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What do you think of sex on first date?

  1. katarinaphang profile image40
    katarinaphangposted 7 years ago

    When do you think it's the right time to have sex?  3rd date?  10th date?  Commitment?  Marriage?  Depends...?

    1. Rod Marsden profile image76
      Rod Marsdenposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Depends sounds about right. Sex on the first day isn't very likely.

    2. pisean282311 profile image60
      pisean282311posted 7 years agoin reply to this

      personally i am not for that idea..

    3. teairramarrie profile image56
      teairramarrieposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      hi, look i'm not an expert when it comes to these things but don't give it in your 1st date...
      smile

    4. Ben Evans profile image75
      Ben Evansposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I think you have to ask why you want to have sex on the first date.

      If you just enjoy having sex and that is what you would like to do, then I would say go ahead and enjoy it.  Have fun and know that there is not likely to be a second.  Maybe there will but not likely.  You and your date already decided what was most important which was sex.

      If you want to have it because someone would expect it and you really dont want to do it, then dont.  Easy as that.  In fact stay away from these type of men.......The longetivity of the relationship will be short.  There are also a bevy of things that go with short-term frequent sex/


      So the bottom line is if it is exciting and that is what you want.......ie sex not a relationship, go ahead.  If you want more than one date and you like ther person, then dont. 

         I think often we think about an unwritten sexual protocol.......Rules of engagement if you will.  All I can say is follow your own rules. 

      I think the quality of my relationship is far more important than sex but that is me and that would be my personal choice.

    5. qwark profile image59
      qwarkposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      After I was divorced in my mid 30's, my favorite dates were 1 night stands.
      If the chemistry is there, what's wrong with bringing joy and satisfaction to both on the first date?
      I loved the ladies, I loved consensual sex, I loved the animal passion of 2 bodies locked in wild, hot, crazy and delicious sex!
      I can find nothing wrong with that.

      1. Greek One profile image74
        Greek Oneposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        i disagree with the need to bring pleasure to the other person.

        1. qwark profile image59
          qwarkposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          I always want my date to orgasm as many times as she can b4 I do..
          Those are her responsiblity.
          I will perform until she says lets finish together...oh yes!!!

  2. Pearldiver profile image81
    Pearldiverposted 7 years ago

    You're asking guys this question? hmm lol

    As a guy I would have to say.... It depends on the date lol

    1. rebekahELLE profile image89
      rebekahELLEposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      as a girl, I would have to say 'no'.  I have, but I won't any longer. too many crazies. and I agree with one of the posters, why make it so easy?  big_smile

      1. Pearldiver profile image81
        Pearldiverposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        lol All Crazies aside..... For a Scorpio It's far more fun getting to know your date before jumping eachother. lol

        Besides... Why let a girl think she's in charge lol
        If you know you're a good catch.... Make them work harder lol

        1. katarinaphang profile image40
          katarinaphangposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          You still can make them work harder when they are addicted to you.  There's a bunch of ways to do it...ask the expert. big_smile

    2. katarinaphang profile image40
      katarinaphangposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Both guys and girls.

  3. kirstenblog profile image78
    kirstenblogposted 7 years ago

    Depends is right.....

    What about a relationship of many many months online, then the first meeting and you can barely get through the front door before pulling each others cloths off in a fit of passion......

    Technically thats the first date but it sounds good to me smile

    1. Pearldiver profile image81
      Pearldiverposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Yummmmmmmm..... With or Without Virus Protection? hmm

      1. kirstenblog profile image78
        kirstenblogposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        lol
        where can I get cyber condoms? lol

        1. pisean282311 profile image60
          pisean282311posted 7 years agoin reply to this

          lol

    2. katarinaphang profile image40
      katarinaphangposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Yeah that happened to me a few times before I met my husband.

  4. myownworld profile image79
    myownworldposted 7 years ago

    I agree, dating has moved onto a whole new level altogether, what with online communication, skype etc. Even before a proper 'date' in person,  lots of people these days have already moved through that initial awkward stage because of web cams. Not saying, it's the same as meeting in person, but just that if one's relationship has progressed for a certain time already online, then when you do meet in real life (and there are no rude shocks!) it's not very hard to get physical with each other the very first time.

