How do you help friends and family when a loved one has died?

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   Kimberly Vaughnposted 12 years ago

   How do you help friends and family when a loved one has died?

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   lburmasterposted 12 years ago

   I normally go over to their house to deliver a meal and, if it is family, I clean their house a bit and spend more time with them. We usually go through boxes belonging to the dead family member.

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      Kimberly Vaughnposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I was thinking of making some meals for them. Thanks Iburmaster!

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   innerspinposted 12 years ago

   People grieve in different ways. There may be an overall "pattern" but there's no right or wrong way to feel. Accepting how a bereaved person feels, and needs to behave, is helpful. Some want to talk and have company, some need space to be alone. A person may want to keep busy, or be incapable of doing anything. You can support them by showing you care in whatever way seems appropriate.

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      Kimberly Vaughnposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Very insightful innerspin. Thanks for sharing.

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   connorjposted 12 years ago

   
   
   I share my comatose experience with them; it always assists them and reduces "the blow" somewhat...
   http://connorj.hubpages.com/hub/A-Near- … oof-of-Him

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   mariasialposted 12 years ago

   i use to visit them, sit with them, try to cheer them. I also offer prayer for one who left us alone.

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   lostdogrwdposted 12 years ago

   you can't for you will never be a replacement for a lost. the best you can do is be there to assist on what ever there need and understanding what they going though and if you never had a lost you can't understand that.

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   JThomp42posted 12 years ago

   Unfortunately, there is nothing that can be done to ease the pain. Just be with them for their comfort. Listen if they want to talk, hold them if they want to be held, speak if they want to be spoken to, pray with them if they want to pray, let them grieve and please tell them to grieve in their own way , it's okay to grieve. It is essential in healing along the way. Just be there.

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      Kimberly Vaughnposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you JThomp. That is a great suggestion.

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      JThomp42posted 12 years agoin reply to this

      You are very welcome Kimberly.

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   Beata Stasakposted 12 years ago

   Offer them your time, that may be spent in silence
   offer them your patience
   to fill their suddenly empty space with your presence
   offer them some comfort food
   you prepared
   lovingly
   just for them
   we all need to eat
   even in the time of great sadness
   sitting there
   by their side
   and sharing the food of love
   is sometimes only thing you can do
   for a while.....

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