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I think fiance should pay bride price to his wife

  1. tuteramanda profile image59
    tuteramandaposted 4 years ago

    I think fiance should  pay bride price to his wife

    such as your bank savings, and buy a house or apartment for her, a good husband should give his wife hapiness,you can not birth a baby ,so you are supposed to pay more ,if you dont have enough money ,you can ask your parent to sponsor you

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    ViolinByCourtneyposted 4 years ago

    I understand some cultures do this, and as a woman I appreciate this idea that the bride is something of value. In Western culture, especially here in the US, such a proposal would be insulting because it is presumed the woman is ONLY worth what you pay, which cheapens her rather than ascribing value to her.

    Some of my ancestors were Aniyunwiya, and in that culture there is a price that must be paid for both the bride and the groom, not in money but in symbols. The groom presents meat because traditionally he was the hunter and provider. The woman presents vegetables, usually corn, because she was traditionally the nurturer, both of the garden and the family. Both items served to symbolize a promise that the couple would care for each other in their designated roles as husband and wife.

    I believe it is important for spouses to value and respect each other and to demonstrate that in some way. However, I believe it should be done within the context of the culture, and the bride prices or other exchanges don't always make sense and can be misunderstood in some parts of the world.

    1. tuteramanda profile image59
      tuteramandaposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      IN CHINA woman ALSO SAID THAT  is NOT   worth what you pay,so,beside,you fiance should proving more after marriage such as do all the housework and be the breadwinner,it is very unlucky be a man here,house work, bride price,breadwinner all your work

  3. duffsmom profile image58
    duffsmomposted 4 years ago

    As an American that is hard to answer.  We don't have those customs here. In American we choose our spouse and approach marriage as equals.

    Each partner should treat the other as a treasure, always loving, respectful and loyal.