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   SteffyRoseposted 14 years ago

   When I tell a straight girl that I am gay, the usual response is "men can do a better job" Why...
   
   do straight girls feel the need to try and convince me that, that is what I should believe?

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   wychicposted 14 years ago

   Not to mention that such a response implies they've done a little bit more experimenting than they let on. Frankly, as with anything, who does a better job is a matter of personal preference, and not anyone's business to try to convince anyone else otherwise. I can only speak about men from my own experience, though my sister is straight and still admits that women do a better job.

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   Nick Bposted 14 years ago

   I think that everyone feels that they're right; they've found a way to suss out life from their perspective and anyone who does it differently, is wrong.
   
   Many also feel that anything GLBT related, is a disease that can be cured, not something that is ingrained into one's very psyche.
   
   Being gay is not usually a preference--although some bisexuals may answer differently--it's like a heterosexual's need to be with someone of the opposite sex.
   
   I don't see how that can be so difficult for them to understand.
   
   Anyway, I would imagine that something with batteries would hit the spot far more often and wouldn't need to be cuddled or even spoken to afterwards.

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   SteffyRoseposted 14 years ago

   "Many also feel that anything GLBT related, is a disease that can be cured, not something that is ingrained into one's very psyche.
   
   Being gay is not usually a preference--although some bisexuals may answer differently--it's like a heterosexual's need to be with someone of the opposite sex."
   
   I totally agree with you, I did not choose to be gay, I believe I was simply born gay/lesbian. And I am happy with the way I am, as I had a very easy time when I "came out". And although I am quite happy to sit and talk to my straight friends about their relationships/sexual relationships. I do find it offensive when people that I meet (ie straight girls) try to persuade me otherwise. As if, like Nick stated, being gay was some kind of disease that can be cured - especially if I was to experience sex with the opposite sex.
   It really annoys me that people feel the need to do that, I don't try and convince a straight girl that a girl can do a better job, so why should they feel the need to tell me boys do it best!?

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   kjchicposted 14 years ago

   Don't listen to them.  Men are so freaking annoying and they make me want to claw my eyes out sometimes, but I love them anyway.  You'll love who you love despite anything else.

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   psycheskinnerposted 14 years ago

   I would suggest not hanging out with such idiots.

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   stricktlydatingposted 14 years ago

   Try not to take offence to this as many straight women genuinely cannot relate to / or understand about how two women would make love. In saying 'men can do a better job' they are most likely assuming you must use various 'tools' to make love - whereas they have the 'real thing' and don't need these extra tools as they have their mans private parts.

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   Rainbowloveposted 14 years ago

   I honestly think that straight girls believe this because of their parents. If everyone was given their own brain to think with and their own opinions to work with our world would be a lot better.
   
   I've realized in these past couple of years that being a lesbian in a world where people demand you to be a certain way is kind of difficult. I went to a rally for the proposition 8 campaign and an older man insisted that I was going to touch his three year old daughters vagina. -_-
   
   I don't know who in their right mind would even think of accusing someone of this but apparently on top of being a person who is 'diseased' with being gay i'm also a pedophile?
   
   Anyways like I was saying many straight girls are brainwashed by their parents to only assume that girls and boys belong together and not girls-girls or boys-boys because that's how they themselves were raised to know.
   
   Straight girls are also convinced that since they have only been with a guy than that is what is right. By the way they can't base their opinion off of something they are clueless about, from my own point of view I think sex is WAY more hot with a girl because guys have penis's which to me is Blah and for two when a girl is having sex with you they get all fierce looking and titties are a plus :]] haha.
   
   But some girls are just very ignorant that was the moral of my answer. Sorry for blabbing about shit for a while.

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   RevRainbowladyposted 14 years ago

   Quite simply because they're straight and are attracted to men...

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    svencillposted 14 years ago

    Because their scared of being different. I think that you should be yourself and I think people are ignorant.

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    Thunder Vixenposted 14 years ago

    I  have yet to test this for myself, for the fact I find very few women to my liking but, I honestly believe when it comes to oral and foreplay that a women can pleasure a woman better because she knows how it feels. I also feel I man would would be able to pleasure a man better than a woman could . As for intercourse it depends on what you want and if you find penises gross or unappealing then of course a woman's better. If you want straight sex a man will feel better because the way his body was designed, using a vibrator or dildo could never even compare to the real thing to me personally. Same for men who prefer men to women. I think people need to stop assuming that what they like is best for everyone. As my grandpa always says "what ever turns you on". Of course this is my point of view as being interested in both sexes.

