting us even if it's the same person, staying clear from them is not going to work because what you done is place a barrier between you and them than the question becomes have you really forgiven them..If I say I forgive than I don't make excuses for their behavior and neither do I distance myself because what that is doing is showing that you still have ill feelings towards that person so if you keep them out of sight out of mind you don't have to think about them...

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      jencooperposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      So you just forgive them everytime you are around them.  I totally get what you are saying about if you distance yourself, but I hate the emotional toll it takes being around the people who continually hurt you.

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