Having you been in a controlling relationship? What did it feel like? How did yo

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  1. redmondunmore profile image60
    redmondunmoreposted 4 years ago

    Having you been in a controlling relationship? What did it feel like? How did you handle it?

  2. peachpurple profile image82
    peachpurpleposted 4 years ago

    my hubby controls everything in my life, what i wear, what i cook, whom i should meet, etc. Like i am a puppet, he is the master. A doggie world

    1. redmondunmore profile image60
      redmondunmoreposted 4 years agoin reply to this

      Are you happy being in that position.  Is this what you were attracted to.  Sometimes we are attracted to people like our fathers, or did you know him.

  3. dashingscorpio profile image87
    dashingscorpioposted 4 years ago

    I believe people who find themselves in controlling relationships allowed it to develop that way gradually. Initially they may have been grateful to have someone "take over" things they did not enjoy doing or they considered it to be thoughtful and endearing when they were given gifts of clothing.
    It's not until later they realize the reason he/she does it is because they see you as a (project) to be molded or "their way" is the "right way". One gets tired of second guessing every thought, decision, or act in order to avoid an argument. You have to "be yourself"
    My ex wife (note: I said ex) would complain about not getting help around the house. At one point we hired a cleaning service that claimed to also clean Bette Midler's house. My wife fired them after two weeks!  The bed sheets had to have hospital corners, towels needed to be folded a certain way, a toilet was not clean unless you used you bare hands with a soapy rag, (a toilet brush would not do), and the list goes on. 
    Naturally sex only took place whenever "the mood" struck her. After a certain amount of rejection a man gives up. By the time we went into couples therapy I was mentally and emotionally divorced from her. It was nothing more than a box to check off on the road to divorce.
    Like attracts like and opposites attracts divorce attorneys.
    People don't change unless (they're) unhappy.
    There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships: We either get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have. Stay or move on. The choice is up to us!

 
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