Does action really speak louder than words?

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   bituinolayquizanoposted 12 years ago

   Does action really speak louder than words?
   
   Then why is it that in a relationship you always have to explain everything when your actions already show what you really want.

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   IDONOposted 12 years ago

   Sure. That's where a number of sayings come from. "Walk the Talk"   "Practice what we preach"   Actions are your true self.  Talk is cheap.  Remember the saying," Character is what you do when no one is looking." That pretty well sums it up.   The best proof of this are political speeches. They do't effect you except to gain your vote. But their actions, usually different from speech, effects you daily.

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      bituinolayquizanoposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks for the answer idono you are absolutly right specially with your comment about politicians.

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      lupineposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, the man in a new relationship does act like a politician at times... paints a lovely picture, makes promises, assures you he is the right guy, buys you gifts, etc. Once he wins you over...forgets most of it. Actions are stronger than words.

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   lupineposted 12 years ago

   You, or someone, may be demonstrating your actions in a relationship to another, and they don't pick-up on it. I could be for different reasons: the person may be inexperienced  in understanding others, don't know how to respond, may not be serious out the relatlionship, are too embarrassed/shy to return the desired need or action. Some people are not raised to show their feelings, so you have to come right out and ask or tell them what you want. Some don't like to be told what to do, only like to receive. It really depends what you are referring to.

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      bituinolayquizanoposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks lupine...you are true but sometimes man already know what you want and still ask you "what do you want me to do?"...and later on tell you they are not a fortune teller to know what you've been thinking.

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      lupineposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, that's the thing about some men, you tell them over and over, they still don't get it...in one ear...out the other. They think you are nagging if you tell them too much. I think it's because they don't want to "get it".

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   CrescentSkiesposted 12 years ago

   For some reason or another it's almost always the female having to explain everything, at least as far as I've seen. The reason behind that is because no male can ever claim to understand what their significant other is thinking more than half the time (because down that path lay the madness).

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      bituinolayquizanoposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      You are so right crescentskies they clain they dont understand woman which seems to be very impossible because just by looking at their actions you already know exactly what they want.

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      lupineposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      As women, we are more comprehensive as to what a man wants and needs...so we try to make them happy. Most men don't fully consider the wants and needs of women...they think differently, act like they don't know.

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   bituinolayquizanoposted 12 years ago

   Sorry Oceanview i've deleted your comment by mistake i was about to press comment and i press the wrong delete comment box so sorry.I'm new here so i'm kind a excited replying with answers.

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   edhanposted 12 years ago

   Well, it depends on your action. Sometimes, your action can be mistaken for something else when it is being interpreted. So, unless you are totally clear of what you want to show or else your message maybe the reversed effect.

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      bituinolayquizanoposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you to your answe edhan you have a point too as there are people who actually needed to be informed verbally to make a better communication.

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   pstraubie48posted 12 years ago

   In my mind, in my life, and the lives of those I know and love my answer is yes, actions do speak louder than words.
   I understand the additional question you have attached to the broader question...why, then, must we explain things in a relationship?
   
   I do not think that actions speaking louder than words means we do not need to explain. I just think it means, after we explain, we need to walk the walk. If you explain something about why you do this or that or why you do not do this or that, then living out what you have explained should follow.
   If you explain that you flirt at a party because it is fun and means nothing and your loved one is the 'end all' for you.then you "best" show it when you are out.
   If you say you "love me so much", then show it by acting like it---help without asking, show interest in what I do, and so and so forth.
   I am a single woman these days but I was blessed to have a man in my life years after my divorce who did those things..he talked the talk and walked the walk. I was blessed.   

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      bituinolayquizanoposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      thank you so much thats a great explanation.

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   khmohsinposted 12 years ago

   Well what do you think? If someone keeps saying "I love you" but then beats you to a bloody pulp regularly, which do you believe? If someone says "I'll always love you" in the morning just before going off to see his mistress, what do you believe? People have to walk the talk; if their actions are in-congruent with their words, then they are dishonest at best and some other things at worst.

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      bituinolayquizanoposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      your absolutely right we should always be aware of that.

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