Which is right? One wife or as many as you can support?

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   vveaseyposted 11 years ago

   Which is right? One wife or as many as you can support?
   
   

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   PurvisBobbi44posted 11 years ago

   I am going to answer this without my Bible and all it contains. And just say ---this would not work for me.
   
   Unless, I could have five husbands--three to earn a living---one to do the housework---one to do the shopping and cooking. Now, I would agree to that---one wife---five husbands.
   
   And that is my answer.

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      vveaseyposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      PurvisBobbi44
      Ha ha ha ha ha ha
      Good one!

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      belleartposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I totally agree, the questions are always about men having more wives, not the other way around, why???  When the same question can be asked about women, then I'l answer.

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   peeplesposted 11 years ago

   Which ever one works best for those involved.

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      vveaseyposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Ok

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   MaestroECMcCloudposted 11 years ago

   I personally can't understand why anyone would want more than one at a time. Relationships take work. For some of us they take far more effort than we are willing to exert.

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      vveaseyposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I hear ya! Ha ha ha ha

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   duffsmomposted 11 years ago

   One wife, one husband.  Group dynamics are very complicated and I think it would be very very hard for women not to get territorial.  It just makes no sense except for the guy who has the benefit of multiple wives.

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      vveaseyposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      duffsmom
      I can see your point

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   Fefeeposted 11 years ago

   I don't think there is a 'right' or 'wrong' answer to this question.  Only the parties involved could make this decision based on what they are comfortable with.  I would love to have a couple of 'sister wives' to lighten some of the domestic burden.  I'd also love to have another husband because sometimes the old one can be a little boring.  I think we should be free to love and build a life with whomever we choose-the people who don't like it or don't agree with your personal choices have the option of living the way they choose.  As long as everyone involved understands their role and responsibilities I don't see a problem with this.

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      vveaseyposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Fefee
      Very Interesting and intriguing!

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   tigresosalposted 11 years ago

   thrice I tried to write an answer and then withdrawn. Not that the issue of controversial, I am quite certain that one wife is more than enough. By 'wife' I mean a legal feminine partner. I have not seen many parts of the planet but from the little experience i have about life and society, wife is not someone who needs to be supported. She has her role and the man has his. If some one can afford, he may hire a maid or a help to lessen the household burden. That will make the wife free from some of the monotonous works in the daily chores and she will behave more lovingly. 
   I am a strong supporter of monogamy in my public life. But, if God gives me a chance again to start life afresh (with all the knowledge and experiences I currently have) I would prefer to stay single. Not that I am unhappy with the marriage. My wife is the backbone of my family. But still, I think, a relationship does not need a legal sanction that comes in a package of many vices. Marriage is an encroachment into one's privacy and creativity. It comes with a lot of responsibilities and also chaos. Marriage is a tricky thing. One has to fool himself with the team thing while sacrificing individual interests time and again. Its painful. But it also keeps one motivated towards work. I swear, had I been unmarried, I would have worked for a couple of months and sat idle for the rest of the year. One keeps on working not because of the financial needs alone. Work life gives some privacy and self realisation that one does not get when at home.
   SO, if you are unmarried, do not go for a wife. There is nothing sacred in it. Its problematic and you would realise it the very day after you have signed the papers.
   If you are married to one wife, be loyal to your wife, no matter whether she is loyal to you or not. You are already into something and you have to keep on maintaining it. Divorce is more painful than an unhappy marriage. I have had an opportunity to interact with divorcees from both the sexes. most of them are unhappier than  their married life.
   If you are married to more than one wife or even have relationship with more than one women you are gone. There is no way you can correct your life again.
   
   So, having more than one wife even if you are able to financially support, is very very very dangerous. Never ever think about it. Its a satanic design to doom your life. Try to avoid such dangerous thoughts.
   
   The arguments are valid if one is thinking about having many husbands too.

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      vveaseyposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      tigresosal
      Interesting comment!
      IIt seems that because you couldn't handle more than one wife or because it's hard to handle a one wife situation for you. You assumed that someone else wouldn't be able to do it either. Which is not necessarily true

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      tigresosalposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Its just a suggestion; no comment on others' ability. One may feel free to have as many as he can.  Please forgive me if my answer raised questions on the ability of people to maintain polygamy.  To clarify, I would rather prioritize other things.

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   stclairjackposted 11 years ago

   i'm in league with those who ask the multiple husband question,.... in a perfect world (as defined by those who would bother defining such things) we would all be allowed to build arangements that work for our unique situations,.... i personaly would have 5 or 6 husbands if the world allowed and they were able to share well enough, if for no other reason than i can be a bit to keep up with, ;-)
   
   ones living arangements are no one elses buisness, thats why i would like to see state sanctioned marige abolished,... no more legal perks for a spiritual practice,... domestic contracts in court, mariges in church.

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   daskittlez69posted 11 years ago

   I can't keep up with one wife.   To each their own though.  If you were from a society or religion where everyone had multiple wives then I do not see an issue with it.

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    vashttii1posted 11 years ago

    One wife....  Beside, what if you get into a group disagreement and they all decide to not let you sleep with them.

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