We can see and understand around the globe that sex among the youths and adult has become cramper to extend that before marriage millions have abort pregnant and other. This question was asked by a brother,is a SIN to have sex before marriage? Please I need your urgent answers thanks Mike Omoasegun
Yes, it is a sin. Anyone who has sex before marriage should obviously be burned at the stake or made to suffer some equally horrible punishment. Anyone who displays any sort of human-like behavior that is not totally and completely encouraged by some religious text regardless of how instinctive or natural it is should be destroyed and made an example of.
Well, I think we should burn the sinners, personally. I'm even a fan of bringing back the old draw-and-quarter system. But really anything from the time of the Inquisition is fine. Or, as an option, since Eve and her sisters are the real problem, send all these sex-obsessed women to me and I will discipline them myself. You gather them up and send them, I will punish them as they deserve. Let's fix this together!!!!
So, I jumped into this idiotic forum thread because Haunty's post made me laugh mightily. Now I can see there is much to be said for idiotic forum threads, much much much to be gained from these pills of knowledge.
OI, somebody get me a hanky 'cause I can't see what I'm typing with so much laugh-induced crying.
Why do you people think it is a sin? Let people do what they want.. Its their own choice to do or not to do.. its all in the head of a person.. its their personal choice... Well, according to me it is not a sin..why would people have to wait for some marriage institution to show their love?
Exactly right! Choice. We all have been given that grand agency of choice. There are good and bad choices. To be happy is not to live without boundaries or rules. That is the mask or "appearance" of happiness. Those choices that foster restraint, character building, family structure and the covenant between a man and a woman are good choices. Choices that cater to only gender instinct, lust and/or that temporary "rush" of gamble are not good choices and should be avoided at all costs. The kinds of choices one makes can easily be seen in the countenance of an individual. More often than not people seek those with attributes exhibiting a code of conduct and the character built upon that code.
Sex between adults before marrage is NOT A SIN. First of all, sins are man made and before the invention of modern medicines, having sex before marrage was not a good idea because the wide spread of VD. The whole idea of have sex after marrage was to narrow your sex partners down to one.
Yes, it is a sin. It's also referred to as fornication.
Sex is supposed to be between a man and a woman, who have made a vow, a covenant, of mariage, that will last a lifetime. At least, that's the original idea.
What the Church should do about it is a big subject. I believe it should teach, and uphold the selfsame standard. But as long as divorce rates among believers is the same as in the world, it sends the message that we hold the same standard as the world. Lead by example is what I'm saying, I think.
There's also a very weak approach on preaching in most churches with regard to the seriousness of sin. People have a very twisted view these days about what is right and wrong. Jus keep reading posts on these forums and you will soon see what I mean.
As for asking the question, you can expect a lot of abusive posts from opponents of faith and religion, so be warned.
Yes thanks, we are in the forum all of us has equal right to make hi or her points. All teacher and preacher of the Gospel should teach it in their various churches, services, seminar, etc. Thanksooooooooooo
I totally agree with aka-dj. In our church, the youth are held to very high standards. They are advised not to date before age 16 and then double date or in groups. It helps a lot when they are not alone with all their hormones raging. But if they do fall, they can repent. It is considered a sin in our church.
I think everyone should try each other out berfore marriage. It is a big part of it and if you are not compatible your marriage probally won't work. Would you buy a care with out test driving it first?
Mike, The concept of uniting for the purposes of physical pleasure, procreation and unity of male-female is not at all sinful.
Marriage by all points is that unity.
So, immediately when a man & woman enter into physical (in some beliefs, mental or emotional) connection, it is a marriage. It is well known for many years, men had many wives -Solomon included. The sin enters when one of them departs for the lust of someone else or an unnatural source of affection/unity/pleasure.
So, sex is the marriage itself, yes. Adultery, fornication (arousal of desire/passion without care or cause for unity, momentary satisfaction), divorce, etc would be the sin.
"The sin enters when one of them departs for the lust of someone else or an unnatural source of affection/unity/pleasure."
so how do you have multiple wives/husbands if you "depart for the lust of someone else" or are you saying as long as you keep having sex with the first one, you can have another, and another! Then, as long as you keep them all happy with plenty of sex/love then you're ok to go!
