What are your views on Porn? Does it hurt or help a relationship?

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   bluesradioposted 8 years ago

   What are your views on Porn?  Does it hurt or help a relationship?

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   Happylovejoyposted 8 years ago

   I guess it depends on how it was used and who was watching it - although I think it could do more harm than good because it sets unrealistic expectations in a relationship. In addition, I had a lawyer friend who shared that she had to defend a teenager who had committed a sexual offense on a girl because he thought it was normal to do what he did (he grew up having little parental supervision and basically learn doing what he did to the girl from watching porn).

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      bluesradioposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      So his defense was that Rape is the norm in Porn?   Seems even schools teach No means  No!!!!

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      Happylovejoyposted 8 years agoin reply to this

      I can't share too much details but it was not rape..more like molesting..although it's not any better..I think it's just a misguided and neglected teenager..

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   dashingscorpioposted 8 years ago

   
   
   It really comes down to the two people in the relationship.
   There is no amount of "work" or "communication" that can overcome being with someone who simply Does Not want what you want." Compatibility trumps compromise!
   Another factor is whether or not it's considered excessive in the form of being an "addiction" where it dominates one's every waking thought or causes them to ignore their responsibilities and obligations in life. The same applies to all types of addictions.
   Last but not least everyone has their own take on porn.
   Some people lump Playboy Magazine in the same group as XXX video clips. There are those distinguish a difference between (reading) pornographic passages such as in the "Fifty Shades of Grey" novels versus seeing those same exact scenes visually acted out in a video.  A (words versus visual) standard.
   Others consider viewing pornography as a form of cheating on one's mate. While many others feel it debases the emotional substance of relationships because the focus is purely all physical. Some folks feel inadequate if their mate views porn.
   A common mistake is when one attempts to "change their mate".
   The goal is to find someone who (already is) what you want.
   Whenever two people want/enjoy the same things they tend to be happier than those that don't. Who knew?!

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