    Not saying it's right or wrong either way, but just that it happens... smile

  5. calvindoyle profile image56
    calvindoyleposted 7 years ago

    For me it's ok at first date.Also it depends upon your partner.

    1. teairramarrie profile image56
      teairramarrieposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I don't think so...sad
      for me it's just not right..

      1. katarinaphang profile image40
        katarinaphangposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        sometimes it can feel right, again that depends on the persons and circumstances.  It felt so right between me and my husband and we never left each other ever since (well, apart from when we broke up last year).

  6. teairramarrie profile image56
    teairramarrieposted 7 years ago

    It's dating...it's supposed to be romantic.....right?

    1. katarinaphang profile image40
      katarinaphangposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      yup...and/or lusty when the person and mood are right. wink

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    sarahsherlockposted 7 years ago

    I wouldn't on the 1st date. Men tend to lose interest quickly if there is no chase involved.

    1. katarinaphang profile image40
      katarinaphangposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      They can lose interest when there is no sex too.  So maybe it's not the sex.  He's just not that into us.

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    BereniceTeethposted 7 years ago

    It all depends on what you're looking for as a person when you agreed to have a first date to begin with. Having sex with someone you barely know can be exciting, fun and if you're not after any sort of commitment and you both feel an instant attraction to each other, then why not? On the other hand, if i'm in a stage in my life in which I'm aiming for a little bit more than just a fling and I feel serious chemistry with my date, then I'd try waiting a few more dates. When sex is in the middle so soon it can make things complicated when they're really not. As a woman, I find it quite hard to separate feelings and expectations of my date with the actual sex intercourse, and I wouldn't want it any other way!If I have to compare my greatest sex experiences with someone I have just met and with someone I've been dating for a while, I'd rather the latter, even if eventually the relationship didn't work. Besides, having said that, first times with strangers can be fun, but they can also be awkward. As for on line communication, the same thing applies. Maybe this sounds just like an old fashioned girl thing but if I really like the guy and I have some basic interest in the person further than mere physical pleasure, I will wait.

  9. SomewayOuttaHere profile image60
    SomewayOuttaHereposted 7 years ago

    sex only when you get married..........what some of you are having sex before or in between????

  10. prettydarkhorse profile image64
    prettydarkhorseposted 7 years ago

    No for me, because I want to make it special, not that it is not special the first time you met in person, but it is good if you feel the dating part first -- like enjoy talking or eating etc.

  11. Polly C profile image91
    Polly Cposted 7 years ago

    Not for me either - personally I would have to form more of an emotional attachement to someone first.

  12. SpiritLeo profile image71
    SpiritLeoposted 7 years ago

    An honest man will tell you that if he has sex with a girl on a first date, he may enjoy it, but he probably won’t want to date her seriously because the mystery and the challenge are gone.
    Men are hunters and enjoy the chase, and the longer the chase goes on, the greater his respect and the more likely a woman will win his heart.

    1. katarinaphang profile image40
      katarinaphangposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Not always the case, though.  My last 2 long term relationships, including with my husband, we had sex on the first dates (yes, believe it or not).  I wrote lengthily here:

      http://gettheloveyoudeserve.info/forum/ … ould-we-or

      and here:

      http://gettheloveyoudeserve.info/forum/ … hey-feel-1

      1. Greek One profile image74
        Greek Oneposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        i'm not going to believe that until i see photographic evidence

        1. katarinaphang profile image40
          katarinaphangposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          LOL...you need our foot prints too?

          1. Greek One profile image74
            Greek Oneposted 7 years agoin reply to this

            nah.. not into feet

    2. katarinaphang profile image40
      katarinaphangposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Often when you refuse to have sex too long, he will leave because he feels you don't like him.  He has needs too, you know.  And it's not about the physical aspect of it (though it's certainly attractive).

