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Ladies, If a man used a coupon on a “first date” would it turn you off?

  1. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 7 years ago

    Ladies, If a man used a coupon on a “first date” would it turn you off?

    Recently I saw an article that was laced with comments from women slamming guys who used coupons or discount cards on a first date. Assuming you would normally go to that particular place or event, does it matter much that you got in for 50% off?
    I’ve always thought the number #1 goal of any date is to have a good time. Guys, Would you be embarrassed to use a coupon or discount card on a first date?


  2. simeonvisser profile image84
    simeonvisserposted 7 years ago

    This is actually a really good point. If you hope to turn it into a long term relationship then it is a good sign that the guy can handle himself financially. But it does look a bit 'cheap' even though you get the same thing and the same enjoyment. Not sure if I would do it though. If I went to a place regularly I could always use it at a later occasion.

  3. mcrawford76 profile image83
    mcrawford76posted 7 years ago

    Personally I woudn't do it on the 1st date, for appearances sake. But I think it would also depend entirely on the woman and how much you've gotten to know her first. If it's already been established that you have kids, or don't make a lot of money, I don't see why it would be a problem. If your date didn't have any of that information ahead of time I could see it as an embarassing blemish.

  4. Dr. Wendy profile image67
    Dr. Wendyposted 7 years ago

    I wouldn't be turned off and would think he must be as frugal as I am.  smile

  5. Just Ask Susan profile image90
    Just Ask Susanposted 7 years ago

    No it would not turn me off at all. I am a big believer of saving money and I love coupons.

  6. fundguru profile image60
    fundguruposted 7 years ago

    See if you pay with a credit card, then at nearly every business you automatically receive a discount. In addition if you are member of business societies then you also receive with your membership cards discounts in hotels and several restaurants.

    So who could blame you for it?

    Probably a coupon is from its appearance different, and maybe it depends on the woman if she will like or dislike it, but I suppose most women will see how clever you are and that you know how to handle your finances.

    Come on how many women go to a discount sale to buy fashion? Isn´t this the same intention to save money?

    Would you react reserved if your date tells you that she got her shoes or dress at a 50% discount? Or would you be glad that she also knows how to save money?

    But there also could be women from rich families or who are generally spoiled and would see it as cheap if you would do so.

  7. duffsmom profile image60
    duffsmomposted 7 years ago

    You know, it would put me off a little bit, but I can't really explain why.

  8. stricktlydating profile image84
    stricktlydatingposted 7 years ago

    We don't have 'Coupons' here in Australia, but a Discount Voucher is absolutely fine and acceptable here to use on a first date.  It's often used as an 'excuse' to try a new restaurant too.  There are restaurant (and entertainment) books full of discount vouchers which are popular to buy here.  Using a Discount Voucher is really the perfect, casual way to ask someone out.  For example, a guy phone's a girl and says "Hi, I've got a discount voucher for that new restuarant in town, would you like to try it with me on the weekend?".  Often we have 'buy one get one meal free' deals. Lots of times a guy has asked me out this way.  It's sort of like the equivilent of saying "I've got free tickets to the game on the weekend would you like to come with me" there's no offence in it.

  9. Gayly profile image57
    Gaylyposted 7 years ago

    Not at all. It only means that this guy knows how to handle money and he is just being real.

  10. profile image0
    Erik S.posted 7 years ago

    Man, I'd whip that coupon right out and flash it in everyone's face, lol. If this first date is offended, there probably won't be a second one. There's a difference between cheap and thrifty.

  11. marketingskeptic profile image71
    marketingskepticposted 7 years ago

    It depends. Like if he just uses one coupon it's cool, but if he pulls out a deck of coupons and tries to use multiple ones at the same time, haggle with the waitress, and then not tip...like I'd be a little turned off.

  12. txgal profile image56
    txgalposted 7 years ago

    I wouldn't do it on a first date either. Maybe once I feel comfortable with my date then I would start using them.