I love that idea - we would all keep each other happy all the time and wow - so many problems would just evaporate! but then, now I am remembering how jealous I used to get!
you're funny. orgy was not the image i was depicting.
my own opium on the issue: if people deny the urge to have sex, they are silly. It is natural for a man to want a woman, vis a vie. but to do it for sport alone -meaning self satisfaction- is even sillier. sexually inept aka today's society has all but devalued the fun/joy of marriage and unity of that marriage (children), ranging from celibacy to "prepackaged chryovac kiddy pods" that any one can buy for a price, defrost and voi la, instant family. Not to exclude the ever increasing sexually alternate generation, entertainment industry -the list is endless.
Sex outside of marriage is a sin, but Why? Intercourse is the ONLY way to SHARE YOUR SPIRIT! It has effects most people don't consider. So God deemed it a sin FOR OUR PROTECTION. Alot of people will never get that.
Yes, I believe it is. However, it is only a sin for those under the law, that is, those who have been taught the gospel and the doctrinal importance of the marriage vow. To those who have not it's a transgression. Yes, they are different.
I believe the family structure is after the manner of Adam and Eve who were, indeed, married eternally. Copulation did not happen until after the Fall. The powers of creation are of the most sacred on the Earth and are to be employed within the bonds of marriage. All else is just carnal living without restraint.
How to control the problem? Stick to your guns. Churches must stick, unwaivering, to their doctrines and precepts on marriage regardless of popular modern interpretations. A ship without an anchor is at the mercy of the winds. Stay grounded with a firm foundation and just keep teaching the correct family principles to our young.
These are perilous times when "mens hearts will fail them." The children of man need to have a focus and a foundation upon which to strive for - especially when they are in the midst of a tossing ship at sail.
The world is changing and with it the customs of the land. Today most people believe they will reach the age of 80 and possibly a decade or so beyond that. Weddings have become incredibly lavish and expensive arrangements and it is rare for someone under twenty five to wed. A lot of people wed in their thirties after having lived with the other for a couple of years.
Back in the days of the Anglo-Saxons in England a female child would be born to a peasant family and the father would buy a piglet to raise. If famine doesn't come and if war is kept away then the piglet grows up with the daughter and on her wedding day the pig is the pork of the feast. There would be a bathing ceremony for both bride and groom before the webbing ceremony and the meal of the wedding feast would be enjoyed by friends and well-wishers which generally meant the village in its entirety. An expensive business for those days but if the father planned well in the beginning the cost isn't so bad for the family, the piglet becoming a pig and then pork an investment in the future. A girl would marry at around the age of 16 or 17. The groom wouldn't be much older. At a time when most men and women did not live beyond the age of 35 it was mandatory to get mating started as soon as it could be or there might not be a future generation. Today we don't have that consideration.
Maybe living together before marriage is a sin but the law recognizes it as a modern day fact or at least in Australia. On income tax forms you will see the words De facto. It has been hoped that more living together before marriage will result in less divorces.
If you are serious about lessening the incidents of people living together before marriage you might look at the expensive nature of marriage and figure out how you can make it less expensive. Money's tight will a lot of people right now.
Yes! thanks for your comments. There is law of the land and there is Biblical truth of the marriage. in you own view of point as a Christian, is it good to have sex before marriage either with your spouse or another person?
If two people are faithful to one another without the Church's say so they may well be already married in the sight of God anyway and so the wedding is only something for the preacher and the relatives.
I think the original meaning of "sin" was more like "mistake" than like "really horrible deed". For me, the more beautiful the woman, the more likely I will make a mistake. And then I spend the rest of my time hiding from Shadesbreath!
If you saw the things I see, you would wait for marriage to have sex. People come in to have these lasered off. The problem is that many of the warts return over and over. The sexual partners of our patients who transmitted the disease was in first stages and the problem wasn't visible yet.
Sex before marriage is a sin according to Quraan .. According to me its all in the head.. the decision should be left on the person.. just stopping them by telling that its a sin this or that must not be good.. If you do it after marriage or before its all up to you..
The bible says "the marriage bed is undefiled." It does not say the unmarried bed is. In I Cor. 6:19 it says our bodies are temples of Holy Spirit and fornicators and adulterers go to hell, lit. "don't inherit the Kingdom of God." Do not pass go do not inherit $250.00.
Sex is a gift, not a sin. The sin would be in using sex to cause hurt. In the case of child molesters or rapists for example.
