|HubPages Device ID||This is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.|
|Login||This is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.|
|HubPages Traffic Pixel||This is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.|
|Remarketing Pixels||We may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.|
|Conversion Tracking Pixels||We may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.|
Is there a difference between someone being "marriage minded" and someone who wants to marry you?
Very often you see online dating profiles (usually women), which proclaim they are (looking) for someone who is "ready to settle down" or is "marriage minded". Is finding someone who wants to get married (period) just as rewarding as dating someone who suddenly realizes (you) are "the one"?
As someone who is not involved in dating at all (married for almost 30 years), I'm writing from an outside perspective. But maybe that can help.
For the "marriage minded" or "looking to settle down," picture a questionnaire that is given to the other person before they meet you. It asks (to put it crudely): Are you looking for one-night stands? Short relationships? Long romances? Or marriage-minded, that is, lifelong, maybe with kids? The answer reveals the person's state of mind before he meets you.
For example, 33 years ago, before I met my wife, I was looking for a steady relationship, and maybe, eventually, marriage. I met my wife, and realized she was "the one," and my answer changed. Because of how I felt about her, I wanted to get married.
Now, after the person meets you (I mean one second after seeing you or hearing your voice), that whole survey may be meaningless. Perhaps, one look at you, and they're in love. And yes, that is a whole different experience.
So yes, what we think we want (rationally) before we meet, and what happens when we meet, those two create totally different experiences. On the flip side, if you are marriage-minded and meet through a dating service someone else who is marriage-minded, you may not click at all. That's a totally different experience than being with someone who feels, "You're the one!"
Great analysis. I believe the desire to marry should be driven by your (feelings for your mate) and not some arbitrary (time) one has determined. Statistically 80% of men and 87% of women eventually get married. Some do so multiple times! LOL!
What would you say to a friend, of mine, a woman, who felt it was her destiny to be married and have two children, but could not find a suitable man? She was driven by her feelings, but not by her feelings for a particular man.
SidKemp, Your friend believes in "destiny". Destiny means something is ordained to happen without much effort on our part. The law of attraction at work. I don't believe it replaces the law of action. :-) Not many of us live the life we imagined.
Dashing I wasn't clear. Destiny for her & me is inner guidance with passion to do a certain thing. What does a woman who feels called to, & passionate about, marrying & having two children do if she has no passionate feelings towards a go
Passion is a strong desire. Your friend may have to accept she may not get what she wants or it will not happen as she dreamed it would. She may marry a man who has two children or marries when older and adopts two children. Faith ignores (how).
Thanks, Dashing Scorpio: It happened - not as she believed it would. But this illustrates a point above, that marriage involves multiple passions, often conflicting ones.
Here is my take on this., I think if someone is marriage minded, or open to marry, it just means they may be in a place to be open enough to commit to the right one. The right one, could mean many things to an individual.
I think if you find you are drawn to the person for all the good reasons, and you are marriage minded. it is time to ask about the person.
If you know, you know. if one of you is not on board, then it is time to move on. It could be that they want marriage , but just not to you.
by dashingscorpio4 years ago
When dating do you believe there is real difference between being shallow and having preferences?If a man refuses to date women who are overweight and a woman refuses to date men who are shorter than her would you...
by loveofnight6 months ago
What is the difference between a laptop, iPad, Notebook and Tablet or are they all the same?At face value they appear to be the same, just in different packaging.
by dashingscorpio3 years ago
Do you distinguish a difference between your "deal breakers" and "red flags" when dating?If you observe something you consider to be a "red flag" or potential problem in a relationship is...
by lovelife086 years ago
Assuming we're talking about a younger couple, what would you think of a person's decision to start dating again only one or two months after their spouse dies as a result of illness, car accident, etc?
by securityproducts321 months ago
Is there a difference between an opinion and an informed stance on a subject?
by Elena24 months ago
What is the difference between "I Love You" and "I am in Love with You?"Do they mean different things to you? Do you use them in different ways?
Copyright © 2018 HubPages Inc. and respective owners.
Other product and company names shown may be trademarks of their respective owners.
HubPages® is a registered Service Mark of HubPages, Inc.
HubPages and Hubbers (authors) may earn revenue on this page based on affiliate relationships and advertisements with partners including Amazon, Google, and others.