Do you think most people are with their true love or just settled?
when you care more about the other person's happiness than your own, that can be said as a true love.The same does not apply to all. Some people are married off by their parents and they find a way to make those forced relationships work because they accept they have no choice. Relationships are hard work and love should be there to have a smooth proper movement of a family.
I think there are both types of people. There are some folks who are genuinely happy with their loved one and couldn't see sharing their life with anyone else. But there are those who will stay with somebody because they are settled and/or afraid of change. I've seen couples who will stay with each other and there is nothing left between them. I know some who even cheat and still will not leave the other. Beyond me why they would stay but it does happen.
I am with my 'true love' and very happy!
I know I'm with my true love, but there was a time when I was willing to settle because I wasn't optimistic at my chances of finding the real thing. It took a real eye opener to make me realize that settling would only serve to make me unhappy for the rest of my life, no matter how much I cared about the guy. Shortly after I met my husband and I haven't looked back once.
But for everyone else? I don't know. You don't know what they feel in their hearts. They can be the most lovey-dovey couple in the world, but that doesn't mean one or both of them aren't just there because it's easy.
I think especially nowadays people are settling because they don't want to be alone. There are plenty of women without men because they have too high expectations and various other reasons. True love is rare to find nowadays because people are just different now and love is not sought after as much anymore.
Hey Kevin...I think many have settled, although not so many as existing in that category 50 years ago. When I was growing up, and way before then, you married, had a family, raised that family, saw them out the door, retired and eventually left room for those younger than you. No matter what problems you had in your marriage, you worked them out and kept on. Marriages lasting over 50 years were commonplace and divorce was rare. If you were lucky enough to find your true love, fine, and if not, you made him or her your true love through hard work. Nowadays, with 50% of couples being divorced, as negative as that sounds, I'd say the majority of those married are actually in love with their mate. Bad and good news all rolled into one, eh?
I believe the majority of people become "realistic" or "practical" when it comes to love and marriage. Setting your sights on a new goal is not the same thing as settling. More often than not it's a sign of maturity.
“Love isn’t finding a perfect person. It’s seeing an imperfect person perfectly.” – Sam Keen
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