If you could marry rich and be set for life, or for love and work until you die,

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  1. Charlu profile image79
    Charluposted 11 years ago

    If you could marry rich and be set for life, or for love and work until you die, which would it be?

    This one is for men and women since cougars have become so popular. Knowing the statistics on love and marriage and taking a chance, or being set for life even if it didn't work with a prenup, which would it be?


  2. momster profile image60
    momsterposted 11 years ago

    Love and Work. I love to work. I have even worked jobs where the pay was not the greatest, but I loved the job. Working is liking having a social network and learning new things from meeting people. Working challenges a person. If you have something to work for then it is worth it. If you can afford to have what ever you want, where is the challenge in life?
    Having love is very important in a relationship. It fills a void and makes life more meaningful. Being in a relationship for just money, will not fill the emptiness of being lonely and distant from someone you should be sharing your life with and making great memories.

    1. Charlu profile image79
      Charluposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      What a great perspective on work and challenges.  Your answer has inspired me to get to work on something.  Thank you  Your probably right about the true love in a relationship, but I just haven't found myself there yet.

  3. lburmaster profile image74
    lburmasterposted 11 years ago

    I've already decided on marrying for love and working until I die. Marrying for rich would be extremely boring. Yes, you get nice things, but what did you do to earn it? Deal with an old guy? That's like talking to your grandfather for money from my perspective. I can make my own money and enjoy living at the same time, without an elderly husband.

    1. Charlu profile image79
      Charluposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I'm so glad you married for love and found true happiness, but I didn't say he had to be old or even bad looking for that matter, just filthy rich. 
      So far it's appears to be a unanimous "true love" vote, but we shall see. Thanks

  4. profile image0
    JThomp42posted 11 years ago

    Great question Charlu. For me it would definitely be Love. As long as I have the necessities in life, I'm fine with just that. You can't put a price on true love.

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      aimerposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      That is so true! No amount of money could take its place.

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      JThomp42posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      No it certainly can't aimer.

  5. ftclick profile image55
    ftclickposted 11 years ago

    love and work for me too. It is the best feeling in the world vs being set for life. I wish your question could reach one group of geographic people and then reach the others separately.

  6. kallini2010 profile image83
    kallini2010posted 11 years ago

    Let me know where I can find the best pool of available men for marrying them for money and let me know where I can find the pool of men that are suitable for my True Love.

    Being 42, I think I know the value of both - I had a marriage, financial security (even though I did not marry for money, but I stayed for so long for the financial benefits).  You can throw all the stones you have at me, but ask yourselves how many people settle?  A lot.  Many even without realizing that they never tried to find the alternative.

    Money is just like sex, money alone (or sex alone) never provide a stable foundation for a relationship.  These relationships are not sustainable by definition.

    So, away with the financial stability.  Did I find the True Love?  I did not.  Did I look?  Not hard enough.  But on the other hand, I am trying to build my life around other values.

    If I can find peace within myself, money will follow.  Love?  You tell me.

    1. Charlu profile image79
      Charluposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Great answer and you are so right about people settling and so often lust is mistaken for true love.  Thanks

  7. IDONO profile image60
    IDONOposted 11 years ago

    Are you kidding me? Most of these answers are such a crock in this day and age. Are you hoping that some rich person will see these answers, contact you and become your mate because they think you are genuine and want nothing more than their smiling face? I can hear them now saying,"Yeah! Right!"
         Marry rich, set for life sounds good. You just have to marry someone much older than you. Then you can have it all when they kick the bucket. Then you will have more time to look for true love because you won't have to work. And to the cougars out there, if it wasn't for you, young men wouldn't seem so smart.
          Now I'm hoping you all have a sense of humor.

    1. Charlu profile image79
      Charluposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      LMAO   You are just to funny and a definite tell it like you see it.

    2. IDONO profile image60
      IDONOposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Isn't it funny how stating reality sticks out? I have 2 choices. I can tell it like I see it, or I can blow smoke up your butt. I answer ? honestly. Right or wrong, I keep it real. "Best Answer" doesn't always feel good.

  8. Alecia Murphy profile image72
    Alecia Murphyposted 11 years ago

    I feel like life is too short to focus on achievement alone. To me, love is the most important thing two people can share. Sure it would be nice to be set financially but I'd rather work and have a purpose knowing someone's there to catch me should something go awry instead of having someone sign checks over to me.

  9. Marpi profile image56
    Marpiposted 11 years ago

    Marry for love definitely! Money can make your life much easier, but it really can't buy you love. And I love working too...

  10. moonfairy profile image76
    moonfairyposted 11 years ago

    this is an interesting question. Many years ago I was with someone who had a lot of money.Life was easy. We traveled and had a good time, but I wasn't in love with him. One day I decided that love was more important than money and I left the relationship.Soon thereafter, I met someone and fell in love. I did not think about the money aspect of our relationship...I focused on how I felt and married him. We are both self employed and we work our butts off....and we are always "just getting by". Don't get me wrong, we have a home and we eat well, but we barely afford one vacation a year( and sometimes we can't afford one) and in the winter when the heating bills come in, it gets really, really tough. living day to day is not fun.
    I would never again choose love over money, but I would never choose money over love either....it has to be both. Financial security is a blessing, just as love is.