      So be careful, playing coy can backfire big time. You have to take into account his needs too.  That's what's relationship is all about, no?

    3. profile image66
      logic,commonsenseposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      If the mystery and challenge are gone after sex on the first date, there wasn't much there to begin with.
      I would have to say the mystery and challenge would be to see if it happened again on the 2nd date? smile

  13. Greek One profile image74
    Greek Oneposted 7 years ago

    manditory...

    or else i go home very, very sad and assume she is a lesbian

    1. pisean282311 profile image60
      pisean282311posted 7 years agoin reply to this

      lol i have gone home sad most of times as per ur point then..

      1. Greek One profile image74
        Greek Oneposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        so many lesbians out there!!!!!11

  14. Wayne Orvisburg profile image75
    Wayne Orvisburgposted 7 years ago

    Yes Please

  15. profile image46
    stlouiskidposted 7 years ago

    As a man I started dating two girls at the same time about a week apart. One gave it up on the first date the other did not(I tried.   I married the one that did not!!!!!

    1. Greek One profile image74
      Greek Oneposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      still got the number of the 1st girl??

      1. pisean282311 profile image60
        pisean282311posted 7 years agoin reply to this

        lol

    2. Pearldiver profile image81
      Pearldiverposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Of course if what you say is true.... then legally your marriage is null and void.  If you haven't consummated it then not only are you a Dud... but so is your marriage lol

      1. Greek One profile image74
        Greek Oneposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        you have to take things slow in marriage in order for the passion to last 40 or 50 years.

        1. profile image0
          kimberlyslyricsposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          must agree.

      2. profile image0
        kimberlyslyricsposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        lol lol lol

  16. ceciliabeltran profile image73
    ceciliabeltranposted 7 years ago

    i don't try food unless i know what's in it. so same with men.

    1. donotfear profile image90
      donotfearposted 7 years agoin reply to this


      Excellent......applause!

  17. torimari profile image69
    torimariposted 7 years ago

    Aside from this online dating (no comment), no way would I be bumping on the first date.

    I won't let anyone hit it unless they are worth it and I feel like I want to pursue a relationship with them.

    Unless someone is just looking for a casual sex partner, sex on the first few dates sounds like a recipe for a failing, physically-centered relationship.

    Depends what ya want.

    1. Greek One profile image74
      Greek Oneposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      lol aside from online date smile

      1. torimari profile image69
        torimariposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        Haha, this is called me not reading what I wrote. I'm not a big supporter of online dating and didn't want to get into the whole 'sex on first date since we have talked 'dated' online for 5 months' thing. Some people find it a touchy area....bad choice of words on my part.

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          Justine76posted 7 years agoin reply to this

          he he..touchy...

  18. Fluffymetal profile image76
    Fluffymetalposted 7 years ago

    I don't think it's lady like... but hell I've done it. smile

    1. katarinaphang profile image40
      katarinaphangposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I like to be unlady-like, sometimes...it's fun and liberating. big_smile

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        Justine76posted 7 years agoin reply to this

        ha ha!!! It's pretty fun, especially if your as pretty as you!! I bet the boys mouths just drop.

        1. katarinaphang profile image40
          katarinaphangposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          Oh thanks ...(blushed).

          1. profile image0
            Justine76posted 7 years agoin reply to this

            big_smile your welcome. Have fun here, its nice to meet you!

  19. wychic profile image91
    wychicposted 7 years ago

    I'd say definitely not, for me, because I like to know that a guy will work hard for that particular privilege wink. However, that said, since online was brought up...I have had sex on a "first date", though it was after six months of talking to the guy online and it was his first day here after giving away nearly all of his earthly possessions and moving thousands of miles to be with me. I think he already proved he was willing to work hard for it. And I married him a year later, so I guess it worked out just fine big_smile.

    1. katarinaphang profile image40
      katarinaphangposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Yes it all depends...

  20. Misha profile image78
    Mishaposted 7 years ago

    Sex on a first date? I love it smile

    1. katarinaphang profile image40
      katarinaphangposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Surprise...surprise....

