How was your first time?

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   ahostagesituationposted 11 years ago

   How was your first time?
   
   My next writing project is dealing heavily with having sex for the first time.   I believe I might have enough to work with, but I I wouldn't mind a little more.  Anyone want to private message me or comment with about their "first time" thoughts, concerns or revelations?

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   dashingscorpioposted 11 years ago

   It was nothing special. I was a 17 year old guy looking to get rid of my virginity. The girl I was with was just someone I knew and we weren't "in love" or dating.
   Looking back I have no regrets. The vast majority of teen relationships are doomed. We just don't know it at the time. Our parents provide a roof over our head, clothes, food, and spending money. All we have to focus on is school and of course the person we're dating. This is not the (real world). All of our "must have" traits for a mate are limited to things like "being cute" and "having a good sense of humor". That alone will not cut it when we become adults. In fact during our teen years we're simply exploring as we do not know who (we) are or what we want. Our relationships are "pretend marriages".
   When it comes to relationships most of us fail our way to success! If this were not so we'd all end up marrying our Jr. high or high school sweethearts! My first time wasn't special but I believe if it had been odds are I still would not have ended up with the girl happily ever after. In fact I may have been heartbroken when the relationship came to it's inevitable end as most teen romances do. :-)

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      ahostagesituationposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I really love "fail our way to success!"  Not a bad thing at all.  I said it differenly all of our relationships tutor us for the right one.  Thanks for your answer I appreciate it~

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   NikiDivaposted 11 years ago

   I was 17 and it was less than great. It was a guy I had a Lil crush on since the 8th grade. I skipped school and I remember thinking "omg just hurry up". We were young and inexperienced. Had sex again a year later with an older guy and loved it! My thought was "so this is what it's supposed to be like!"

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      ahostagesituationposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I think this is the MOST common answer I've received thanks for your answer!  I asked one woman if she enjoyed her first time and she spit the drink out she was drinking laughing at the question.  :-)

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   teamrnposted 11 years ago

   I don't need to PM. I remember that I must have come home 'under the influence' because my mother and sister noticed as they got me ready for bed (what teenager needs her SISTER to get her ready for bed, if she's not under some influence?). I also remember my clothes were a bit inside out!
   
   Smooth sailing since then. My second experience was the doorway to knowing what sexual relationships are all about. They can be and since #1 (where I was probably too young, immature and eager to please) beautiful.

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      teamrnposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      It was so long ago, that I have NO idea If I had been slipped something, or if I had had too much.  I don't think ECSTASY had even 'come out' by then, but I suppose there was always something.

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   Borsiaposted 11 years ago

   It was no doubt better for me than her.
   She was my high school sweetheart and we had been seeing each other for about a year we were 17.
   After coming to my house after a drive in movie with another couple. We were all in the living room floor with some blankets and it was the standard missionary.
   I only remember her telling me it hurt and it was over pretty quick.
   We got it right a few days later and had a very active sex life for 3 more years.
   Since we had worked up from hand holding over a long time and it wasn't traumatic and it was completely consensual. We both wanted to do it and all that but we didn't plan to do it that night it just happened that way.
   We did use protection.

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      ahostagesituationposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Sounds like that movie, "Juno." Minus the teen pregnancy.  :-)  Glad you guys figured it our eventually, and thanks for sharing!

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   Sri Tposted 11 years ago

   It was nothing special. In fact, I couldn't figure out what the big hype was all about. Later I figured out that a lot depends on who you are with, are they exciting.

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      ahostagesituationposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I've had two people tell me they didn't know they were having sex until they were already having it.  Both started off with bad lovers, or lovers they didn't love.  Something like that.

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   DDEposted 11 years ago

   My first time was  at the age of 19 was not a most enjoyable experience and was quite risky the second time was great with someone I married and a much more experienced guy

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      ahostagesituationposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Hi, thanks for your response and I like your profile a lot.

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   whitacre1880posted 11 years ago

   I'm just going to say, my first time, I did not have a condom, instead i used a plastic sandwich bag, lube, and a rubber band to keep it on. Needless to say, it was terrible....

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