What one mistake or regret in your life would you change if you could?

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   Ellana317posted 12 years ago

   What one mistake or regret in your life would you change if you could?
   
   

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   Author Cherylposted 12 years ago

   I really cant say I regret any mistakes because they have all made me a better person.  Sometimes learning from your mistakes is better then regretting them. That old saying "Don't cry because its over, Smile because it happened".  I believe every time we make mistakes it is education to our mind and soul

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   That Grrlposted 12 years ago

   I don't waste much time on regret or looking back. I wouldn't be the person I am right now if I changed anything from the past.

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   sun of zymposted 12 years ago

   ...there are things, mistakes, regrets that I have made, wish I hadn't, but honestly, if I would change them, should I?  If who we are today is the sum total of our past, does that mean I should dwell on those things I cannot change, or should I accept who I am and not live in the past.  If you argue the percentage, all it will alter is a continuing perception?  After I've lived my life, would it matter passed the years of a hundred, "the minutes of a day, or the turn of a bend, or the flower of a seed".  "Should I not be brought to mind the words of faith, even to a troubled heart?  What worth be a slave to wisdom, if wisdom produces not?"  "...a tree without fruit bares nothing of shape,
   but of branches, that soon withere..."

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      Anti-Valentineposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Funny how all the posts here that say "I wouldn't change anything" have been down-voted, because I suppose they didn't meet the expected criteria. It's just someone's opinion...

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   Arlene V. Pomaposted 12 years ago

   I don't have any regrets about my life, but if I could change anything, I would learn (and master) a foreign language.  I have always admired those who are fluent when it comes to communicating in a language other than English.  Or those who have mastered several languages.  To me, that is so impressive.  I have traveled to many places, and I've been to several destinations where all I could do is get by on hand signals and a smile!

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   TJenkins602posted 12 years ago

   Everything. (I've reached a dead end) I can't be one of those who say "I have no regret." My life has taken a turn to the point where all I can do is look back.

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      YvetteParkerposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      TJenkins, when we are down to nothing; God is up to something. Don't lose hope & don't give up. Ask God what it is that He wants you to learn from what's happening. Everthing has purpose. Look up; not back. It's not your ending; but your beginnin

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   prospectboyposted 12 years ago

   This is an interesting question. I'm not real sure if I have any regrets. One thing I wish I would have done was save more money when I was a bit younger. The only good that came from me not doing it then is knowing the importance of it now.

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      Lizam1posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      oh yes - that's one I agree with:-)

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   YvetteParkerposted 12 years ago

   There are many that come to mind; but I choose not to look at them as mistakes or regrets but as lessons and opportunities that have led to personal growth and development that might not have otherwise happened.

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   Brett Winnposted 12 years ago

   There is probably only one thing that I would change, and that is having an abortion when I was twenty. There are not words to tell how it grieves my heart that I deprived an innocent human being of the chance to have a God intended life in this world.

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      CJ Sledgehammerposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Oh, Brett, I am so sorry that you have endured such a thing, but appreciate your honesty and courage in speaking of it. May God heal you from the inside out and grant you peace.

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    olodarkwriterposted 12 years ago

    married a crazy woman, which lead to divorce, foreclosed home, bankruptcy, repossessed car, dropped out of grad school, up to my eyeballs in debt, depressed - thats all

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    mattdigiulioposted 12 years ago

    I had the opportunity to go to a pretty prestigious school essentially on full scholarship. My dad had passed away about a year before I went to the college, so I was still pretty deep in grief. I ended up flunking out of the school after three semesters, due to depression and not being able to take the work seriously. I was just too caught up in baggage to be even a decent student.
    The ending to this story is a happy one. I'll be graduating from another good school (though not as prestigious) with my Bachelors, and with a full ride scholarship. So I'm really fine.
    But I guess what I regret is not having taken time off after my dad died. I wasn't ready to go back to college, and I collided a wonderful chance to get my degree from a well-known school.

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    Boots Iaconoposted 12 years ago

    All of my trials and tribulations have led me to this point.  If not for my regrets, I would not be as careful this time around.
    
    Although I would probably think again and say that I should have started my portfolio and my career as a tattooist earlier than I did...

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    davenmidtownposted 12 years ago

    I would like to be a better person... since I can not change the past, I can focus on the future... so I will be a better person....

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    akirchnerposted 12 years ago

    I never went to meet my father (who I tracked down after years of research).  He left when I was a toddler.  He had mental problems and though I did correspond with him on the phone and by letter, I was afraid to see him face to face because I was afraid of him.  When he died years later, I felt deep regret and I still do just because I think "shoulda/coulda/woulda" but it was too late.  I was afraid to do it alone and my sister didn't want to take a chance and do it so I used that as my 'excuse' among others.  You never get those chances once you miss them though so I'll always wonder - and I'm a wee bit disappointed in me.

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    Lord De Crossposted 12 years ago

    Don't have many regrets to think about. I agree with Arlene Poma, I would try to learn a third language. My experiences at HP have fulfilled so many dreams... enough!Would love to fly to the moon though...we are just 2 decades away and on schedule.

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    krsharp05posted 12 years ago

    My mother was murdered when I was seventeen.  When she left this world, we had unfinished issues that had been festering for nearly 6 months.  If I could go back and right all of the wrongs; say I'm sorry, that's the change I would make.

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    Lizam1posted 12 years ago

    I would have married the wonderful man I met when I was 28.  We were together for three years and then I made a different choice and married someone from the church I attended - really really big mistake and my loss.  However having said all that I have two wonderful children who would not be here if I hadn't so maybe not, it was meant to be.  Live with no regrets nes pa?

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       CJ Sledgehammerposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       We always assume things would have been better had we done x,y, or z, but would they have been? Truth is, it may have been far worse and nothing like you thought it would be.

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    the pink umbrellaposted 12 years ago

    spending waaay to much time in a supressive relationship.

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       the pink umbrellaposted 12 years agoin reply to this

       although in thinking about it, i would never be as strong as i am now if i had not gone through everything that i went through durring my time in that relationship. i am way stronger now because of it.

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    CJ Sledgehammerposted 12 years ago

    If I could have the same children all over again, I would have chosen to marry a woman of noble character and Godly principles.

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    unknown spyposted 12 years ago

    i regret that i did not really showed someone i truly love her..i regret i did not take the time to be with her on her last days. and when she died, she took all my life with her..
    im just too coward to face reality.

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    Ellana317posted 12 years ago

    While I respect the opinions of those who say they have no regrets I am one who has a long list of them...even in my young age.  It is my opinion that admitting you have a regret doesn't make you a pessimistic person, it makes you a realistic person.  So yes, if I could... I woud go back and make myself unavailable to the man who eventually date raped me. I REGRET trusting him.  Be that as it may, I say...look at me now.  I am full of life, love, ambition, and unwavering faith.  I am not defined by my regrets though they served as pivitol moments in my life, I am better because of them.  All that said, there's nothing unhealthy about observing a past mistake just as long as you keep your eyes on the bigger picture...your future.  The past ought to be in your rear view mirror, only to be glanced at from time to time.  It reminds you of where you came from but it doesn't have to be an indication of where you're going.  You determine that...

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