Should husbands stop their wives from reading pornography such as '50 shades of

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   Ranziposted 11 years ago

   Should husbands stop their wives from reading pornography such as '50 shades of Grey?
   
   So some wives seem to get upset when their husbands watch adult movies. So my question is, do you think that husbands should get upset when their wives read books like '50 shades of Grey and fall in love and fantasise about the character Christian Grey?

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   duffsmomposted 11 years ago

   Had an answer...but changed my mind...so in the words of the famous Roseann Roseanna Danna---Nevermind.

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      Ranziposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      lol What made you change your mind?

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   dashingscorpioposted 11 years ago

   A spouse is not a "child". In a (free) society no one can "control" an adult's reading or viewing of legally published/created materials. In America we say everyone has the right to "pursue happiness".
   Having said that each person is (entitled) to have their own "Deal Breakers". If one expresses their unhappiness with what their mate is either doing or not doing in a relationship and it is determined that he or she doesn't agree or want what you want then you always have the right to part ways. Only (the individual) knows what she or he can "live with".
   Anyone who is "unhappy" in a relationship and chooses to stay is (choosing) to be unhappy.
   There are only two ways to experience (joy and peace of mind) in relationships: we either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have!

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      Ranziposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      II totally agree. I was asking because of this question http://ngureco.hubpages.com/question/30 … h-marriage and most women would never allow their man to watch porn.

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      dashingscorpioposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      The word "allow" is still something I feel doesn't belong in an adult relationship/marriage. However I understand it's their way of saying it's a "deal breaker" or unacceptable behavior and is a valid reason for (them) to breakup/divorce their mate.

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   beverleejbposted 11 years ago

   I don't think so because it all depends on the age of the wife.
   And if he watches  why not her.?
   Too me that porn is just not all that interesting.
   Too me boring.!
   I think the wife should be able too choose.
   It is just a fantasy some women like that and if that makes their love life more interesting, why not!

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      Ranziposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      What is the appropriate age?

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      dashingscorpioposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      In the U.S. the legal/appropriate age is 18. This happens to also be the age one can legally get married without their parent's "permission".

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   Ranziposted 11 years ago

   The reason I'm asking this question is because I came across this question (Why Do Wives Get Mad With Husbands Watching Porn? How Does It Interfere With Marriage?)  http://ngureco.hubpages.com/question/30 … h-marriage
   
   And 80% of the responses were from women saying how it is wrong, sinful, disgraceful, criminal, disgusting, an act of visual adultery to allow their husband to watch porn. And then I thought why then should she be able to read trashy novels and fantasise about other men if she doesn't let him watch adult films. Isn't that like similar?

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      dashingscorpioposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      You make a valid point. I suspect people will always consider "erotic novels" to be less threatening to their relationships than "visuals" (photos/porn sites ) & visiting strip clubs. I believe there are also some gender preferences regarding fan

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      Robie Benveposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I  totally see your point. However, in the books of Mr. Grey are full of sex scene, there is so much love and respect that I would hardly tag them "porn".

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      Ranziposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Not sure if its really love, As Mr grey was also the most dark and twisted sadistic man who wanted to inflict physical pain on this innocent virgin for his own sexual gratification. There are many Adult films with a more gentle loving story line .

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   Robie Benveposted 11 years ago

   I'm an adult and mature wife and I was so happy when I got those books, my hubby paid for them btw, and after the first chapters... his only comment was that they had been the 30 bucks best spent in a while. lol

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      Ranziposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      haha good for him! I'm sure it was money well spent. Just curious, would you spend 10 bucks for a porn film if that made your husband happy?

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   wanna know ask meposted 11 years ago

   In the words of my 22 yr step daughter. if your husband can watch dirty pornographic movies or look at dirty pornographic magazines then you should have the right to read any pornographic book. there is nothing wrong with it. its called compromise.

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