Do you think you should live with someone before marriage?

Jump to Last Post 1-4 of 4 discussions (4 posts)
  1. ChelsJEllison profile image60
    ChelsJEllisonposted 11 years ago

    Do you think you should live with someone before marriage?

  2. profile image0
    lisasuniquevoiceposted 11 years ago

    Yes I do. Think of all of the things you do yourself that someone else may do too. Some of those things you might not be able to live with. Find out as much as you can as early as possible.

  3. Seek-n-Find profile image70
    Seek-n-Findposted 11 years ago

    Somebody else just asked this in this rare case...I am going to copy and paste my answer.  :-)

    I'm probably in the minority here--but I'd say it's good for couple not to live together before marriage. Living together presents a whole bunch of challenges.

    People who are married (I think!) are more likely to stay together and make it work then people who are dating and just "trying it out." Commitment is a key foundational element for any relationship to be truly successful. Living together to "see if it works" creates a mindset from the very start that says, "If I don't like this, I'm out." There will be many times when you are highly annoyed and even don't like your significant other--especially when married. But conflict has a positive purpose if handled in a way that makes each other better and breeds intimacy, bringing you even closer if you can work through it.

    Living together before marriage, I think, sets the couple up to fail in many areas. They may bail out when the going gets rough, as I mentioned above. Or, they may think "this is what it will be like to be married to this person" and then be in for a surprise when they get married because even living with somebody doesn't show you what its like to be married to somebody. The act of being married changes something in the relationship.

    Then of course there are all the details of "if it doesn't work out" its much harder to deal with a break up if you are living with the person! Some people who should break up don't because its too inconvenient or difficult because you are now living with the person.

    These are some of the reasons for my answer! Good question.

  4. brianrock profile image84
    brianrockposted 11 years ago

    I moved in with my wife when we got engaged. So we were in a long term, committed relationship, but we were not married. The fact that we weren't married didn't bother me, her, or our parents.

    However, I do think it's a poor idea to move in with someone (a person with whom you're romantically involved, that is) if you haven't dated for a while and you aren't in a long term, committed relationship. This can add undue stress to a young relationship, and it can cause premature break-ups. That then creates additional problems because one of the two people will have to find a new place to live.


This website uses cookies

As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at:

Show Details
HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the or domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)
ClickscoThis is a data management platform studying reader behavior (Privacy Policy)