Should I go forward or .... ?

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   bukanposted 15 years ago

   I am a 26 year old boy, and i have a crush on a girl at 16. Truly speaks we both share our own feelings very familiar, but my parents does not like to be friend as we are. She is giving me a respect as a elder brother. She's economic condition was not good, but my family stands in good position from both end economy plus goodwill. 
   
   Please provide me your idea, i need your valuable suggestion.

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      mistywildposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      any self respecting man of 26 should not associate with a 16 year old girl, unless it's a niece or a cousin. it's completely inappropriate. My opinion.

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         bukanposted 15 years agoin reply to this

         hmm Thanks Misty for your suggestion

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      AEvansposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      Although you are 26 and she is 16 she still has to mature, grow and experience life. Give her about 6 years and then re-calculate your thoughts, for now go out and find someone your age and if the feelings are mutual when she becomes an adult then re-weigh the situation. Right now she does not have any idea how a relationship works and for her you are more of a father figure and not someone she can relate to.

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         bukanposted 15 years agoin reply to this

         I appreciate your comments, Thanks for your suggestion!

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      pylos26posted 15 years agoin reply to this

      I was going to suggest that you could avoid prison by marrying her but that would be risky, as she is your sister.

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   Lisa HWposted 15 years ago

   bukan, this may just be because I live in American culture; but there's a pretty big age difference.  Being friends with someone of any age is fine, but having a crush on a girl that young wouldn't be seen as "all that great" by a lot of people.  She may see you as an elder brother and not even see you as a potential boyfriend.  She's not finished growing up yet.  You are.  Five or ten years from now the age difference wouldn't be such a big problem.  For now, a lot of people would probably think it would be. 

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      bukanposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      hmm Lisa Thanks thats why i share this post with all of you.

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      mistywildposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      sound advise

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   fishtiger58posted 15 years ago

   Can you say jail bait. Better leave that one alone till she is 18.

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      bukanposted 15 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for your suggestion

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   Colebabieposted 15 years ago

   I would pass. I know you want to be her knight in shining armor, but its just not good timing. It isn't the age difference thats a big deal. It is just the place in your lives that you are.

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   elayne001posted 15 years ago

   She is too young. Don't put yourself in compromising situations. It is too risky for her and you.

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