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    Julie2posted 13 years ago

    Wow, what is it that they think men can do better? Some women are just to funny...

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    clicketyclackerposted 13 years ago

    we live in a heteronormative society. kids are brought up to see straight as the "default" sexuality, thus why we say things like "turn gay", not "she turned straight after dating that girl." straight girls responding to your sexuality by stating "men can do a better job" is also probably a (unconscious or otherwise) way for them to defend their own sexuality. it can be intimidating to consider that the way you've viewed yourself and the world for your whole life could be completely different. a walking talking lesbian right in front of them is proof that an alternative exists, and since they are female just like you, this sexual alternative could apply to them too. defending their sexuality by stating that their partners are inherently better at sex than yours is probably a way for most of these straight girls to put off the scary and uncomfortable thought that they may be missing something amazing in the bedroom because of their own sexual orientation.

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    Nicole1963posted 13 years ago

    The answer to this question is very simple. The majority of individuals are only capable of constructing arguments base on their personal perception of the topic. Thus when engaged in a subjective debate such as who is better  the majority can only draw conclusions that often correspond with their own experiences and understanding.
    
    Far too many individuals lack the ability to maintain a truly open mind to discussion. They may pretend to but unfortunately their mind is closed to sound arguments because it goes against personal perception, experience, or belief. Thus the only proper way and therefore the best way is their way and any facts presented to argue against that must be wrong.

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    micahjoyposted 13 years ago

    men can do a better job of what?
    
    providing you love? satisfying you sexually? Girls that tell you this are projecting their own beliefs (or their supposed beliefs) on you. 
    
    its silly to try to explain it any more than this.  not to mention, i'm guessing most of the girls saying this are very young, immature, and inexperienced.
    
    i'm a straight female, yet i find it very easy to believe that most women would probably do a much better job of providing both of the above, than most of the men i've met....

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    onelittlecactusposted 13 years ago

    Hahaha, this is quite funny. While most lesbian women will have tried sex with men (because when we are young we are forced to consider natural only relationships between men and women), straight women don't know anything! How can you say men can do better if you've never tried a woman?
    
    I'll say the opposite - I think women know women better, and they feel them better, and therefore they do the "better job". :3

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    KaylaTheArtistposted 13 years ago

    Probably because they don't understand it since they've never been in your shoes. Next time ask them how they'd know, see if it throws them off. ;] I mean how could they know if they've only experienced one side? Either that or maybe they feel threatened in some way. Not physically I mean just like...they're afraid of what they don't understand. You know?

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    atlovesbmposted 12 years ago

    Because they are ignorant. They don't know or understand what it feels like to be with a woman. I honestly don't like to associate with people like that unless I have to.

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    Astra Nomikposted 12 years ago

    I don't like that sentence "men can do a better job"... at what? What do people think men do better? I am not being offensive to guys... It's someone saying to you that they don't accept you and that you have to accept and agree with whatever they say. Read between the words...that is what is being said. They are saying that some thing is inherently wrong about you. And the reality is ...no there is nothing wrong with being gay. Gay is just different.

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    thoughtwomanposted 12 years ago

    Next time you get that response, you need to turn around and ask them, "A better job at what?" If all men are good for is a penis, then get a dildo. Their responses are immature and ignorant and reveal that they are uncomfortable with different sexualities. Or maybe they are just trying to get you riled up. Don't let people push your buttons. Come up with a good line in response to their ignorance.

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    Cheeky Girlposted 8 years ago

    Wonderful incomplete question. Obviously it implies something of a sexual nature. But it could allude to who is a better cook... maker of babies, or boss in the workplace, or athlete or parent...
    
    Men are better at some of those but they do not have a monopoly on everything. I'm Bi, and having been with both sexes, my experience is both are wonderful but I personally have chosen to prefer women more. It's just who I am. I prefer a more nurturing person who is more emotionally tuned to who I am. There are so many variables involved in choosing a better partner, as no two people are the same.
    
    The older I become, the more I'm inclined to believe that there is not an inherent "right" or "wrong" side to the equation of this. The person who is a more apt "fit" for that particular person is the one who can do a better job because the fact that such a fit works and is successful shows it to be so. Excluding the purpose of sexual reproduction, the "fit" can be simply either a man or woman.
    
    I don't allow myself to believe what others think should be my choice. Only I can know the answer to my own personal circumstance. And it should be the same for everyone else. Each to their own.

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