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What are the things do I need to accomplish before I get married?

  1. awezome-writer profile image75
    awezome-writerposted 3 years ago

    What are the things do I need to accomplish before I get married?

  2. Cristale profile image84
    Cristaleposted 3 years ago

    Focus on yourself as much as possible because after you get married, it's all about the two of you. You will be two halves that make a whole. Any personal goals, accomplishments, and successes should be fulfilled along with enjoying alone time and time with family/friends.

  3. awezome-writer profile image75
    awezome-writerposted 3 years ago

    Thank you @Cristale. I am actually engaged right now and were planning to get married this August. I hope I'm ready. @_@

  4. itknol profile image81
    itknolposted 3 years ago

    "I hope I'm ready"? smile Hope this won't lead to "I hope I do" at the altar.

    You are either a family person or need to age enough for that:

    What I refer to 'a family person' is:
    Someone who plans on having a family from age, about 15-17 years old, or fits a similar description.

    I believe I will be a good father but not before 30-35, because I haven't felt it yet and haven't thought about it yet, so I believe I am not a family person.

    And as for aging...
    Just as Cristale says - after marriage it's all about the two of you.
    Do you feel that you want to settle down?
    Are you bored with clubbing, traveling or whatever you do recreational?
    Have you already had such an amount of experiences that you are ready to turn your back on everything you could call 'adventurous' and give it all to a single human being (and perhaps a couple of other beings later on)?

    It's not my goal to be rude here, but starting a family is a big responsibility and once you 'I do' the result of that will be a foundation for raising a kid - a separate life that relies entirely and solely on the environment you have set at home and the overall happiness in this marriage.

    Of course, no one knows how things will turn out, but there is one thing I know for sure - I had my fair share of seeing broken families and broken people without childhood and smashed psyche, because of immature decisions.

    Cheers,
    ItKnol

  5. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 3 years ago

    Complete your education goals and establish your career path, do some serious introspective thinking to figure out what you want and need in a mate for life.
    Ideally you want to have some dating/relationship experience which helps one to learn more about them self with regard to likes and dislikes. Remember each of chooses our own friends, lovers, and spouse. Therefore you are responsible for your own happiness. Make sure you're marrying someone who (already is) the kind the person you want to be with and not hoping that they will (become) that person. Don't get married for the wrong reasons,
    The goal is to find someone who shares your same values, wants the same things for a marriage that you do, (naturally) agrees with you on how to obtain those things, and last but not least there is a (mutual) depth of love and desire for one another.
    "Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."
    - Oscar Wilde

  6. profile image60
    Gengarveyposted 3 years ago

    The best thing you can do is to prepare well for your marriage. Also, sit down with your fiancee and talk about the kind of marriage you both want and desire.

 
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