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Is it possible to love someone that you met online but never met in person?

  1. Ariel Laur profile image94
    Ariel Laurposted 3 years ago

    Is it possible to love someone that you met online but never met in person?

  2. wychic profile image89
    wychicposted 3 years ago

    Absolutely, it is. Not only do I have a number of close friends whom I've talked to for years and never met online, but I met my husband online too. We knew each other for 6 months before he came here. At that time, we were both sure enough of our feelings that he bought a one-way ticket and gave away or sold nearly all his possessions first. The first time I saw him in person was when I picked him up from the airport and he came home with me. That was five years and two kids ago.

    I will say that it's only possible inasmuch as the people involved are honest -- much like in real life. If you're genuine and upfront about who you are, there's no reason people can't form very real feelings about you. Just as in "real life," if you lie or hide your true personality, then the feelings that form might not be real because they're not around a real person.

    1. tsmog profile image83
      tsmogposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Awesome and thank you for sharing 'hope' for many . . .

  3. tsmog profile image83
    tsmogposted 3 years ago

    Absolutely. Personally my feelings and thoughts are it may be a good idea if the individuals, especially in the case of a coupling, have a shared definition for love first. I say absolutely offering testament of Love with a person I have never met, have had a three year relationship mainly online via email, and etc, and have the perspective of Love being eternal.

    However, for purposes of understanding Love we both share a mutual agreement and acceptance with both trust and faith with the explanation by C.S. Lewis and his published work - The Four Loves as a guide. And, the understanding all exist each as love while all must not be present for love to exist.

    A) Storge - affectionate love
    B) Philia - friendship or sisterly/brotherly love
    C) Eros - romantic love
    D) Agape - unconditional love

    When questioned by some with social interactions of our relationship of being Loving I always ask questions for offering explanation, which seems to work for me. Simply any of these following:

    1) Are you an atheist?
    A) Yes
    Next, then love is only a process of stimuli, motivation, behavior, commitment, and having acceptance of those with trust and faith in your relationship with experience and reason.

    B) No
    1) Do you Love God no matter your definition?
    2) Have you ever met God?

    Most likely many will have more to share with views of difference and likeness, so I ask this only be of acceptance being a subjective perspective and not necessarily universal.


  4. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 3 years ago

    It happens all the time. Prior to personal computers people were known to have fallen in love via 'Pen Pal letters'. Falling in love involves establishing an "emotional connection" with a likeminded person.
    Having said that it may turn out that a person is not whom they presented them self to be or when you are together in person the chemistry is not the same. However it's not uncommon for people to fall "in love" with someone before they really (know) them.
    This happens during the "infatuation phase" with couples who meet offline or online.
    Perception is reality. You're "in love" because (you) 'believe' you are.

  5. chef-de-jour profile image97
    chef-de-jourposted 3 years ago

    I think this is a new phenomenon - online love - laptop amour - and will help to re-define LOVE as we know it over the next few generations. From a few words, sentences, paragraphs, a connection is made that grows rather like an etheric flower, fed on the thoughts, feelings and opinions of a stranger tapping away on the plastic alphabet thousands or a few miles away.
    If music be the food of love....if keyboard rhythms be the food of love.....

    Online love is happening because basically we humans have become infatuated with the ether. People are writing out of their desperate minds; their inner worlds are being depicted described and analysed and offered to the global audience as never before.

    Is this a good thing? I'm not one to judge. At first I was a cynic and laughed at those poor sad online junkies who fell in love with some other besotted addict too distant to really care but who could, through the medium of writing, tempt the other in to believing actual LOVE could exist between keyboards and screen!!

    Nowadays I accept it for what it is: another form of communication and connection between fellow humans who need each other. If a couple want to call it LOVE who am I to object or criticise or scoff or deny?

    1. Matchi Matchimaa profile image57
      Matchi Matchimaaposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Love could exist between keyboard and screen <<< i  like this and agree

  6. Lauren Amy Smith profile image62
    Lauren Amy Smithposted 3 years ago

    Definitely, it happens all of the time, and I personally think it's a really good way to start a relationship.

  7. redrose65 profile image67
    redrose65posted 2 years ago

    yes it's possible, I've been talking to a man online for the past 9 months and in the beginning he started saying that he loves me. I asked him how can he love me when he doesn't even know me, but now I feel a connection with him that I have never felt before with any other man. I love him more every day