Rather than slam a door or throw things, how can a person physically vent anger

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   Ebonnyposted 10 years ago

   Rather than slam a door or throw things, how can a person physically vent anger in a positive way?
   
   i.e. in a way that gets the frustration or anger out in a physical way that doesn't create a bad atmosphere or cause undue concern to those around you - particularly if they are nothing to do with the source of the frustration or anger.

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   rabiaazizposted 10 years ago

   Well there are positive ways to vent anger and the best way is that if you are sitting at the time of anger , stand up. Similarly, if your are already standing then sit down. Drink plenty of water.

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      Ebonnyposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for sharing - never thought of that.

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   temptor94posted 10 years ago

   One good way to vent your anger and be productive at the same time is to do house cleaning. You can scrub and dust with all your strength and pretend that you are doing it to the subject of your anger Another method I have found useful is to cut vegetables with the largest knife you have. Vent out all the violence on the vegetables, they need to be cut anyways

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      Ebonnyposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Good to use the energy for something practical and useful.  With the vegetables, I might refrain as in my vexed state I might not be as skillful as necessary and end up cutting a finger instead of a carrot LOL.

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   Billie Kelpinposted 10 years ago

   Ebonny, very difficult question.  My first instinct when angry is to slam things. I like rabiaaziz comment because it means changing directions and temptor94's comments because scrubbing is something to do that is close at hand. (I, myself, wouldn't try cutting vegetables with a knife. I don't want to be around anything sharp when I'm angry). For me, the concept of "not crossing the line" practiced when you're NOT angry can help and hopefully kick in when you are angry. There are so many moments in the day that we are successful in not crossing the line when you think about it. Once you cross the line, things change.  If you talk to yourself in non-angry times and keep that sentence in your mind, then when you're angry,  "I'm not going to cross that line" might become automatic. As Johnny Cash sang, "because of you, I walk the line..."  Because of others, we need to walk the line.  Once you cross that line everything worsens.  Staying on the other side creates peace.

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      Ebonnyposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks Billie, I like the notion of noticing when we do not cross the line and resolving to do that all the time.  Makes good sense.

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   Sri Tposted 10 years ago

   Start laughing. Look in a mirror and see how ridiculous anger is. Watch some good comedies and forget whatever happened. Anger is self torture. Laughter is the best medicine. You are always only dealing with your own thoughts and feelings. Everybody else is an illusion, an appearance that disappears. You are really alone with your thoughts. You create your own world. Without you, there is nothing. So love yourself at all times.

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      Ebonnyposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      This is good - maybe look in the mirror and use a previously prepared mantra too.

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   IndependentMindposted 10 years ago

   There is only one activity i can think of that can quell anger instantly.  Take your partner into the bedroom (or what ever room you desire) and enjoy yourself.  Guaranteed to quell anger, and put a smile on your face, as well as your partner.
   If you don't have a partner, my favorite saying has always been - if you want something done right - do it yourself.

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      Ebonnyposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Now this sounds interesting, and  If someone finds this works for them I guess they'll be looking for opportunities to get angry - ha ha

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   Creative Lifeposted 10 years ago

   Anger is a re-action.  Usually, from needs unmet.  It’s perfectly healthy and normal to feel angry when you’ve been mistreated, disrespected or wronged in some way. The feeling isn't the problem—it's what you do with it that makes a difference.  It's a good idea to notice the feelings of stress or agitation in your body beginning to fester. 
   
   Take some deep breaths. To stop a fight from escalating, take some time-out.  You may need to slam the door, but go outside.   A brisk walk around the block is a great idea. It releases energy so you can approach the situation with a calmer frame of mind.

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      Ebonnyposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, we can't eliminate anger so knowing how to recognise and deal with it positively is key.  Thanks for your answer.

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   liesl5858posted 10 years ago

   I think the best way to vent your anger is to go and do some digging in the garden if you have one, or go for a good hour run on the beach or mountains. This will get your body toned and you will have good muscles too.

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      temptor94posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      This is a good one

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      Ebonnyposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Gardening wouldn't work for me personally, but I love the idea of going for a run or exercising.  Thanks for sharing.

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   peeplesposted 10 years ago

   I had a friend in high school who was very artistic. When she got really angry she had sheets that she would hang in her back yard and fire off her paint ball gun at the sheets. The result were very cool sheets and her frustration had been vented.

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      Ebonnyposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Yeah, having a strategy ready before things happen is sensible.

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    Penny Gposted 10 years ago

    I would suggest taking anger management classes. These are taught by people who know things that are tried and true to work. I work in a prison and that is class many of them are required to take.

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