How can I avoid a materialistic person?
I am faced with this person's behavior on many occasions. She has been deprived and now can't stop showing off her valuables and the constant, ''I have bought a new cell phone,'' or ''I have bought new furniture.'' How can I avoid this person or just ignore her behavior?
What about letting that person know how you feel?
For example, "It seems to me that all you talk about these days are your possessions. I am happy for you that you have what you have, but:
I'm beginning to get bored with that / I'm a bit uncomfortable focusing on you all the time / there are some other things I prefer to talk about." (Tell her what you would rather talk bout or do.)
If she gets the message from any of those reasons, feel free to change the topic of the conversation. If she wants your companionship, she'll adapt; if not, she'll stay away at least for a while.
Don't ignore or avoid her, just accept her for how she is..That's basically it, but i'll give you a great tip..Like you say if she was deprived & now has a lot of nice things/possessions, then it's probably expected that she'd end up a show off now..The most important thing to remember is if this girl irritates/annoys you just by showing you things she's got or how she acts etc, then that's something you need to work on..Just like her emotional mind is trying to justify herself or give her ego a boost by showing off etc to you, "IF" you "let" her annoy/irritate you, then that's "your" emotional mind playing the same sort of trick on you....So what you should do in my honest opinion & what i always do when in situations like yours, is i use them for "practice" to see if i can stand there & not get affected by their words etc..What i found was after a few months practice i can stand there, & no one can affect my emotions with words or showing off..So the next time she starts to annoy you look into where your unwanted feelings/emotions come from, your'l find after a few months practice that the feelings/emotions you say she causes in you, "you" are actually creating yourself by how your reacting to her....Once you get the gist of what I'm saying, & if your interested I'll tell you the vids where i learned this myself..You will actually in a way look forwards to a "good old" confrontation, or a show off bully offensive person etc, because you will see it as just practice for yourself!lol..Believe me once you actually stop letting offensive/show off kind of people affect your emotions, NO ONE will ever be able to affect your emotions negatively ever again.
Utube Eckhart Tolle "Mindfulness" + "ego mind" + "emotions/feelings control"..Watch it/Learn it/Practice it, & remember that if you don't think it's working...Your either not getting the "gist" of it, or you haven't given it enough practice..
What does "has been deprived" mean? Of what by whom? I have been deprived and remain deprived of having my own jet, racehorse, jacuzzi, and season ticket to the Met, but I don't fret about it. I'm grateful for what I have or have use of. One idea would be to neither avoid nor ignore the materialistic woman but instead to be friendly to her, to express your gladness that she is pleased by her acquisitions of material possessions, and then to guide the conversation to aspects of her life that you find interesting and admirable. Read the Brothers Grimm folk story "The Fisherman and His Wife" to learn about the illusion that the way to satisfaction is more possessions. What are the woman's real biological, emotional, and spiritual needs?
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