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Why are there so much more gay and bi women today?

  1. profile image52
    Jim50posted 3 years ago

    Why are there so much more gay and bi women today?

    There are many women nowadays that are Gay And Bi, and it is sad that many of us Straight Men are looking to meet a good woman to settle down with. And with shows like Sex in the city, and Opra certainly destroyed this generation today. Very hard for many of us men that have to deal with very nasty women nowadays that will Curse at us when we will try to start a Conversation with them, and why would they act like this nowadays? So sad that there are so many very Pathetic Women out there today. I guess they had very bad experiences with men at one time.

  2. Aime F profile image85
    Aime Fposted 3 years ago

    Oh boy.

    I don't really understand. Are you upset that women are gay, or that shows like Sex and the City have encouraged women to have active sex lives, or that some women are rude? All completely separate issues.

    As for there being more lesbians/bisexual women these days, well, I doubt that's the case. The LGBT community has gained a lot of support in the recent years, so I'd guess it's simply a matter of more women (and men) feeling comfortable to be open about their sexuality.

    I'm not sure how Sex and the City can be blamed for "destroying" a generation but I suppose that's an opinion you're allowed to have. Just out of curiosity, were you a regular viewer? Or are you going off of word of mouth? smile

    As for the ones who curse at you when you try to start a conversation... well, there are unfortunately rude people regardless of gender. I assure you that there are plenty of rude men, too.

    It sounds like your attitude towards women is rather poor. Perhaps you'd have more luck if you didn't assume they are pathetic based on first impressions, what they watch on TV, or their sexual preferences. smile

  3. Link10103 profile image74
    Link10103posted 3 years ago

    Your original question seemed honest enough. But then I read the description...bit of a doozy.

    What does a woman being Bi or Gay have to do with how nasty they are? About as much as their hair color has to do with how much salad they eat a week, I would assume (AKA, absolutely nothing...)

    And if you assume the majority of women are pathetic because they had a bad experience with a man (because clearly its all the woman's fault) and/or because they are gay or bisexual, well I can imagine why they would be nasty to you specifically.

    I personally find a bisexual woman to be pretty hot, since they are probably more sensually in tune with their body than most women are. With that in mind, I am not an idiot that actually makes a big deal about that. Havent had a horrendous conversation with a woman yet, and even if I did, I highly doubt it would have anything to do with her sexual orientation rather than me being utterly confused as to why she needs 50 pairs of shoes and a newer purse than the already new purse she has.

    Of course, thats just me

    1. jlpark profile image84
      jlparkposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      hehe re: the purses...though, even i don't understand that, and I'm a woman.

    2. Aime F profile image85
      Aime Fposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      I don't get the purse thing, either! I've had the same $20 Vans purse for like 4 years. It's black. It goes with everything. It holds my shit. Good enough for me.

    3. Link10103 profile image74
      Link10103posted 3 years agoin reply to this

      So about those shoes... Lol

    4. jlpark profile image84
      jlparkposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      I've got a few pairs of comfy sports shoes, NO heels, and a pair of dressy boots (ladies ones) - and I use a wallet - none of this purse crap. (but then I'm gay...so I may not count!)

    5. Aime F profile image85
      Aime Fposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      I wear flip flops unless it's snowing.

      I can't imagine no purse. Have you ever seen those shower games where you get points for the most random, obscure stuff in your purse? I win those. Always. Anything you could ever want can be found in my purse

    6. jlpark profile image84
      jlparkposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      I lose them..I have cards, and drivers licence. Half the time, I don't have the wallet just the debit card and my licence. I am on the look out though, for a minature "kitchen sink" - my mother has everything in her purse except the 'kitchen sink"

    7. profile image53
      Absolutely60posted 3 years agoin reply to this

      And what is sad nowadays, the women that are Straight are dating Ugly Guys. That i will never ever Understand.

  4. jlpark profile image84
    jlparkposted 3 years ago

    As a gay woman, I may be able to answer you...though, from your question description, you seem to have made up your own answer.

    There are more of us out there now, because we no longer have to hide. So, technically, there aren't any more than there ever was, but we don't have to be secretive about it anymore.  Nor have many of us had issues or bad experiences with men - we just aren't attracted to them.

    SITC, and Oprah have NOTHING to do with people being gay or bi. No one can make anyone a different sexuality than they were in the first place.

    However, these shows may have taught women in general that they can be confident, self-assured, and not have to put up with being treated badly.

    Perhaps you should look at your approach to women, rather than blaming the LGBT community for your down falls. Perhaps you are too aggressive, too in their face, too arrogant, too passive, too loud, too quiet, too assuming etc. Perhaps it is not the woman, but merely your approach to her. (You being anyone who struggles with picking up women, or women being gruff).

    It's not our fault that your approach isn't working....it's NEVER going to work with gay women - we aren't attracted to you, no matter how hard you try. (so if we say "sorry, gay" - leave it.  Telling us we've not met the right man etc...will just annoy us more)

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      Alex60posted 3 years agoin reply to this

      Well i have to certainly agree on that since many women today are out of control, and more and more women nowadays are leaving their husbands and boyfriends to be with another woman. Very sad that many women have changed for the Worst over the years.

    2. Aime F profile image85
      Aime Fposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      You mean women are feeling comfortable enough with their sexuality to go out and be with someone that they love?! The horror!

      Marriages have fallen apart for much less and sometimes it's even the man's fault!

  5. lisavollrath profile image96
    lisavollrathposted 3 years ago

    If you seem to be meeting a lot of women who curse at you when you try to talk to them, and tell you they're gay or bi, you might want to work on your conversational skills. It's not that they're nasty, or gay, or bi. It's that you appear to have nothing to offer a fine, straight, sensible woman whenever you open your mouth.

  6. tom yam profile image61
    tom yamposted 3 years ago

    Here in Thailand lots of women have tried a steady relationship with a man and been treated so badly by the guy that they are much happier (and safer) dating other women.