If You Have Betrayed Someone's Trust How Do You Regain That Trust?

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   PhoenixVposted 12 years ago

   If You Have Betrayed Someone's Trust How Do You Regain That Trust?
   
   If You Have Betrayed Someone's Trust How Do You Regain That Trust?

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   zenna53posted 12 years ago

   I think this really depends on what you did to betray that trust. If you lied to a person about something and they found out later, then it's time to tell them why you lied about it in the first place.  Perhaps, it was to prevent negative feedfack if they are controlling, or perhaps it was to prevent a misunderstanding at the time.  However, if it is a matter of infidelity then it is totally in the other person's hands whether they wish to allow themselves to trust again.  That kind of betrayal is heart-breaking, and there is no excuse that can be given that makes any sense.  If you truly love the other person, then one would not consider allowing something like this to occur under any condition, nor would it cross the mind.

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   vashttii1posted 12 years ago

   Regaining trust is a 2 person job. In other words, if you are still together then you were forgiven, but the pain is still present. So as it gets brought back up in the begining, as it will, you have to reasure the person you will never betray them again. But not forever! The one who forgives will need to eventully put the past behind them sense they choose to keep the one who made the mistake in their life. Staying together means we are going to get through this together. And be patient, because the pain really does hurt!

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   AlexanderPposted 12 years ago

   By rebuilding it. The more was done, more it'll have to be proven, with words and actions, that they can trust again. Forgiveness is automatic, leaving the door open to reconciliation and restoration of relationship. But,trust is regained, as they are not obligated to put themselves at risk again.
   
   Also, trying to force things won't work if they need their space and may only make things worse. I tried, and it only made things worse. I think it should be made known that there is acknowledgement of the mistake, regret over it and a willingness to do what is needed to correct it and restore the relationship. But they have the reins.

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   stricktlydatingposted 12 years ago

   The first step towards regaining their trust is to opoligise.  A heart-felt spoken apology, not via text or email.  Admit your error and tell the person you are aware of how you've betrayed your trust, and how sorry you are and tell them that you want to do all you can to regain their trust.

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