Have you ever cheated on your partner? Was it worth it?

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   anancelesteposted 13 years ago

   Have you ever cheated on your partner? Was it worth it?
   
   Why do people do this?

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   Africanusposted 13 years ago

   I never cheated on my partner, but I do not agree that this should be the basis of a value judgement. It may very well be that I stayed 'faithful' simply because of my lack of initiative, or because we were very good friends before we fell in love.
   I find it almost impossible to judge. Attachment to one's partner is only one aspect of life.
   People are extremely complex and take decisions for complex reasons, personal and otherwise.

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   duffsmomposted 13 years ago

   No, I made a vow years ago, and I keep my promises.  I would never betray my husband. 
   
   I don't know why people cheat.  It seems as if they are unhappy then they should leave the current relationship rather than cheat.

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   mcrawford76posted 13 years ago

   When I was in my teenage years I cheated on every girlfriend I had. I used to date multiple girls at the same time. It was exciting to me at the time. It wasn't until I really fell in love with a girl and she cheated on me that I stopped. After I saw the pain and damage that is caused when someone has genuine feelings, and is betrayed.
   
   I never cheated again.
   
   18 years and counting.

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   moonfairyposted 13 years ago

   I've never cheated and never will....the pain I would cause and loss of trust would not be worth it to me. The fact that I respect him stands in the forefront. I feel that people who cheat have no respect for their partner. I do feel that if you feel that you want to cheat then you don't truly love or respect the person that you're with..and you have no business being in that relationship. Cheating is an incredibly selfish act.

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   feenixposted 13 years ago

   Yes, I have cheated on most of the partners I have had in my life and, quite a number of times, it was well worth it.
   
   And the primary reason why I am a "cheater" is I am a lowly sinner and very fickle. ;-)

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   xethonxqposted 13 years ago

   No I haven't, but I've been cheated on by my partner. If I'm feeling like I might be ready to look at someone else I've always looked at my relationship first to figure out why I'm not invested in it anymore. If the differences are irreconcilable then I break it off...way before I my eyes would start to wander.
   
   I think other people do it because they can...and they are focused on their wants and needs rather than the wants and needs of the relationship they are in or the person they are with.

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   Tmonicaposted 13 years ago

   I haven't cheated on any of my boyfriends. I feel why be in a relationship if you are going to cheat, just be single and nobody gets hurt.

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   catalystsnstarsposted 13 years ago

   In many ways, yes I do feel as if I've cheated on my current partner but truthfully we both feel that emotionally getting involved with another person is the true meaning of cheating. At that point, it does become worth it because you feel that this new person is better than whomever you're with.
   
   Love is numerous and various and though it may be unique, it doesn't have to be unique to an individual. Though I feel like most people who cheat are just bored or can't resist the temptation when the opportunity presents itself, I think Love still prevails above all whether cheating occurs at a severe degree or lesser.
   
   So to answer your question, no it's not worth it and people do it because it's a wonderful expression of love/lust at the moment.

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