What is more important to you, Looks or Brains.

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  1. jonsswagger1978 profile image60
    jonsswagger1978posted 11 years ago

    On one side of the coin looks are important, I firmly believe you have to be attracted to your partner sexually, but at the same time I find an intelligent woman to be very sexy indeed.

    1. gmwilliams profile image84
      gmwilliamsposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      While looks are the drawing attraction, it is intelligence which kepts the relationship going.   I believe in using our brains guide us, not our gonads so to speak when it comes to relationships.   So many relationships and marriages are in peril because the people involved are using their gonads and not their brains. 

      The main components in a relationship are education, intelligence, and finance.  Yes, finance is also important in a relationship because a people who are financially well off are happier and there are less stresses in the relationship than if people are financially struggling.

    2. couturepopcafe profile image58
      couturepopcafeposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Definately brains. Whatever one is attracted to initially, it won't last unless there is something holding it together. Of course, birds of a feather flock together. Smart wants smart, smart and attractive wants the same usually, two airheads, well...I don't know how they'd blissfully survive but I guess they would.

      1. Lisa HW profile image62
        Lisa HWposted 11 years agoin reply to this

        How about two ugly airheads?  (I tend to think they'd be together forever, just because they may know the odds of finding someone else who wants them - unless, of course, they're too dumb to realize that   smile ).

        (Sorry.  I couldn't resist.  hmm)

    3. Dave Mathews profile image62
      Dave Mathewsposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Since I have both, I would look for both.

  2. Shadesbreath profile image80
    Shadesbreathposted 11 years ago

    I think the question is a bit of a false binary. Humans don't operate on an either-or scenario in this way. Neither is "enough" by itself.

    Looks are important in the beginning, because seldom do we go out of our way to get to know people who repulse us. Revulsion is not conducive to sustained intimacy either.

    However, spending time with a moron is unbearable, and as you get to know someone who may have seemed attractive at one point, the more idiotic you realize they are, the less attractive they become. "Looks" become subjective, and more importantly, inseparable from "brains."

    To suggest there is a decision to be made between "brains or looks" is to suggest that they are mutually exclusive, in essence reducing relationships to a choice between either "that moment you look across the bar" or "that understanding of someone you've known for many years."

  3. Jonathan Janco profile image59
    Jonathan Jancoposted 11 years ago

    Must be brains because if I meet a woman who is particularly unintelligent I find no ability to be attracted to her physically.

  4. MPG Narratives profile image61
    MPG Narrativesposted 11 years ago

    Beauty fades so I go for brains.

  5. prettydarkhorse profile image57
    prettydarkhorseposted 11 years ago

    i think it is more difficult to have brains, beauty is subjective and you can work on it with a smile, so I go for brain!

  6. Greek One profile image63
    Greek Oneposted 11 years ago

    can I go for a compromise and say 'smart vagina'?

    .....after all, I've dated alot of 'dumb asses' before

    1. Moms-Secret profile image80
      Moms-Secretposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      You made me laugh...

    2. prettydarkhorse profile image57
      prettydarkhorseposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      big_smile The Greek always makes me smile!

      1. MPG Narratives profile image61
        MPG Narrativesposted 11 years agoin reply to this

        Me too big_smile

        1. im28beyond profile image58
          im28beyondposted 11 years agoin reply to this

          hahaha. you're funny

  7. inevitablesecrets profile image60
    inevitablesecretsposted 11 years ago

    It depends but in a perfect world it would be both.  smile  I can be totally attracted to a mind but have no desire to be with the person, for a number of reasons.  Usually because they are old, married, fictional or dead.  But I also might think someone is cute but once I get to know them and they aren't that smart, forget about it.

    1. couturepopcafe profile image58
      couturepopcafeposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Definately funner than the Greek.

  8. risalat profile image60
    risalatposted 11 years ago

    Well, when it comes to girl - I prefer look over everything. I don't want my date to be a NASA scientist who is awfully ugly. But yes, sometimes smart girls are good. But again, most of the good-looking girls are dumb tongue

    1. couturepopcafe profile image58
      couturepopcafeposted 11 years agoin reply to this

      Man, I don't know what kind of girls you meet, but I must take acception to your comment. Hang in there and you may find an intelligent woman who is beautiful to you. Unless of course, you just want a piece of eye candy that you can control.

  9. profile image62
    logic,commonsenseposted 11 years ago

    How dumb are we talkin? smile

  10. im28beyond profile image58
    im28beyondposted 11 years ago

    brains...beauty fades sometimes


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