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"I love you, but I don't like you." What do you believe this statement means?

  1. gmaoli profile image76
    gmaoliposted 6 years ago

    "I love you, but I don't like you."  What do you believe this statement means?

  2. LoriSoard profile image73
    LoriSoardposted 6 years ago

    It probably means the person cares about you but does not like your behavior. If someone said that to me, I would ask them what about me they don't like and get some clarity. Than answer might hurt, but if it was given to me with honesty and a loving spirit, I would probably try to address those issues and change.

  3. R Pseudomen profile image79
    R Pseudomenposted 6 years ago

    I think that this is a statement just before a breakup is announced.

    It can be hard being with someone when you feel that you are smothered or otherwise feeling anguish about your life and you feel that your love may never fade but being together, for whatever reason, is no longer possible for you.

    So you say "I love you, but I don't like you."

    Also this statement could be interpreted to mean that I don't want to be friends with you. My feelings run too deep and I either have you completely in my life (love) or not at all (even as a friend).

  4. sassydee profile image73
    sassydeeposted 6 years ago

    You love a person but don't like their actions.

  5. stricktlydating profile image83
    stricktlydatingposted 6 years ago

    I'd replace the word "You" with "Your behaviour".  Usually it's a case of meaning to say "I love you but I don't like your behaviour".  Similar to LoriSoard's answer here.

  6. Sheila Lee profile image61
    Sheila Leeposted 6 years ago

    I agree with RP. The love may never fade but you can't live with the person. You can still love someone, but the hurt is too deep and too unforgivable. Their actions, whatever they may be, have caused too much damage for the other person to want to be with that person.

  7. MickS profile image70
    MickSposted 6 years ago

    Turn it around -- 'I don't like you, but I love you', It means you've got a good song.
    'You've really got a hold on me.'

  8. yui lockhart profile image61
    yui lockhartposted 6 years ago

    it's like a job, you don't like it but you got to love it because it provides you money. but this statement is ironic. You got to like someone because you love them.

  9. toys-everywhere profile image60
    toys-everywhereposted 6 years ago

    I know my grandmother feels this way with me, though she's never said it. I know that she loves me, and would do anything for me, but sometimes she cannot stand being around me. We are so vastly different, it makes it hard for her to like doing things with me.  In addition to the fact that we don't like to do the same things most of the time. She loves shopping and clothes, and I hate shopping for anything other than food and clearance, and so on.

  10. smzclark profile image61
    smzclarkposted 6 years ago

    'I love you, but I don't like what you do'.

    'I love you because you're the father of my child and she is the most amazing 'gift' I have ever been blessed with. I don't like you because you turned your back on her.'

    'I love you because you're my brother, but I don't like you because you're mean!'

  11. rdsparrowriter profile image83
    rdsparrowriterposted 6 years ago

    Since it's romance, what I think is that " I love you" means that I accept you and respect you as you are, BUT I'm not romantically interested in you. Let's stay as friends. I hope this helps.

  12. pappo profile image58
    pappoposted 6 years ago

    It is very possible to love someone and not like their behavior. That is probably what the statement is all about. It is also true that sometime it is used to break up with someone and kind of ' letting them down easy', like such thing is possible!. Well whenever there is a breakup, I am certain is not easy. Someone will get hurt and usually is the person who is on the receiving end and whether is just friends or life partners or husband and wife. Such is life, but I believe no matter how bad we all experienced "let downs", we should always pick ourselves up and try again.

  13. prism3x profile image38
    prism3xposted 6 years ago

    I believe it means the person truly cares for you, but just can't accept certain behaviors of yours.   Ask yourself if this was an occasional comment or a one time episode....then ask them to explain.

  14. Daughter Of Maat profile image96
    Daughter Of Maatposted 6 years ago

    I have to say I use this statement all the time. I love my daughter, but I can't stand her. But she's my daughter, of course I love her unconditionally no matter what, but she drives me insane and I just can't stand her personality. So it is possible to love someone and not like, or even hate, them. Hate meaning you've had to love them at some point because the opposite of love isn't hate, it's indifference. I hope all that made sense....