Can LOVE cover a multitude of sins?
When you find out about your husband or wife cheated after long years in marriage. I bet it was completely devastated. It wasn't just the fact that he/she had slept with another man/woman; you just couldn't understand how he/she could say I really love you, while they are cheating on on you at the same time.
Fear of change and having no "deal breakers" can cover up a multitude of sins. It takes courage to and self-esteem to move on.
Nevertheless just because someone decides to stay does not mean they are "happy" nor will anything ever be "the same" again.
The mindset of a cheater is a selfish one. It has nothing to do with their overall feeling about their mate. In their mind if they did not "love you" they would have dumped you!
Most cheaters are looking to hold onto all that is good in their primary relationship while addressing their other "needs" whatever they might be on the side. The person they are cheating with is seen as a "compliment" to the relationship. Cheaters for the most part are not looking to replace one relationship with another. If their mate doesn't do something, neglects them, or simply takes them for granted they may cheat with someone who will give them (those) things.
Having said that there are different types of cheaters. The worst kind is the "incessant cheater". Their motto is "variety is the spice of life".
They most likely have never been faithful in a long-term relationship because they get BORED easily! They're usually very charming, enjoy being the center of attention, very flirtatious, and often use sexual innuendo. They're addicted to the excitement of being with someone "new". It's just a matter of (when) and not (if) they will cheat on you.
The "incessant cheater" does not need a "reason" to cheat. You can do (everything) this person asks of you and they are still going to cheat because (you can never become "new" again).
Cheating is their way of life!
by Annette Thomas 3 weeks ago
Okay Hublettes. What are your thoughts on "once a cheater always a cheater?" Let's get real here and make it like it was in 20010. Yippee. Let's go !!
by Jenny Pugh 4 years ago
Can any one give me five reasons why many American husbands cheat on their wives?I am a Filipina and have just married my American husband, Greg Pugh last October 5. My friends told me that many American husbands cheat on their wives especially when he is away. This is becoming a serious a problem...
by Jykeith Comal 8 years ago
cheaters are cheaters unlike movies... rare people change. as they sayNo matter where or when you squeeze teh orange, it always gives orange juice and not apple juice...
by Cordelia Bay 7 years ago
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by Wunmi olugbode 21 months ago
Why do men cheat ?Men ain't committing and being faithful to their partner.just wonder why.
by Vince 2 years ago
Is the percentage of people that admitted to cheating in a relationship over 20%?
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