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   savvydatingposted 11 years ago

   How do you feel when some of your comments on various hubs are never responded to by the author?
   
   Once in a while I'll write a thoughtful comment, which I've put some real research into, and which may (or may not) disagree somewhat with the author. But I am also quick to point out things about the article with which I agree. Other times, I'm just posting a compliment - period. But for whatever reason, I never hear a word back. I find it strange. Is this just a case of poor social skills? I cannot imagine ignoring someone unless they are abusive. That's my take. How about you? (Having said that, I think that perhaps some comments may get lost in cyberspace.)
   
   

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   JThomp42posted 11 years ago

   It does not bother me at all. It could be a glitch in HP notifications  (in which I have ran into lately) or they could be very busy at the moment and will respond at a later time.

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      savvydatingposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Good point, JThompson42. Sometimes we are not notified by HP and other times people are busy.

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      JThomp42posted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Thank you savvy.

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      savvydatingposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Tsmog, thank you for sharing your personal experience - which is that much more valuable since you are a "slow" typist. Everyone has given me such excellent answers. I now have a much better understanding about the whys of commenting!  Yea!

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   dashingscorpioposted 11 years ago

   I believe some people never make "acknowledgement comments" on their own hubs. They feel once they've published it then it belongs to the world. There are others who don't "approve" of comments that (disagree) with their hubs even if comment was presented in an intelligent way. They will remove your comment. In some instances they may choose to delete the hub! LOL!
   Last but not least there are some hubbers who do not allow any comments period. Personally speaking I welcome comments even those who disagree me. It's proof they took the time to read the hub. There is nothing wrong with a difference of opinion.
   However I must admit there have been times when HP has failed to notify me there was a new comment on one of my Hubs. Once you have 50 or more hubs it becomes a job to have to check your hubs to see if there is a new comment. If the comment was left (over) two weeks ago I generally will not write a reply comment.

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      savvydatingposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Now it's coming together for me. Frankly, I only have a few hubs and some people have hundreds. It would be hard to keep up with that many comments. But, I am glad that you welcome a difference of opinion!

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      WalterPoonposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I agree that technical glitch do sometimes occur. HubPages doesn't manually inform anyone... it would be an onerous task!  The job is done by an automated system. Yet, you can see your unapproved comments at your Feed page, no?

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      savvydatingposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I didn't know about finding unapproved comments. Walter Poon, Is that on the activity page? Anyway, now I feel like a yahoo for even thinking about all of this. But, I'm really glad I asked because I know now what I didn't know before!

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   Diana Leeposted 11 years ago

   I try to return comments on my hubs, but I have missed some only to notice them months later.  I don't think we are always getting our notifications when the comments appear. When you have over a hundred hubs it is not likely you will notice the comments unless you go back and look at each hub often. I see how this can happen. But when the comment has been approved by the hubber for the public to see I would think a simple thank you could be applied though.

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      savvydatingposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Lol. As I mentioned to dashingscorpio, I only have 15 hubs. It's easy to keep up with so few.  I the end, everyone can choose whether they want to respond or not, and it's not necessarily a thing of being actively impolite.

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   Lisa HWposted 11 years ago

   I don't care if someone doesn't reply back because if I take the time to try to offer something I think is worth offering I'm doing it "for the good of the discussion" - not for what I want to get back from the person.  Personally, I aim to reply to every comment anyone makes on my Hubs, but when I had into the 300's in number of Hubs I discovered that I couldn't keep "being called back" to old Hubs to reply, so I started disabling comment boxes on all but the newest Hubs.  In other words, since I feel uncomfortable not replying to someone's comment I felt I had little choice but to stop the whole "commenting thing" on older Hubs altogether.
   
   On the other hand, though, there can be times when someone adds a comment with substance, info, opinion, etc. that really does add to the Hub; and I can see how the Hub author may feel that what's most polite and professional is to let that other person "have the last word" without then throwing in what can often look like a kind of fluffy or generally shallow, "thank you".  A Hub with a bunch of comments from others that are broken up with one after another "thank you" can look messy and unprofessional.   I've had times when someone's comment has enough substance and information that - really - trying to add something beyond just "thank you for the comment" can amount to almost seeming like trying to over-shadow the excellent comment. So the choice can either be yet another "thank you for the comment", which adds little and says little; or else amounts to a bunch of "padding" the author comes up with in the aims of looking polite enough to reply back with more than just a "thank you".  Sometimes a really good comment just deserves more than either of those things and really does deserve to act as a part of the Hub, rather than just a bunch of back-and-forth at the bottom of the Hub.
   
   So, I don't think it's always poor social skills.  It can be a matter of people doing their best to do what they think is most polite and/or professional and/or respectful of the other.  People think differently and don't always know how best to handle some situations, especially with each comment being unique on each Hub.  Writers are bound to make the wrong choice in some of those instances, or at least the choice that isn't understood by the other person.
   
   All anyone can do is understand that we all think differently, and don't automatically assume the worst, or the least, in those who do something different from what we would.   

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   tsmogposted 11 years ago

   Hi savvydating. Great question offering opportunity for difference and likeness. I have to giggle and giggle not at yet with. I use to hint on my hubs not to leave a comment. The reason was I worked near to a 60 hour work week and getting back was very difficult. Overwhelming for a short bit. The other reason is I type at about 25 wpm. So, most of my free time was writing that hub. Especially when all those squiggly red lines appeared. Then it is back space - try again - back space - try again and etc.
   
   I came up with fellow poets a four word vocabulary for poem reviews. I don't think it was received well. I used Awesome, Nice, Interesting, and hmmmmm. They each had meaning and was shared on various hubs and fellow poet sites what they meant. That trend did not last too long. However, if  a hmmmm came along I may just write two or three paragraphs and those didn't seem to take either.
   
