Do you think both partners in a marriage should initiate intimacy?
Most couples have issues in the bedroom. Do you think one of the partners should constantly initiate intimacy or should both be part of the initiation?
100% yes. Intimacy is a very intricate part of marriage. Some people are more of the confident type and have an easier time initiating their physical feelings.It is healthier if both them play a role in contributing to the intimacy, because though one may show it more than the other, everyone likes to feel wanted. Hope this helps!
Yes, I think both couples should both participate and not just one initiating the intimacy. I would say fifty-fifty, it is a two way thing and both couples will enjoy intimacy more this way. It must be horrible when one wants it and the other doesn't.
Absolutely! No one wants to be the person who (always) has to initiate intimacy in a relationship/marriage. It's natural to want to feel (desired) by your mate whether you're woman or a man.
One of the reasons people often use for having an affair is they met someone who made them feel "special" or desirable again. I suspect some men are attracted to porn industry and strip clubs is because the women (act) like they "crave" men and will do anything to please them. This (fantasy) is often the opposite of what these men experience in reality or at home.
Women have been known to fall for men who compliment and shower attention on them which may be in stark contrast to how their boyfriend or husband treats them. Everyone wants to feel "special" and "desired" whether they make it known or not.
I agree that both should initiate. There is a worry that if only one person is the instigator every time, that the other isn't really invested in the intimacy, or worse, the marriage. Expressing intimacy and desire can help build self esteem and stronger bonds in marriage, so it's vital that both participate.
Marriage is improvised. There are no shoulds that fit all. If one partner is more timid and the other is more forward, the more forward one will likely most often take the initiative--but for variety and to help the timid one gain some freedom from timidity, the bolder one might sometimes with positive reinforcement encourage the timid one to take the initiative: What is the distinction between taking the initiative and giving encouragement? Not a lot. But for someone who can't believe that being forward is OK, lots of patient, uplifting encouragement is a loving gift.
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