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Do you think that a husband and wife should have atleast a child to build a stro

  1. m abdullah javed profile image79
    m abdullah javedposted 3 years ago

    Do you think that a husband and wife should have atleast a child to build a strong relationship?

  2. ChristinS profile image96
    ChristinSposted 3 years ago

    What does having a child have to do with having a healthy relationship? Many married couples are very happy without ever having children.  Many couples choose to have children and that's fine, but that isn't what builds a healthy, strong relationship.  In fact, that mindset can be dangerous.  A lot of women with abusive husbands think if they have a child together - he'll change and become more loving etc.  Other women use pregnancy to "trap a man" and the child is then born to parents who didn't have children for the right reasons. 

    A relationship should be healthy first and then, and only if both people want children, should having kids be discussed.  Children aren't for everyone.  Sadly, many people feel pressured by society to have kids they really don't want.  The result is many suffering children in this world due to selfish adults who don't think about the long term ramifications of their actions.

    Can children strengthen the bond of an already healthy relationship? sure. Should they be used for that purpose? absolutely not.

    1. gmwilliams profile image87
      gmwilliamsposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Great answer Christin.So many people have children thinking that they will strengthen the relationship,oftentimes children can draw a wedge into,even DESTROY a relationship.A relationship should be STRONG from the beginning.COUPLES make relationships

  3. liesl5858 profile image83
    liesl5858posted 3 years ago

    I don't think having a child will build a strong relationship between husband and wife. It is up to the husband and wife to build a strong relationship by themselves. Having a baby is a big commitment that both husband and wife have to discuss whether to have one or not. There are so many children who end up in orphan homes or are up for adoptions because parents can't cope with them or can't handle them. So no, having children is not a bases for a strong husband and wife relationship.

  4. Aime F profile image84
    Aime Fposted 3 years ago

    It's the other way around: A husband and wife should build a strong relationship before having a child. Research indicates that couples report the least marital satisfaction in the first year after a child is born (and then it goes back up to where it was, generally). But if you don't have a solid foundation, I do believe it's most likely to crumble after having a child. It's a really, really stressful time.

    If the thought "we should have a child to make our relationship stronger" crosses your mind, then you are probably not in the right relationship (or at least not emotionally mature enough to be procreating yet). There should be only one reason for trying to have a child, and that is because you want to love them.

  5. poppyr profile image99
    poppyrposted 3 years ago

    I don't think a child makes a relationship better.  A lot of the time, it does the opposite.  A couple should have a child when they already have a strong relationship and are ready - a child will not make a bad relationship better,

  6. fpherj48 profile image76
    fpherj48posted 3 years ago

    m a j......If a husband and wife have not started out their marriage based upon a strong relationship.....mutual love, respect & loyalty.......I would very strongly advise against bringing children into an "iffy" situation.

    To anyone who holds the delusion that "babies can fix and/or bolster a relationship,"  please.....start NOW, speaking with every couple you know who have children ....AND YOU CAN TRUST TO BE HONEST WITH YOU.

    Children are an exquisite blessing.  It is said worldwide they are a "Miracle."
    Hear this loud and clear.  They are not the miracle you're looking for to strengthen your relationship.

  7. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 3 years ago

    You shouldn't have children unless you (already have) a strong relationship!
    A baby is not a "marriage savior" nor should it be a convenient distraction to keep a couple's attention on a 3rd party while they endure a loveless marriage.
    Too many people believe by having a baby together they will ensure their spouse/mate will be with them forever. Children are not "glue".
    No one is ever "stuck" with anyone.

  8. Layton Roxxy profile image61
    Layton Roxxyposted 3 years ago

    No, if the relationship isn't healthy you should be bringing a child into it.

  9. Tina Widler profile image58
    Tina Widlerposted 3 years ago

    no they should have already a strong relationship developed and a established before they bring a child into the pan in the matter. I know this is a very hard question to answer but I think that people do change periodically and different points of their life when they age and find things out about your life but they have to work through the problems because I know I will work to my problems if I had a baby with someone someone I was not married even though I am NOT married married at the moment but thats My opinion.