   Again, deferring to the element of time for me was very critical with the first two years or so, (I'm not working now) I encouraged voting and accolades and hinting I just  may not have time to get back to a comment. There is more having to do with too lengthy at times too. Not realizing I was giving away the hub to potential readers was not good. Oh well, I learned.
   
   A hope is that offers insight to something. Not sure what. This is a great question and should be opportune to many pondering and seeking adding too with more than.
   
   tim

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   duffsmomposted 11 years ago

   I have seen quite a few hubs where the author never responds to comments.  I don't really think about it. I will comment if I think the hub is well done and let it go at that.
   
   I never engage in telling them my opinions or disagree with theirs. I would save that for forums.  Any author who writes a hub is entitled to their opinion and they likely aren't interested in a debate or my thoughts on the subject.
   
   But no, I do not let it bother me if my comments are not responded to. I think they are likely busy and working on more hubs.

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      savvydatingposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Hi duffsmom. Mostly, I just try to give some extra data that people may not be aware of, so that they can research further. Thus, I am trying to add something to the hub. Forums get somewhat ridiculous, so I like  commenting on articles.

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   Billie Kelpinposted 11 years ago

   I came here tonight, before getting distracted by looking at the "Questions," for the sole purpose of responding to the comments to a question I posted maybe two weeks ago.  Actually, the comments were so touching to me and poignant that I needed time and space from them to respond. It will take me about an hour or more to do so, and that's the other reason.  However, this particular situation aside, I try to respond to the comments to my questions, but as many people here have said, sometimes, I'm simply not aware that something was posted. In addition,  I think all of us are trying to keep ten plates spinning in the air and some of us are better at handling that than others.  Life happens to people.  Right now, my father-in-law is dying and my husband just flew out to Minneapolis.  We've been trying to post his little memoir on Facebook and getting family to write stories to him on a message board.  We're selling our house in a month and my dog is keeping us up all night with panting because something seems quite wrong. Life gets in the way of hubpages.
   When it comes to wanting others to respond to me - I don't.  I try to take nothing personally.  People are busy.  I get a lot of satisfaction just posting a comment, even if it took me a great deal of time.  Somebody might read it.  Somebody might be influenced. If not, that's ok, too.
   I also learned long ago watching my daughter perform stand-up comedy or acting in plays and from watching her friends perform as well, that you can probably multiply the positive responses you hear by at least 4, and this is why:  Even when I think someone was hilarious or the acting was superb, there are a myriad of reasons why I might not stop in the foyer and tell them after the show. How many times do we really, really enjoy something and never tell the other person? It's a goal we strive for, but often don't achieve.
   So I think we should just assume that our great comments here on hubpages were really liked by SOMEONE (possibly 4 someones or 8 or 20) so whether or not the person writing the question responded maybe we should say, as Bill Murray's character in "Meatballs" chanted, "It just doesn't matter."  But this question does and I loved responding

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      savvydatingposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      What a beautiful answer, Billie Kelpin. If my comment is posted, then others have the opportunity to check out my research. And you're right... Life Happens. Speaking of which, I am sorry about your father-in-law. Thank goodness for his loving family

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      Billie Kelpinposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Savvydating, Thanks so much.  My husband's family is just stellar in its support of each other. Bill is 95, so everyone is just appreciative that he was blessed with such a long and healthy life.

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   Borsiaposted 11 years ago

   It happens sometimes. I figure they have nothing to reply wh or that they don't feel a reply is required.
   It doesn't bother me nor does it affect whether I will read something else of they wrote, or have any affect on how I answer or comment on their future posts.
   People are people and expecting any more is just wishful thinking.
   Of course it can just as easily be an oversight. we get so many notifications its easy to miss some.

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    ketageposted 11 years ago

    I usually assume that the writer either does not notice my comment or does not have the time to answer, it does not bother me, I read dozens of hubs a day and comment on a few,  I imagine that a person who has a few hundred hubs and comments on numerous hubs a day, will soon find themselves overwhelmed with notifications. Anyway once I throw in my two cents worth, I do not expect an answer and am usually pleasantly surprised when I do get one

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       savvydatingposted 11 years agoin reply to this

       Another awesome answer, Ketage. That's the way I must look at comments.  If I get one, I'll be pleasantly surprised. What a good idea!

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    DDEposted 11 years ago

    I have recently noticed whenever i commented on a few hubs the author has not replied to my comment and I reply to every comment I receive I found that to e very inconsiderate. I also understand most hubbers don't spend as much time as I do on here so that is another reason why they don't reply right away but there are some  that haven't replied at all like for months. I am fine with them not replying but sometimes think you should at any time.

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       savvydatingposted 11 years agoin reply to this

       DDE, I hear you. If someone never responds, consistently, I will stop following them. Frankly, this is a community & we have to act like it. But, I am more at peace in my mind since reading these comments. I appreciate your honesty - very much!

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    definitionsposted 11 years ago

    I think maybe they're just too busy to think clearly about it all, it doesn't seem to be intentional.

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       savvydatingposted 11 years agoin reply to this

       Hi definitions. That seems to be the general consensus, so I've been keeping this is mind. Another good comment!

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    Ghost32posted 11 years ago

    I seldom even know if the author has responded or not, because I never (or almost never) check back.  If I manage to find the time to read a few other writers' Hubs and leave comments, that's ALL I can manage. 
    So, I generally comment and run, never looking back, needing to use most of my time for writing, taking care of business on the home front (offline) and the like.

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       savvydatingposted 11 years agoin reply to this

       Ghost32. Once again, another thoughtful perspective. I guess my thing is that I love the community - the talking back & forth. It's fun. But, I admit that when I first began writing here I had almost no time to spend on Hubpages.

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