What is your reaction when people are rude or disrespectful towards you or other

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   Anti-Valentineposted 12 years ago

   What is your reaction when people are rude or disrespectful towards you or others?
   
   Seemingly not a day goes by that I don't encounter utter, blatant disrespect. For example, what goes through the mind of some pig who thinks it's okay to have a sudden verbal outburst in a restaurant and openly criticise another patron who happens to be walking past, for all to hear?
   
   I think a lot of us are too polite to actually do anything about it. I have glared at people. Sometimes I've coupled glaring with stopping dead in my tracks. I've confronted people, only for them to play dumb and act as though they don't know what I'm talking about, making me look mad.

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   lburmasterposted 12 years ago

   That depends on who the disrespect is coming from. First, I usually just suggest being more respectful, commenting that I do not appreciate it. If they continue, then I will have a one on one conversation with them, normally heated. It's best for there not to be any witnesses. If it is just someone randomly walking by muttering rude comments, I scoff and laugh at them. They are obviously cold and bitter. Their life is probably miserable without valuing others. Seems like an empty life. It's just their way of lashing back at the world for their own attitude. You are better than that, so don't go down to their level.

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      Anti-Valentineposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, they're just sad little people with nothing better to do than bring other people down. It's the random mutterers that get me. I mean, they don't know the person they're insulting at all. A case of judging a book by its cover, perhaps.

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      Billie Kelpinposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Ibru, very cute - I feel terrible (sort of) because I just hung up on a person from the property management of our Home Owners Assoc.  I asked about the landscaping project. "I don't know what you're talking about" she said like I was an idiot. UGH!

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      lburmasterposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      Anti, that's why they are so nice to laugh at. Can't they think outside the box? Billie, I'm sorry you have to deal with the Home Owners Assoc. Always frustrating and difficult...

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   samaziposted 12 years ago

   Personally I feel the best way forward is to forgive them and move on with your life.Two wrongs does not make a right.

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   Ericdierkerposted 12 years ago

   Who speaks for those weak enough to be harmed by disrespect? They do not have a voice because of prisons inside. Claiming Love, Peace and Harmony in the face of intolerance and abuse is merely a justification for not getting involved.
   
   I work now on a case with a 289 lb woman claiming that 80 lb Vietnamese nail ladies threatened her. And that they discriminated based on race. Now she hires a lawyer to further disrespect and threaten the little ladies. Disrespect has got to stop.  In our society it has become the historically downtrodden people, whose great ancestors were disrespected, that think they can disrespect all of us. Historical multi generational disrespect for themselves and the society that provides for them.
   Every one deserves respect accept those who do not give it.

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      Anti-Valentineposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      I think the problem is that especially the younger generations go around saying that respect has to be earned -- that it isn't given. Fair enough, but that does not give one the right to go around disrespecting people.

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      Ericdierkerposted 12 years agoin reply to this

      From experience I know the schools teach the opposite. "Every one needs to be respected." This causes disruption in a home setting because this notion of respect requires that everyone be equal. And if a dad is equal to a son we begin to have problem

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   howtobeasuccessposted 12 years ago

   My reaction depends much on the people who are rude to me. If i don't know them, or i know less about them, i tend to simply disregard them. Being angry would surely be a first impression, but i don't usually burst out with anger. I just keep silent and disregard them and also avoid them as much as possible. But, when i experience rude treatment from people i know, it really breaks my heart. I don't usually get angry, i get just get sad.

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   rotaryseven777posted 12 years ago

   Today as I was working out on two different machines, a much bigger dude just kind of walked in and grabbed one of the machines without even asking if I was done, I had been moving back and forth very quickly between the two of them and was trying to finish a third set...so instead of getting mad, I went next to him and did the most toughest looking excercise I could think of...Upside down push ups against the wall and did one of the toughest yoga moves that I have been working on, just to show off my two strongest forms.  After that I went over to him and politely asked to do one more set, I think he got the message that he interrupted me.  I don't usually like to show off, I have always believed in hiding how really strong you are. 
   I once read a story about  a prisoner in a super max lock up and he was just like me, he worked out like a madman in his own room, but when he went outside for his hour of outside excercise, he just stood there and watched the other prisoners, he did'nt want anyone to know his capabilities!!!

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