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Why do people settle instead of waiting for their true love?

  1. Lyrickkw profile image70
    Lyrickkwposted 4 years ago

    Why do people settle instead of waiting for their true love?

  2. dashingscorpio profile image86
    dashingscorpioposted 4 years ago

    We have this assumption that people "settle" for less than what they could have. The reality is if someone really (believes) they can have better they will do better. We are always where we (choose) to be.
    Cost VS Rewards
    If I presented you two cars in a parking lot and told you that you could have either one of them. Car (a) is a 2014 brand new Audi 6 and car (b) is a rusted out 1972 Ford Gremlin, odds are you would choose the new car.
    However if I told you that you had to run a marathon in order to get the new car or you could simply take the old car right now; Depending on how you feel about the "cost versus reward" you might choose the old car or even (decide) to go without a car. Either way it would be a (choice) and not "settling". Essentially they don't believe it was worth expending the (effort) to get the new car! If someone decides it's not worth their time and effort it's not so much they "settled" as much as they've decided whatever it is not worth the price.
    Whenever someone tells you that they "settled" it's always good to ask them why they (chose) to settle? Odds are when they answer you it will turn out that they really (believed) it was the BEST they could do under the circumstances.
    On the other hand when we tell others they are "settling" what we are really doing is imposing (our belief system) on them. It's an uphill battle when we have to "sell them" on the fact that they can do better or deserve better.
    Traits such as ambition, desire for change, and determination are not likely to be found in people who don't believe they deserve the best of what life has to offer.
    Anyone who is flipping burgers at McDonalds and tells you they could have been a millionaire but "settled" for that job is lying to themselves! "I could have been a manager but I didn't want all that pressure and responsibility." Taking the "easy"way out" is a (choice).
    Being where you want to be is not "settling". It's doing what you believe is best for you! If someone decides (it's not worth the cost) to get the "top of the line" and decide to get a lower end product that is a personal choice. Some people are always looking the (least expensive) way to live.

    1. Lyrickkw profile image70
      Lyrickkwposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Well done! I like your answers and it was straight to the point.

    2. dashingscorpio profile image86
      dashingscorpioposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks! :-)

  3. duffsmom profile image60
    duffsmomposted 4 years ago

    I suppose they might be lonely and afraid that their one true love will never come into their life.  Some people are desperately lonely and in those cases, I can see someone might give into settling.

    1. Lyrickkw profile image70
      Lyrickkwposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      True. What I believe is most people who settle get comfortable with the theory of having someone by their side whether they are good or bad for them. It is like a child in a candy store wanting that candy on the shelves if it is not good for them.

  4. DDE profile image24
    DDEposted 4 years ago

    I know of someone who had settled  for his he did not  marry the one he truly loves   but instead the one who will be there  serve  him. They don't want to wait any longer.

    1. Lyrickkw profile image70
      Lyrickkwposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      That's what happens especially when you are will the wrong person!

    2. Lyrickkw profile image70
      Lyrickkwposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      The same thing happen to people I know.  That is why it is good to wait and let thing happen on it's own.

  5. profile image52
    sunil Rekhtaposted 4 years ago

    i can be wrong, but to me true love mean sacrifice,people settled because they want love, not to wait for someone but to love someone.

    Thank you.

    1. Lyrickkw profile image70
      Lyrickkwposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      True. Some people just want to love someone but at what cost.

 
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