How do you forgive a person when they just keep treating you the same way over and over again?
I think so many of us feel that it is important to forgive to have peace in our lives. The problem sometimes comes when you think you have forgiven and found peace and then they just treat you the same way over again. I would love to get some different ideas as to how to handle something like this.
I don't think you need to forgive to forget... You just skip to the forget part and pay no more attention to that person, ignore them, if they are not good to you, why should you care about them...
There is a major difference between forgiving and forgetting. When you forgive someone you don't want to ignore the lesson you learned. If someone is not treating you the way you want to be treated then it is time to take back your power with regard to choice. Remember none of us are "stuck" with anyone! You get to choose who you want to spend your time with! You are entitled to have your own "deal breakers" in life.
Start by forgiving yourself for putting you in the same position over and over again. You can't change another person. All you can do is control who you are going to spend time with. Thankfully that is enough.
If possible, remove yourself from their lives until the problem is addressed. I would make it very clear to that person that over and over I have been hurt by your actions and words and can no longer be apart of it. It's not easy at all but I think you will find some kind of peace until a longer range plan is established.
Remember forgiveness heals you and place them in God's hand to deal with. We can't stop people from hurting us even if it's the same person, staying clear from them is not going to work because what you done is place a barrier between you and them than the question becomes have you really forgiven them..If I say I forgive than I don't make excuses for their behavior and neither do I distance myself because what that is doing is showing that you still have ill feelings towards that person so if you keep them out of sight out of mind you don't have to think about them...
by underhiswings8 years ago
Reasons for or against?How many times do you forgive for the same thing?How many times have you been forgiven for the same thing?What kind of proof do you need in order to believe the offender really seeks forgiveness?...
by snagerries7 years ago
Human beings are not perfect anyway, If your friends or workmates doing bad to you, do you forgive him?or you will angry forever or keep inside the heart forever?
by Threekeys23 months ago
Does forgiving mean you are then friendly towards that person or situation
by williearl23 months ago
How do you trust your wife after she lies over and over and blames you for why she constantly lies
by Dora Weithers5 years ago
What burdens you more? Having to forgive someone or wanting someone to forgive you?Or does it not bother you at all?
by Lita C. Malicdem5 years ago
How Do you Forgive?How do you forgive someone who insists that he had not done you wrong when you were in fact hurt by him?
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