Is There A Difference Between Dating And Courting

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   Singlesstreetlifeposted 14 years ago

   I am interested in finding out how people view dating and courting. Is there are difference or is just semantics?

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      Himitsu Shugishaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, in my opinion, there is a difference. Courting typically is a man who has a sincere interest in a woman who he one day intends to marry. Whereas dating could be just two people "hanging out" with one or both parties not necessarily interested in taking it further than just a date.

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      Cagsilposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I'll be glad to let you know- Yes, there is a difference. Hence, meaning of the relationship. That's it.

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      L. Andrew Marrposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Courting can be unofficial or unromantic. You can court a friend. Dating is official and romantic.
      
      That's my opinion atleast.

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      Lita C. Malicdemposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      "Dating" to me means "going out to know you better" and "courting" means "I'll be seeing you home to get to know your family- parents, brothers, sisters- better". And eventually, it might mean, "I'm planning to make a proposal".
      
      Semantics, yes- hope you get my contextual meaning? Thanks.

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         Singlesstreetlifeposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         
         
         Thanks.At the end of the day I believe it is important for the couple entering into a relationship to know/discuss exactly how they see a relationship.  The clearer you are from the onset the better it avoids confusion and misunderstandings in the long run.

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      prosmentorposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      Dating has to do with initial stage of trying to see if you can settle down or marry this particular person. Courting is the stage before marriage. It comes after 2 people have aggried to marry.

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   rebekahELLEposted 14 years ago

   I agree. courting is the man doing things to attract and 'woo' the woman. it's more romantic and much less prevelent in the american culture.
   
   dating is more a social engagement, a movie, dinner, etc. dating is more casual and can turn more serious.

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      Himitsu Shugishaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I know!! Doesn't courting seem like something our parents did, but is out of style nowadays. It's actually kind of sad.

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         baltazardomagasposted 14 years agoin reply to this

         Yup it's kind a sad... But, if you can incorporate courting while dating, dating could be the most romantic time to both of the gentleman and the lady.

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   rebekahELLEposted 14 years ago

   it is sad. it has to be taught. now people are so casual, it's hardly even a date. it's, hey, ya wanna go out friday?
   
   I had to teach my two sons... flowers, meet the woman's parents, opening doors. it was more me asking, 'are you going to..." I didnt sit down and teach them. but that is how it used to be done.
   the father would teach his sons.
   
   how are they going to know unless they're taught?

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      Himitsu Shugishaposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I couldn't agree more. It has to be instilled in young men to be gentlemen, and young women have to be taught to be appreciative of the gesture.

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      Singlesstreetlifeposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      I agree. I know it is old fashioned to court but it is great to be able to teach the values of love and respect.  The question is where are the teachers?

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   Chouji-Von-Lycanposted 14 years ago

   It was iteresting reading all those points, i always thought courting is what lead up to dating that lead up to marriage, but i think i may have got it the wrong way around.
   
   I thought the courting is when you find some one you like and you arange to go on a couple of dates to see if you both wanting to commit into the whole dating phase.
   
   I have been enlightened

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   Sa Toyaposted 14 years ago

   I think dating is like 'seeing' someone you're not officially an item yet but are meeting up and getting to know each other hopefully with the intention to get serious. It is that period you figure out if you want more with that person.
   Also there are things known as group dates which is just friends hanging out or even speed dates- quickly getting to know someone
   
   Courting I think it more the relationship end. It's for real as in you plan on being with that person on a serious level- the woo stage or antics of wooing are more elaborate than a date.
   
   Times have changed everything's all about being causal, friendships,sex,relationships,dates. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with being causal but I'm at that age where I'm more serous. STRANGE THOUGH I'm only 22 and feel that way- I want to have fun but not always be casual.
   
   I do not really use the word courting anyways I'm more of a seeing/dating or full on relationship classification type of gal.

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      Singlesstreetlifeposted 14 years agoin reply to this

      The terminology I believe does not matter but the values and principles behind why you are entering into a relationship with someone should matter.  You should know why you are entering into a relationship with someone.

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   Singlesstreetlifeposted 14 years ago

   Would it not just be so wonderful if we could just be open and transparent in our relationships so we can free ourselves of jumping to conclusions about the status of our relationships with one another.
   
   I have had to counsel so many ladies who are not sure whether they are even dating or courting because they have not asked for clarity and neither have they been given it.
   
   The result is relationship mess or worse still pain if there has been a misunderstanding or a wrong interpretations placed on it.

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   Rod Marsdenposted 14 years ago

   Only semantics nowadays. Courting gives the impression of courtly behavior as from the court. This once meant good manners both ways. All of that is gone. Dating is probably the more accurate term for the 21st Century. It is a pity.

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