1. Become a "me" expert.
Life is a personal journey and only you know what it is you need in order to feel loved. Do some serious introspective thinking to determine what traits you need in a mate for life. Until you figure out what it is (you want and need in a mate) you're likely to let "impulsive connections" and "happenstance" dictate your relationship choices. That's the equivalent of going shopping without a list!
2. Create a profile of your ideal mate.
With this exercise you can be as granular as you wish. Answer as many who, where, what, when, and how questions as possible. Examples: Do they live in the city or suburbs? Shop for clothes at upscale department stores/malls or Wal-Mart, work out at a gym? What are their hobbies/interests? Do they grocery shop at a large chain store or boutique health food store, what is their occupation?
After you have this image of your ideal mate imagine you are them! Making lists is the easy part! You have to be honest with yourself by asking: "If I were him/her would I want me?" If the answer is no then you need to go about cultivating the traits you believe this type of person would be attracted to.
(Don’t expect to sit next to the moon unless you are a star!)
4. Be there!
The only way to meet anyone is to (be where they're at!) You have to run in the same circles. The other alternative is to rely on luck, coincidence, or a chance meeting. Romantics are lonelier than proactive people. If you were very detailed with step #2 you have a pretty good idea of where to go to meet the type of person you want to meet. Check out Meetup.com for hobby groups in order to meet likeminded people who share your similar interest.
One final note
The goal is to find someone who shares your same values, wants the same things for a relationship that you do, naturally agrees with you on how to obtain those things, and last but not least there is a mutual depth of love and desire for one another.
"Never love anyone who treats you like you're ordinary."
- Oscar Wilde
Become the female version of what you want. Live your life happy and complete within yourself and seek avenues where like-minded people dwell.
by kallini2010 5 years ago
Do you agree that women look for Mr. Right while men look for Ms. Right Away?Are women genetically wired to be patient while men are are more impulsive by nature and their impulsiveness comes from the time they were hunters? Where the reaction speed was the question of survival?
by Secretabundance 4 years ago
How do you select your spouse?What is your ideal spouse? How do you find one?
by dashingscorpio 5 years ago
Would you dump your mate if they made a major change in their appearance?Recently someone posted a question asking if people would dump their mate for gaining a lot of weight or losing a lot of weight. Very often those who admit that they would are considered "shallow". Do you feel...
by godpreacher 8 years ago
I believe that most women want and enjoy true intimacy, and most would want that intimacy on a long-term basis with Mr. Right. But when there is no Mr. Right, how many women are choosing Mr. Right-Now?
by clarec 7 years ago
Should we expect a certain amount of "baggage" if looking for Mr. Right in your 30's?
by confused barbie 8 years ago
Do you believe in fate and does Mr Right exisit??
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