Do couples who live apart have more sex and romance?

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   dashingscorpioposted 10 years ago

   Do couples who live apart have more sex and romance?
   
   Hypothetically if a couple living in the same city over the course of (two years) took turns spending the weekend (Friday night through Monday morning) at each other's place as well as one night during the week....Do you think they'd have more sex and romance than a couple who lives together or has been married for two years? When one person is a "host" and the other is a "guest" are they likely to want to make the most of their time whenever they're together?
   
   

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   DDEposted 10 years ago

   Great question! I think so. Most couples who  live by close to each other take their relationships for granted and don't spend such moments together.  Whenever they are together they would want to make the most of their time.

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      Camille Harrisposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Agreed!! Which is why I will probably never live with another lover.

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      dashingscorpioposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      It's so easy to get sucked into (moving in together) simply because one "believes" they'll have all the passion and romance they presently have without the "inconvenience" of having to pack a bag and travel across town. Little do they know.

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   Dr Billy Kiddposted 10 years ago

   I only have a couple examples. Two friends of mine had a relationship and moved in together. It didn't work. He needed more time with his children. So did she. They decided to live apart and had a great romantic relationship. That included taking vacations together to exotic places.
   
   Another example is a couple that has been married thirty years. They are best friends. The often get excited when they see each other.
   
   So I'm not sure how to answer the question. I'd say, however, if you're best friends (and kick back together), feel like family, want to help each other in your careers, and have moved into the second stage of being in love (where you feel rewarded when you're around your partner), then live together.
   
   Another thing is that second marriages break up because partners are not accepted by the other partner's children.

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      dashingscorpioposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      "the second stage of being in love" - That's a nice way of putting it! Essentially the fire is a slow burning ember. I think some second marriages also breakup faster because people see signs earlier it's not going work out than the first time.

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      Dr Billy Kiddposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      dashingscorpio, there is scientific evidence for the two stages of being in love. The first raises your serotonin A2 levels and makes you constantly think about your partner. The second stage ups dopamine (rewards) when you're around them.

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   Link10103posted 10 years ago

   I have no real reason to think why they wouldnt. You dont spend every waking moment with them, so when you do see them its a fun and fresh encounter each time. Something to look forward to.
   
   Probably leads to some pretty explosive sex as well, if they go about things the right way while apart.

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