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Dating without sex?

  1. Barine Sambaris profile image75
    Barine Sambarisposted 3 years ago

    Dating without sex?

    Is it really possible in this century? What are your views on it and which gender gets affected more?

  2. Snøwman profile image60
    Snøwmanposted 3 years ago

    I think it's very possible and it's better. I know several people that have done it. Sex should always happen after marriage. I don't know which gender is affected more.

  3. dashingscorpio profile image88
    dashingscorpioposted 3 years ago

    Yes it's possible. All one has to do is find someone who shares their same values, wants the same things for a relationship, and naturally agrees with you on how to obtain those things.
    Generally speaking couples who want to practice celibacy while dating tend to be religious as well.
    The problem a lot of folks have is they find themselves attracted to people who do NOT share their same values!

    1. peeples profile image95
      peeplesposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Exactly. The key is not finding someone who DOES want sex and telling them they are wrong because they don't want to wait. It must be something talked about early on and agreed to by both parties.

  4. Cameronct profile image60
    Cameronctposted 3 years ago

    It is very possible and is indeed a reality. Whether or not it should happen is up to the couple.

    Asexuals, for example, often date and have marriages that involve no sex.

    Gender doesn't really play into peoples preferences more than what each individual person believes.

  5. DDE profile image24
    DDEposted 3 years ago

    It is up to the individual so it can be possible with control.

  6. blessedp profile image81
    blessedpposted 3 years ago

    Oh yes it is!  You have to set boundaries where others will respect and will not cross.  Try and date persons that has standards similar to yours.  Persons that you will share common interest and ideas.  Dating these persons will foster a healthy more friendly atmosphere.

    Going on a date should not mean sex.  It means getting to know the other party a little better.  Choose places that are less conducive to being alone with that party for long periods.

    Let your date be fun filled  and not sex filled it is not about intercourse but getting to know each other.  Be not forced to engage in sex on any date; find out what that person s about first.  Sometimes that's their only interest.  More often I hear of girls being pressured more than boys; but it depends I guess.

  7. Deliberate Writer profile image61
    Deliberate Writerposted 3 years ago

    It is very possible. My husband and I chose to not have sex until we were married for personal reasons (and we didn't). We were married three years ago (and we were in our 20s).

    I think it was both easy and hard on each of us for different reasons. The easy part was that we simply "didn't have to worry about it." With sex out of the picture, we could focus on the friendship part of our relationship and we became extremely good friends. (In fact, even after we were married, sex seemed to complicate things for quite some time).

    Difficulties for him: I think he is more "wired" for sex than I am, so he "wanted" it more (though he was always a perfect gentleman).

    Difficulties for me: I grew up in a culture where it was abnormal for people to not have sex before they were married. I was afraid that if I didn't "put out" (even though both he and I agreed that we wouldn't), that I would lose him. My problem was more phycological than physiological.

    I know that some people choose to not kiss or even hold hands before they are married and that is their choice (though I personally think that could be taking things to another extreme). We personally had no problems with that. We made boundaries and we kept to those boundaries. We even lived in the same apartment before we were married (and still didn't have sex). It is very possible.

  8. Lady Guinevere profile image61
    Lady Guinevereposted 3 years ago

    Sex is overrated in my opinion.  I think it is very possible to restraint from sex in dating.

  9. goodnews11 profile image90
    goodnews11posted 3 years ago

    Its possible if people have self control. People who dont date for sex can date without sex.