Do you guys feel that a man needs to be a man and a woman needs to be a woman in

1. 61

   AnastasiaMcGowanposted 11 years ago

   Do you guys feel that a man needs to be a man and a woman needs to be a woman in a relationship?
   
   Kirsten Dunst said in Harper's Bazaar UK, apparently people are reacting to her comment and finding a problem with it. I feel that she is entitled to her opinion and that her opinion is rooted in how she grew up and yes we live in a more modern world where men and woman alike have flexibility in how they are suppose to act but I feel like a lot of people still have that belief of men being men and women being women. http://www.usmagazine.com/celebrity-new … -uk-201484

   replyreport
2. 71

   dashingscorpioposted 11 years ago

   Each of us has (our) own definition of what it means to be a (man) or a (woman) beyond physical anatomy. During the 80s it became very popular for women in particular to use the phrases "real man" and "real woman".
   Generally speaking if they were talking to a man it was to admonish him or put him down for not living up to (their) standards/definition of what a man is and if these women referred to themselves as being "real women" it was a slight against other women or an effort to get their men to accept them as they are. Basically a "real man" is a man who does whatever (she) thinks men ought to be doing.
   Having said that some women want men who are "in touch with their emotions" striving for (equal partnership) in the household and some women want men to be more "traditional" be (the head) of the household/main provider and have the final say all important matters. He keeps everything and everyone "in line".
   There is no "right' or "wrong". Each of us is entitled to have own "preferences" or traits we want in a mate or spouse. What causes problems is when we attempt to "change" someone into what we want instead of seeking someone who "already is" the kind of person we want! Attempting to change others leads to frustration on our part and resentment on the part of our mate.
   "There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships: we either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have."
   One man's opinion! :-)

   replyreport
3. 61

   AnastasiaMcGowanposted 11 years ago

   Exactly, I wholeheartedly agree with this, I have not personally seen women trying to change their boyfriend or husband but I have seen it a lot portrayed on television and I sit there and think why go through all that trouble, if you aren't happy then break up and find someone that fits your needs. I also agree that it is a preference, but a lot of people were upset  by what Kirsten said, someone said that she didn't know what she was talking about but in the interview she says basically that that was how she was raised, so because her preference as a woman in the modern age doesn't fit what other people think it is automatically wrong?

   replyreport
   1. 71

      dashingscorpioposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Feminists often view women who want  "traditional" relationships as (gender traitors). I wrote about this awhile back. Lifestyle choices are personal decisions! http://dashingscorpio.hubpages.com/hub/ … le-Choices

      replyreport
   2. 61

      AnastasiaMcGowanposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      I've noticed that feminist do get upset when other woman prefer to stay traditional, thanks for the link!

      replyreport