  13. rhondakim profile image73
    rhondakimposted 7 years ago

    Uh...yes!  I enjoy saving money as much as the next person, and it's fine to use coupons once you're in a relationship, but when you're on a first date you don't know each other very well yet and every little thing you do is magnified.  You're each looking for clues as to the other's personality.  This is NOT the time to use a coupon!  Even if she doesn't want to, the woman may very well remember that to the exclusion of other things about the guy.  It just looks like your priorities are skewed - as if you value saving a few dollars more than making a good first impression.  It's just not worth the risk.

  14. NorDac profile image57
    NorDacposted 7 years ago

    Well, I'm married now so coupons are no problem. But if I was on a first date, no I don't think I'd bring out a coupon. I think I would save the thrifty, frugal part till a little later in the relationship.

  15. Str8up Hookups profile image40
    Str8up Hookupsposted 7 years ago

    For the first date,No! First impressions are lasting.

    But on dates there after if there are any,as long as I know ahead of time and it doesn't restrict with my menu choices.

  16. Naomi Rose Welty profile image72
    Naomi Rose Weltyposted 7 years ago

    I agree with Stricklydating that a coupon could be a great lead-in to "let's go out." On the other hand, I would be very uncomfortable if a guy took me out and then produced the coupon. I guess it's all context: 'let's try this' sounds attractive, but seeing your date whip out an unexpected coupon might make a person feel somewhat discounted herself.

  17. JayDee Sterling profile image59
    JayDee Sterlingposted 7 years ago

    As long as you didn't make a scene or brag about it perhaps, but on a first date, probably not a good idea. Funny, but not good.

  18. profile image0
    Motown2Chitownposted 7 years ago

    Nope.  I'd figure he was sensible with his money.  I would be offended only if he tried to force me to order something specific because the coupon was only valid for that specific item.  That'd be a deal breaker, I think.

  19. TinaTango profile image66
    TinaTangoposted 7 years ago

    In my opinion, I would not be "turned off" if a guy used a coupon on a first date, that's just silly.

  20. Jeannieinabottle profile image91
    Jeannieinabottleposted 7 years ago

    No, I would not be offended.  I would know I had met my soulmate.  No one loves a bargain more than me!

  21. luckycharmz profile image61
    luckycharmzposted 7 years ago

    In many cultures, the men play the role of provider.  As long as he could provide for the women he loves (coupon or not) he should be fine. 

    In America, men and women are equal.  I personally don't mind when women pick up the tab.  But deep down, I think that women naturally are looking men who can provide for her and the children.

  22. micahjoy profile image56
    micahjoyposted 7 years ago

    In theory I'd like to say no, it wouldn't bother me. And on a second date, or if I was invited ahead of time as someone mentioned like "Hey I have a coupon for ..... want to come with me?" it wouldn't.

    But I think if I encountered this on a first date with someone I didn't know at all previous to the date, yes, I would feel put off.

    I don't think the issue is with saving money, but more the fact that the place/activity they chose to do with you was less thoughtful or personalized... but just something that they happened to have a coupon to.

    If you need to be frugal, there are TONS of other date options that are free or cheap and wouldn't require a coupon.

    1. freecampingaussie profile image60
      freecampingaussieposted 5 years agoin reply to this

      Funny enough I saw an ad with a guy using a coupon and in it they had to choose from a smaller menu , nothing she liked on it and it didn't look good . Here a coupon is often just buy one get one free so it wouldnt make any diference .

  23. r-l-bean profile image58
    r-l-beanposted 7 years ago

    I have a $10 Rule for first dates. I don't want to be impressed, I want to get to know her. A walk on the beach, ice cream and conversation. If that's not good enough, I may as well ask for sex.

  24. freecampingaussie profile image60
    freecampingaussieposted 7 years ago

    I wouldn't be upset as I like using coupons & getting more for our money.
    I would hate to find out later that he had a coupon & didn't use it in case he upset me .
    It is all about getting to know each other & knowing he used coupons would impress me !

  25. SaferDates profile image57
    SaferDatesposted 6 years ago

    No, it would not turn me off. It would show that he put the extra time into planning our date. Besides, in this economy saving money and still having fun is a good thing.