What do you when someone comes over when you've told them you're not going to be

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   lisasuniquevoiceposted 11 years ago

   What do you when someone comes over when you've told them you're not going to be there?
   
   

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   JessBrazposted 11 years ago

   That depends.. I'm not a fan of the "pop in" .. I don't show up to people's houses unless they know for sure that I'm coming over and I don't appreciate it when people don't give me that same respect.
   
   Now, if you've told them you're not going to be home as a means to try and gently let them know not to come over (but you are in fact home) I simply wouldn't answer the door. lol. I'm crabby like that I suppose. If they can't take the gentle hint that I'd prefer they didn't come over, then I would simply ignore the knocks on the door until the finally get the hint. That may be rude, but it's also rude just to show up at someone's house when they haven't been invited.
   
   If they show up at your house, and you are in fact not home.. well, then I suppose that's their problem isn't it? If they want to waste their own time showing up when you've already told them you won't be home- perhaps they'll take it as a cue to develop their listening skills a little better.

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      lisasuniquevoiceposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Justbraz
      Thank you so much. I now what to do. I've just trying to be polite. I guess that doesn't work with all people. I feel better now.:
      Lisa

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   kthix10posted 11 years ago

   Wait, What?  Why would they possibly come over when they knew you weren't going to be there? Are the casing the joint? Are they meeting up with someone else in your household?  i would so be questioning what is going on.  it seems like there has to be an alter motive here and unless they were planning a surprise party for you no good explanation.

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      lisasuniquevoiceposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      ktix10,
      I've got an alarm. I'm putting up cameras, and thinking about getting a dog.
      Thank you so much,
      Lisa

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   Mercia Collinsposted 11 years ago

   some people can not take the hint. They do not realize that to call unannounced is rude. Sometimes you have to take the bull by the horns. Have you tried saying that you would prefer that this person telephone before visiting?
   
   My Great Aunt always wore her hat indoors, which fascinated me as a little girl, but she told me that it was because if someone knocked on her door, who she didn't want to see she would tell them that she was on her way out, if it was someone she did want to see she would tell them that she had just come in.

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