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Is There A Difference Between Dating And Courting

  1. Singlesstreetlife profile image72
    Singlesstreetlifeposted 7 years ago

    I am interested in finding out how people view dating and courting. Is there are difference or is just semantics?

    1. Himitsu Shugisha profile image78
      Himitsu Shugishaposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Yes, in my opinion, there is a difference. Courting typically is a man who has a sincere interest in a woman who he one day intends to marry. Whereas dating could be just two people "hanging out" with one or both parties not necessarily interested in taking it further than just a date.

    2. Cagsil profile image60
      Cagsilposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I'll be glad to let you know- Yes, there is a difference. Hence, meaning of the relationship. That's it. big_smile

    3. profile image0
      L. Andrew Marrposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Courting can be unofficial or unromantic. You can court a friend. Dating is official and romantic.

      That's my opinion atleast.

    4. Lita C. Malicdem profile image61
      Lita C. Malicdemposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      "Dating" to me means "going out to know you better" and "courting" means "I'll be seeing you home to get to know your family- parents, brothers, sisters- better". And eventually, it might mean, "I'm planning to make a proposal".

      Semantics, yes- hope you get my contextual meaning? Thanks.

      1. Singlesstreetlife profile image72
        Singlesstreetlifeposted 7 years agoin reply to this



        Thanks.At the end of the day I believe it is important for the couple entering into a relationship to know/discuss exactly how they see a relationship.  The clearer you are from the onset the better it avoids confusion and misunderstandings in the long run.

    5. prosmentor profile image61
      prosmentorposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Dating has to do with initial stage of trying to see if you can settle down or marry this particular person. Courting is the stage before marriage. It comes after 2 people have aggried to marry.

  2. rebekahELLE profile image89
    rebekahELLEposted 7 years ago

    I agree. courting is the man doing things to attract and 'woo' the woman. it's more romantic and much less prevelent in the american culture.

    dating is more a social engagement, a movie, dinner, etc. dating is more casual and can turn more serious.

    1. Himitsu Shugisha profile image78
      Himitsu Shugishaposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I know!! Doesn't courting seem like something our parents did, but is out of style nowadays. It's actually kind of sad.

      1. baltazardomagas profile image58
        baltazardomagasposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        Yup it's kind a sad... But, if you can incorporate courting while dating, dating could be the most romantic time to both of the gentleman and the lady.

  3. rebekahELLE profile image89
    rebekahELLEposted 7 years ago

    it is sad. it has to be taught. now people are so casual, it's hardly even a date. it's, hey, ya wanna go out friday?

    I had to teach my two sons... flowers, meet the woman's parents, opening doors. it was more me asking, 'are you going to..." I didnt sit down and teach them. but that is how it used to be done.
    the father would teach his sons.

    how are they going to know unless they're taught? hmm

    1. Himitsu Shugisha profile image78
      Himitsu Shugishaposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I couldn't agree more. It has to be instilled in young men to be gentlemen, and young women have to be taught to be appreciative of the gesture.

    2. Singlesstreetlife profile image72
      Singlesstreetlifeposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I agree. I know it is old fashioned to court but it is great to be able to teach the values of love and respect.  The question is where are the teachers?

  4. Chouji-Von-Lycan profile image60
    Chouji-Von-Lycanposted 7 years ago

    It was iteresting reading all those points, i always thought courting is what lead up to dating that lead up to marriage, but i think i may have got it the wrong way around.

    I thought the courting is when you find some one you like and you arange to go on a couple of dates to see if you both wanting to commit into the whole dating phase.

    I have been enlightened smile

  5. Sa Toya profile image74
    Sa Toyaposted 7 years ago

    I think dating is like 'seeing' someone you're not officially an item yet but are meeting up and getting to know each other hopefully with the intention to get serious. It is that period you figure out if you want more with that person.
    Also there are things known as group dates which is just friends hanging out or even speed dates- quickly getting to know someone

    Courting I think it more the relationship end. It's for real as in you plan on being with that person on a serious level- the woo stage or antics of wooing are more elaborate than a date.

    Times have changed everything's all about being causal, friendships,sex,relationships,dates. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with being causal but I'm at that age where I'm more serous. STRANGE THOUGH I'm only 22 and feel that way- I want to have fun but not always be casual.

    I do not really use the word courting anyways I'm more of a seeing/dating or full on relationship classification type of gal.

    1. Singlesstreetlife profile image72
      Singlesstreetlifeposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      The terminology I believe does not matter but the values and principles behind why you are entering into a relationship with someone should matter.  You should know why you are entering into a relationship with someone.

  6. Singlesstreetlife profile image72
    Singlesstreetlifeposted 7 years ago

    Would it not just be so wonderful if we could just be open and transparent in our relationships so we can free ourselves of jumping to conclusions about the status of our relationships with one another.

    I have had to counsel so many ladies who are not sure whether they are even dating or courting because they have not asked for clarity and neither have they been given it.

    The result is relationship mess or worse still pain if there has been a misunderstanding or a wrong interpretations placed on it.

  7. Rod Marsden profile image76
    Rod Marsdenposted 7 years ago

    Only semantics nowadays. Courting gives the impression of courtly behavior as from the court. This once meant good manners both ways. All of that is gone. Dating is probably the more accurate term for the 21st Century. It is a pity.

 
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