    1. Charlu profile image79
      Charluposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Very interesting point for both sides hmmmmm Thank you for sharing your personal experiences it definitely makes you think.

  11. freecampingaussie profile image62
    freecampingaussieposted 11 years ago

    I am married to the man I love and I would rather be married to him and work than married to a rich guy . If he came into money that would be great otherwise we will keep saving for our trip to Europe next year !
    I have met people who have a lot of money and they dont seem to like using it so sometimes him having money doesnt mean you are going to get to spend it ....
    Often they become possesive toward a female as they are towards money . I think it would be a lonely life without the love of a good man especialy on cold winter nights when its great having the one you love in bed next to you !

    1. Charlu profile image79
      Charluposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Sometimes penny pinching is the way they got their money and another good point

  12. alphagirl profile image70
    alphagirlposted 11 years ago

    I think there is a price one pays for sacrificing either or. Too much of anything is never going to be good. Not enough is just as awful. I think you have to have a balance. I think it depends also on your age and where you are in life. What are your needs? Some need to have more monetary security so that works, just as some need to have love and lots of it to feel right. I think it is easier to live, when you have money and do not need to worry about about food, shelter etc. Some say you marry for love the first time and marry for money the second time.

  13. soconfident profile image72
    soconfidentposted 11 years ago

    I would marry for love and work for life. As long as I have someone share me life with then I would consider myself rich.

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    Garifaliaposted 11 years ago

    First of all I'd like to say that I sooooooooooooo HATE!!!! that term 'cougars'; perhaps I hate it even more than the desperate women who become that. That doesn't mean that I approve of shrivelled discusting old morons going for their grandchildren either. Anyway, back to the question. If the rich man attracted me to the point that I could live with him, heck yea. Wouldn't I be pretty stupid to pass up such an opportunity?
    But dear friends, the rich aren't sutpid. Rarely do you find such a situation. So being part of the lower-middle class, it is only natural that I fell in love with my own kind and nowadays we're counting our pennies and praying that we do not lose our jobs as over a million Greeks already have.

    1. IDONO profile image60
      IDONOposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      . If you asked this same ? to those million Greek people, what do you think would be their answer? Daaah!  Let's be fair. Cougar or golddigger? Your only 2 choices. Glad I'm a guy. Although, dirty old man or gigilo? We are all screwed.

    2. kallini2010 profile image83
      kallini2010posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      There always choices - being screwed badly or being screwed well.  Without your consent nobody can make you do or be anything - you don't want to be a cougar, a gold-digger, an old disgusting roue, a gigolo?  Well, don't be.

    3. Charlu profile image79
      Charluposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Why is a cougar such a bad thing if it is two consensual adults who make each other happy then why are we so quick to judge?  I am over 55 and do more from 3 to 7am than 4 or 5 men my same age put together. So if I want to date younger then why not?

    4. kallini2010 profile image83
      kallini2010posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Maybe the disapproval comes not for or from the age difference, but for being in the relationship for the wrong reason.  It is the commercial aspect that is despised.  Being a wealthy woman who made it past forty is not a crime.  Nor is dating.

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      Garifaliaposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I believe that a fact is that some extremely poor people (esp. male) would opt for a rich union whether the spouse to be were old or unsightly. But this not a norm nor that common. Folk tend to listen to their hearts rather than the math.

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    aimerposted 11 years ago

    I have married for love not money.  I wouldn't have it any other way.  There's nothing wrong with being rich, but wealth cannot provide joy.  I've found that real joy comes from knowing Jesus as my Savior.  Besides, you can marry for love and then both can work hard together to achieve wealth, then you would have both!  After all this is America and we all have the opportunity to work hard to achieve our goals!  Thanks for the thought provoking question.

  16. Monique Graham profile image61
    Monique Grahamposted 11 years ago

    I’d have to go with Love!  As that old saying goes “money can’t buy you love”… 

    Alright, let’s say one does marry into money, buys all the things he/she could ever imagine and have loads of money in the bank.  Now what???  The way I see it, what’s the sense of having all of the things you’ve ever wanted, yet not have someone you love to share them with?  I’m sure in the beginning everything would seem all good, but that would get old FAST.

    I’d rather marry someone I truly love and go through the ups and downs of life together with that person.  Even if that means working until I am old and gray.  At least each night when it’s time for bed, I could turn over and see the man I love and realize all the struggles, sweat and tears are all worth it because we are together.

  17. teaches12345 profile image80
    teaches12345posted 11 years ago

    I married for love, but am still richly rewarded!  I feel sorry for those who marry for riches, it is so artificial and not a good foundation for any marriage.


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