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At what age did you have your first boy-girl steady relationship?

  1. Secretabundance profile image71
    Secretabundanceposted 3 years ago

    At what age did you have your first boy-girl steady relationship?

    Did you think that was the right age?  Why?

  2. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 3 years ago

    I was probably 16/17 when I had my first "serious" girlfriend.
    Like most teens I believed I was "grown" or mature and was ready to take on the world. I thought the adults didn't know what they were talking about and had never "felt" the way (we) felt and so forth. Like a lot of "first love" relationships we thought it was also our "last love" and we'd go off to college, get married, have children, and live happily ever after...some day.
    We were fools!
    We were too immature to realize how "unrealistic" we were!
    First and foremost "teen love" is completely different from (adult) love. A teenager has no obligations, no overbearing boss, a demanding job, mortgage/rent, car note, and utilities to pay. The most stress they have to deal with is doing homework and obeying their parents. The rest of the time they can "fantasize" about their future together.
    During our teen years our hormones are also raging coupled with our lack of relationship experience we quickly make assumptions and (completely immerse ourselves into one another) oftentimes at the expense of losing our own identity. Many teen couples (act) as if they're already Mr. & Mrs.!
    The truth is most of us (fail our way to success) when it comes to relationships. Our "shopping list" of traits we want in a mate will change dramatically over the years! This makes it highly unlikely one is going to meet their "soul mate" at age 15,16, 18, or even at 21. Truth be told we have not figured out (who we are) let alone what we need.
    I think it's great to have that "first love" and experience being "in love" while living in a (safe cocoon) where one's parents are taking care of all their material needs. The only way an adult couple can experience that kind of freedom to love like that is if they win the lottery and have none of the stresses that we typically have. This explains why people often look back on their "first love" with so much fondness. Everything was (new) and life was "carefree".
    I do believe age 16/17 is ideal to start forming relationships, going out on dates to movies, football/basketball games, dances, proms, and other school functions. I just wish we were mature enough to know that we're simply gathering dating/relationship experience at that stage in life.
    Having unrealistic expectations of ourselves and others during our teen years leads to the biggest heartbreak of all. However with pain comes growth and wisdom.

  3. nochance profile image92
    nochanceposted 3 years ago

    I got my first boyfriend at 19. It was my freshman year of college. I'm glad I never dated in high school. All my friends did and it was so much drama.

  4. DzyMsLizzy profile image95
    DzyMsLizzyposted 3 years ago

    Oh, boy--LOL
    I did not date in high school.  Not because I wasn't "allowed," but because I found boys to be immature and annoying.  I remained a card-carrying member of the "I hate boys" club that afflicts most very young girls.  I did not go to my proms, because I had no interest in doing so.
    However, I did meet a guy about a year after graduation, and that was my first date.  It was also my first marriage.  Was I ready?  No.  Was I old enough?  No.  Legally, yes, but emotionally, no.  We had 2 kids, and stayed together until they were grown and out of the house before splitting up after 30 years of marriage, the last 15 of which were pretty much a joke and in name only.
    Shortly after that, I met my current husband, who is actually my "soulmate."  So, I married my first and then my second date.  LOL  This time, I'm happy.

  5. CJWood71 profile image86
    CJWood71posted 3 years ago

    I was eighteen and just out of high school when I got involved in my first serious relationship.   I have always been a bit shy when it comes to the opposite sex and as a result, I never really dated in high school.

    For  many years, I regretted the fact that I missed out on the whole high school dating scene.  Now that I am older, I really do not give it much thought, but at the time it made me feel inexperienced.  It seemed that I missed out on so much.