  21. LeanMan profile image88
    LeanManposted 7 years ago

    Why date??? Does anyone out there want sex??

    1. katarinaphang profile image40
      katarinaphangposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I have done that too...

  22. profile image0
    Non-offensiveUserposted 7 years ago

    Sex on the first date is great, unfortunately I'm usually the only one that shows up so it kinda looses something.

    1. katarinaphang profile image40
      katarinaphangposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Ha...it that all you can get? big_smile

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        Non-offensiveUserposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        I even brought flowers, and nothing.....

        1. katarinaphang profile image40
          katarinaphangposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          I just reread your post again, thought it was hilarious.  Yes it's hard to have sex when you MASTURDATE. big_smile

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    Justine76posted 7 years ago

    the last time I had sex on a first date I ended up married...

    1. katarinaphang profile image40
      katarinaphangposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Ha...me too!!  So be careful, if you don't want to marry too soon don't have sex on first date!  Make sure it's 3rd.  Safer that way. big_smile

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        Justine76posted 7 years agoin reply to this

        wait a sec, I just saw at the top, this is under "breaking up"? hahahahhaa.....wait, maybe that wasn't supposed to be funny?

    2. myownworld profile image79
      myownworldposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      big_smile me too! What a price to pay for a little 'mishap' like that....! wink

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        Justine76posted 7 years agoin reply to this

        HAHAAHHAHAHAHAHHAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

        gotta go take the results of my first date to the Doctor's for her annual checkup now.  smile   catch y'all later

      2. katarinaphang profile image40
        katarinaphangposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        too funneeee....lol

  24. Cagsil profile image60
    Cagsilposted 7 years ago

    lol lol lol

    The last time I had sex I wasn't even dating the girl and we did not go out on a date at all. hmm

    lol lol lol

    1. profile image0
      Justine76posted 7 years agoin reply to this

      ummmmmm

      Im so confused...

      1. Cagsil profile image60
        Cagsilposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        Why are you confused Justine? lol

    2. katarinaphang profile image40
      katarinaphangposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Did you order it online for delivery? big_smile

      1. Cagsil profile image60
        Cagsilposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        No. smile

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      Non-offensiveUserposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      Did you have to get a shot afterwards to get the dripping to stop too? 

      Sorry is that too much info?

      1. Cagsil profile image60
        Cagsilposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        You're not funny. roll

        1. profile image0
          Non-offensiveUserposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          I just wanted to know if I was the only one

  25. profile image0
    Non-offensiveUserposted 7 years ago

    Anyone want to go on a date?

    1. myownworld profile image79
      myownworldposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      with or without..um.....?!

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        Non-offensiveUserposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        Well I'm not looking to get married if that's what you're asking....

        1. myownworld profile image79
          myownworldposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          lol

          you aren't? whew..glad we've got that out of the way....!

          @justine, take care with it...time for annual reflection on our past mistakes....  roll

        2. katarinaphang profile image40
          katarinaphangposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          then no sex for you...!

  26. Milla Mahno profile image71
    Milla Mahnoposted 7 years ago

    I enjoy it wink

    1. katarinaphang profile image40
      katarinaphangposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      You mean sex on first date or the discussion?

      1. Milla Mahno profile image71
        Milla Mahnoposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        Well, I meant sex actually - but both lol

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        Non-offensiveUserposted 7 years agoin reply to this

        If it means anything, I've never been on a second date...

        1. katarinaphang profile image40
          katarinaphangposted 7 years agoin reply to this

          You are always dumped after sex on first date? lol  or after first date period? lol

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            Non-offensiveUserposted 7 years agoin reply to this

            I'm usually the only one showing up for the first, so what's the point of a second?

  27. Richieb799 profile image75
    Richieb799posted 7 years ago

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    you knew he was gonna turn up in this thread

    I could be bothered to state my opinion but I thought this was funny

  28. Greek One profile image74
    Greek Oneposted 7 years ago

    in all honesty, when a girl did anything with me on a first date, I automatically put her in the 'not marriage material" pile.

