Is it right to have sex before marriage even if it's the norm.

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   Damanee Baileyposted 10 years ago

   Is it right to have sex before marriage even if it's the norm.

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   dashingscorpioposted 10 years ago

   Only you can decide what is "right" for you. Everyone has their own "moral compass". Life is a personal journey.

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      JThomp42posted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Great answer.

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      dashingscorpioposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Thanks JT!

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      christiananrkistposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      if that was true rape and murder would be condoned. morality is not subjective

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      dashingscorpioposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      christiananrkist, That's quite a jump you made! Pre-marital sex is not against the law! I don't know how anyone would compare it to rape and murder! Some people believe pre-marital sex is (immoral) and others do not. My point is that's personal.

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   Link10103posted 10 years ago

   If the feeling is mutual, there really isn't any reason not to. If you have doubts, for whatever reason, it would be best not to force the matter.

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   Allofher Skillsposted 10 years ago

   I think so. Marriage is an idea, a great idea, but it is still an abstract mental construction. People are real, sex is real and how we live our lives through our relationships is real. Having sex before marriage won't ruin the marriage, just like waiting to have sex won't make the marriage successful. Ultimately marriage is about unconditional love and the pledge to accompany and honor each other until death, not about sex. Braiding marriage and sex just serves to confuse what marriage should be about. When we abstain, too much energy is funneled through tense sexual channels and the excitement of discovery. You can not make an informed decision, a decision that will shape the rest of your life on Earth, with all that mental and spiritual distraction. Marriages should be entered into with clear minds and full hearts. I feel getting all the sexy bits out of the way is a wise decision.
   
   Of course there is always the religious aspect to contend with. This is where I start to see marriage as a concept instead of a promise. Religion has a way of making one thing about another and creating rules, but all this dogma sometimes makes it confusing to follow our heart. I think of all the marriages that have been rushed into because sex was an immediate factor, and I feel remorse for all those who found that they could not happy in the relationship after all. Now you have a lifetime of unhappiness or divorce, and if divorce is an option then what is the point of abstaining? - It would be like getting a sex license instead of a marriage license.

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   junksellerposted 10 years ago

   Forget norms. Sex is right because sex is right. As long as it is healthy and happy, do it now, do it later, and do it often. The how, when, and where is no one's business but your own, and the people you choose to share it with.

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   DealForALivingposted 10 years ago

   It's definitely the norm and I would guess that most teenagers would tell you that it's right. I don't think it is, because sex has consequences for both parties involved and kids aren't prepared for the consequences.
   
   Now, for consenting adults, have at it.

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   Damanee Baileyposted 10 years ago

   i think religion compromise us as individual. There are consequences for every actions whether good or bad, live with it. There are no right or wrong, it's our behavior.

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   SAQIB6608posted 10 years ago

   I wpuld say NO. You need to save the BEST for the REST of the life after marriage. If you perform sex, it will lose all your charm and fascination for it. The beauty is in the UNSEEN. Hope you got my point.

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      dashingscorpioposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      It's highly doubtful that one's marital status determines their desire for sex. (charm & fascination). In fact many people who are married are more frustrated and unhappy with their sex life than when they were single. Libido varies individually.

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