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Online dating: agree or disagree? And why?

  1. Hui (蕙) profile image80
    Hui (蕙)posted 4 years ago

    Online dating: agree or disagree? And why?

    As stated in some hubs, authors listed some good reasons to remind people of the risk of online dating, and I agree, indeed. But there are some successful cases with this dating way, not only by those official websites controlled by owners, but also by random meeting online on our own. So, what do you think?

  2. DDE profile image23
    DDEposted 4 years ago

    I don't agree with online dating it is risky and so not safe. The successful cases are just miracles. Meeting others online is just asking for problems  individuals don't know who they are speaking to and trusting someone form another side of life is the biggest issues of all.

    1. dashingscorpio profile image88
      dashingscorpioposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Actually I think the nightmare cases are the unusual ones which explains why they make the news. Most dates  people have online or offline are uneventful. When it comes to relationships most of us fail our way to success!

  3. Kiwi Max profile image66
    Kiwi Maxposted 4 years ago

    I recommend reading "Not a Match" by Brian Donovan. That should answer most of your questions & give you a good laugh!

    Here's the website -> http://itsnotamatch.com/

    1. Hui (蕙) profile image80
      Hui (蕙)posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Great website. It dose make laugh.

  4. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 4 years ago

    Online dating is nothing more than a "tool" to meet other singles. Just like a fork can be used to eat a garden salad or a slice of double fudge.To blame online dating for having a bad dating experience is equivalent to an obese person blaming their knife and fork!
    It always comes down to the choices the (individual) makes. Out of the thousands of profiles out there (they) chose whomever they wanted to go out. The Internet did not invent liars, cheaters, or conmen. The same people online also are in the grocery store, malls, colleges, on the train/bus, and even in church. It's not where you meet but whom you meet that counts!
    One of the main mistakes people make with online dating is believing all of the dating sites are about the same. That's like saying staying in a Holiday Inn hotel is the same as staying in a Ritz Carlton Hotel simply because they both have TVs and beds! It's pays to do research before selecting an online dating site. You have to know what (you) are looking for. Before you meet you can use Skype or Google Hangouts to see each other if you have concerns over whether or not they look like their photo.
    Also worth noting there are many "niche" dating sites where people can get together who have a (strong) requirement for any future mate such as religion, race, age, or a hobby/lifestyle that is important. I've seen sites like MustLovePets.com, Alikewise.com (book lovers), VeggieDate.org and so on. My point is there are thousands of online dating sites to consider. I generally recommend avoiding the "free sites" as they're likely to offer a  lower "quality" of prospects.
    Having said that it's important to use good common sense when communicating with strangers online or offline. Use the website's system to contact one another until you feel comfortable to exchange personal email addresses and phone numbers. Always make the first date a lunch date where you (meet)  at a place you're familiar with. 
    Lastly I would say online dating is probably best for people in their 30s and beyond if they are looking to "settle down". It's pretty much unrealistic for a woman in her 20s to expect a guy in his 20s to be ready to settle down.

    1. Hui (蕙) profile image80
      Hui (蕙)posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      You have good points here, but what I am curious is those random dating from online, i.e. no any sites to be match makers, but just meet on some spaces or chat rooms. Actually some in 20s or younger usually try that.

    2. dashingscorpio profile image88
      dashingscorpioposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Clearly at that age it's about having FUN. No one should expect someone in their 20s or younger to be ready to settle down. Chat rooms are for lonely people looking for cyber friends only. Meetup.com is a better site making friends w/same interest

    3. Hui (蕙) profile image80
      Hui (蕙)posted 4 years agoin reply to this

      So, you surely do not agree on such a way. Me neither, and kinda most people do not.