    I know that is hypocritical, and I know that it is unfair because I spent much of time on these first dates trying to get laid....

    but I have forgiven myself and I'm OK with that now
    smile

    1. katarinaphang profile image40
      katarinaphangposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I bet if you really like the girl you'll give her a chance to prove you wrong.

  29. profile image66
    logic,commonsenseposted 7 years ago

    I always think of sex on the first date!  And everyone after that! smile

  30. bojanglesk8 profile image60
    bojanglesk8posted 7 years ago

    I like.

  31. MadCowWritings profile image58
    MadCowWritingsposted 7 years ago

    I let my date to the thinking while I do the talking.

  32. salt profile image75
    saltposted 7 years ago

    It seems the more male and the more mature male favor sex on the first date. The more burned by love, the more eager for quick passion.

    The women, some seem to marry whoever they have dated longest without having had sex. Some seem as if marriage was a trap set by the male they dated.

    Others warn of the dangers of diseases from those too keen to wait.

    So, what would it be. I think it depends on the relationship. If you know someone and like them then the shift from friendship to a sexual relationship could be one that is a natural progression. For those who have waited until they were in a deep committed relationship, just to find that in bed there is no passion or joy or fun or desire....

    So what can be the sign of a relationship set to bloom?

    And are all relationships meant to be those that last for life?

    There are a few very stereotypical male responses to what they expect of women, whilst they may pressure for the opposite and then project an image upon the female that may in fact be their own.

    Possibly, boys should be educated in how to woe a girl and develop good relationships rather than the did you get any... does she put out?

    Which, for some has resulted in a boy bumbling his way forward with a girl who had no desire give that part of her to someone wanting to prove his manhood to his friends in the playground.

    And that is it. At that age, it is still a playground - teach boys respect and girls freedom to choose.

    1. Ben Evans profile image75
      Ben Evansposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      The atypical response in regards to having sex on the first date is either it is not okay for moral reasons or it is all right.

      There is no middle ground.  I do beleive that people should do what the believe is right not what they are led to believe.

      You bring up a good point.  We as males have been socialized in the sexual sphere.  "Did you get it?"......... is a common thing that we hear.  In fact we are socialized to believe that verility is so important.  ie frequency, size, longetivity ect.

      Sex on the first date for most  is a "one night stand".  For most men a one night stand is stroke of their virility.  I think if someone is interested in developing a relationship they should refrain from making sex the most important part. There will be sex at some point and it may be real frequent but at that point it will part of the relationship as opposed to some social necessity.

  33. alternate poet profile image65
    alternate poetposted 7 years ago

    for most people if they dind't get sex on the first date they would never get any !

    1. Ben Evans profile image75
      Ben Evansposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      I have had relationships where sex goes away.  It feels bad.  I believe that sex often is used not only for procreation and pleasure but for control.  Both men and women use it in this manner.

      It hurts though and when we look inside and wonder......."What did I do?"

    2. watchya profile image60
      watchyaposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      lol lol lol

  34. profile image0
    philip carey 61posted 7 years ago

    I think that if you love someone, if you truly have feelings for them, then that is the standard. Sex is a natural and beautiful expression of two people in love. Call me a prude, but I find the idea of casual sex both cheap and empty. I realize some people are able to separate sex from emotion. I have never been able to do that.

    But, sure, if I see a beautiful woman, I'm prone to turn my eyes over her once, albeit discreetly. ;-)

    1. alternate poet profile image65
      alternate poetposted 7 years agoin reply to this

      that is an easy trick - love for the moment, suspend disbelief and pretend you are both in some tacky bodice ripper - worked for me in my 'working' days,  every time big_smile  now of course I am a sober well behaved gentleman

  35. mega1 profile image80
    mega1posted 7 years ago

    If you've known someone a long time, and this first date is more like a "tryst" - go for it!  But sex with someone you don't know very well is always a very, very bad idea - don't make yourself so vulnerable - even being alone with someone you don't know very well is a bad, bad idea!

 
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