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What I need to do with my Girl Friend?

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Guptainfosysposted 3 years ago
What I need to do with my Girl Friend?

Hi, Previously few days ago I got a GF, n I loved too much. I told her everything about my past and she also told me everything her past. But I asked her did you sex with your previous BF, She told me no. Yesterday she told me that his Ex BF is making a problem and she gave me his number. I called him and I did talk around 10 mins. In end he told me that he need to do sex again with her. I socked and I cut the call. After I called my GF and I asked her did you ever sex with her boyfriend (pls tell me true for god promise) than she told yes. So tell what I need to do with her as she cheated me.
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Koyna Senposted 3 years ago
She did not cheat on you. She loves you and she lied initially because she was afraid that she might loose you if she says the truth.

But unfortunately, the wicked truth popped up and see, her apprehensions are now in action.

If you love her too, just like the way she loves you, then whatever happened in the past should not affect your present relationship with her.

You could have said that she cheated on you if she had sex when you were already actively present in her life.
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  Guptainfosysposted 3 years agoin reply to this
  Hello Koyna Sen, Thanks for your helpful answer. Yep I know that she didn't cheated me, she just didn't tell me truth that what happened with his previous Boyfriend. And yep you are right that it won't be affect with our present relationship. Thanks
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Seema Berwalposted 3 years ago
I must say, You are making an issue of a stupid thing. If she were not loyal with you, she would not have given you his no.... Ask your self a question - "does the past really matters?"
No.
If you love someone , "Love unconditionally." ... " Blindly".
If you suspect means your love is not pure.
One more truth about Masculine gender is, If a girl just even passes through the way they are, they make stories....
Never believe these stories....
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  Guptainfosysposted 3 years agoin reply to this
  I am not blaming her that why she did so, I must say her that why she didn't tell me truth. I said everything about my past life but she didn't. And I am still virgin. Now everything is clear with my GF thanks for your answer.
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dashingscorpioposted 3 years ago
She lied to you. She did NOT cheat on you!
It's impossible to cheat on someone you were not in an exclusive relationship with. She did not even know you when this took place.
You didn't mention your age here but overtime most people eventually learn to accept whomever they meet has a "past".
As you become older rarely are you going to meet someone who has not had former relationships which involved love and intimacy.
Generally speaking what upsets "immature men" is if they learn the woman they've put on their "fantasy pedestal" has more sexual experience than they do or these men are upset because they were not the "first" man to have her.
I've even known guys who would cheat on the woman they "love" in attempt to play "catch up" to have as much experience as she does.
Clearly this way of thinking illustrates a complete (lack of maturity). If you're truly "in love" the only way to make the most of your relationship is to let her past go. Tormenting yourself over something that happened "yesterday" will always keep you from enjoying "today". If you can't let it go it's best that you move on.
You are entitled to have (your own) "deal breakers". If you only want to date virgins that is up to you. If you consider lying about one's (past) to be a "deal breaker" regardless of their motivations and circumstances that is also up to you.
Without a doubt this girl does love you or else she would have never told you she was having problems with her ex as well as provide you with his phone number. In order to break free of him to be with you she was willing to risk being caught in a lie.
“Love isn't finding a perfect person. It's seeing an imperfect person perfectly.” - Sam Keen
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DDEposted 3 years ago
She did not cheat on you. Her past events are with her ex right? Discuss her issue it is not like she had sex with her ex while being with you. Sounds like she did not want to tell you everything the fear of you not accepting her made her feel that way.
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  Guptainfosysposted 3 years agoin reply to this
  I told him about everything my past and I am still virgin. Yep I know she didn't cheat me. She didn't say me because she will loose me. Never mind I have clear all the issue with my GF and now everything fine. Thanks for your answer DDE
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