When sex is discovered and experimented with, as young people, there are risks that could be life changing, or life ending. Young people should be made aware of the risks and responsibilities and allowed to make up their own minds as to when they are ready.
The ancient Dogma of holiness requiring the suffering of the righteous has led to the belief that the only good people are the masochists (those people that willingly suffer). This is one major wrong turn in my opinion.
Sex, when done correctly, spreads love, compassion, understanding, joy, connectedness and goodness.
Young people are ready when they decide they are ready. We have to educate them so they make good choices, including the choice of WHEN to have sex for the first time.
AH, you're talking about the actual mechanics involved causing physical pain... I was talking about the powerful emotions involved and the emotional pain that is possible.
The mechanics of the physical side are pretty simple and I don't think anyone over the age of twelve will be having a hard time understanding that part of it. But if you are truly confused about the mechanics of it, I would suggest that you are not ready for the act itself.
Sex is messy and spreads disease, so I say let's do away with real sex all together.
It's not like it's even necessary for procreation anymore, we can all go pick out our designer babies from the fertility clinic when we are ready.
So, let's just all avail ourselves of the enormous volume of adult toys and marital aids available on the market today and we can all please ourselves and have our orgasms in the shower every morning. That way we won't have to worry about if sex (pre-marital, extra-marital, or homosexual) is a sin or not anymore.
I hope you were only joking there. Sex between two consenting adults who love each other is the MOST beautiful experience ever....and no 'toy' or 'aid' comes ANYWHERE close to the actual thing - so no, I wouldn't want to give it up for anything in the world!
LOL! No, it was just a metaphor, showing what I think about sex before marriage... I'm not settling down with anyone unless I'm satisfied with their performance, beforehand. It is an erotic prerequisite, for me.
Thanks you all for your comments, nevertheless, SEX before marriage is a SIN and is one of the causes of broken home today. Many people that have SEX before marriage mostly to those that they did not married become an acid that decade the entire body. Is better to keep your body HOLY in order to enjoying the best of the rest in your marriage. Remember, fornication is the factor that killed SAMSON of the Bible. Joseph of the Bible fulfilled God' Destiny because he ran away from SEX before marriage that brought to him from his master's wife (Genesis 39:7-12). Friends, be wise and keep to God's commandment in order to enjoying the best in lives. thanks
Generalization and assumptions at its best. What about couples who are not having good sex in their life(after marriage) ?they shouldn't break their marriage right? they just need to talk and sort it out for love of jesus eh ?
Being virgin is more HOLY than having sex, so let's become virginal item that will keep all SIN away, but hey we have to spread Christianity. Multiple then spread words of jesus, so ikuzo..
So you want whole globe to follow this ? cool, preaching begins at home. keep it to yourselves,enjoy life..
BS, ever heard of free will ? stop imposing your views on someone else's freewill.
LOL! This is probably true, for a lot of the ones who actually got married. Except, they could always utilize the freedom of "free will" and go get their "side order" super-sized somewhere else. Hell, that's how I met my last girlfriend. Ahh, the joys of being a home wrecker...ha-ha!
Might I make a refference to Romans, chpt. 3 vs 10-12. Some people sin in sexual ways, some in anger, some in violence, some with thier tongue. WE ALL SIN!!! Including when we judge. Not ONE SIN can exists in Gods presence. Picking and choosing which is worst is mans work and causes disunity. Jesus prayed that we may be one, as He and the father are one. "nor do I judge you, go and sin no more." Although it was His place to judge, he did not. We should follow His example.
Seek ye first the kingdom of heaven, and all these things will be added to you. If we would spend just 75% of our energy on obeying the greatest commandment, we would be much different people than we are. However we tend to spend most of our energy being self-rightous. Now I'm not judging, it's in our make up. It's called SIN. I would like to see more people attempting to be less judgemental, judging is Jesus job, not ours.
I think its kind of dumb to suggest burn all the sinners, that would mean the one who said that would be on the list as well since we are all sinners according to the bible. To answer the question, the bible says it is a sin. I dont make the news, I just report it.
Well during the cold war we could have said let 'em fly. The missiles that is. zzron would then get flaming sinners all over the place. Those who are then without sin stand on the cinder and salute in the direction the flag used to be.
I have been told judging is supposed to be someone else's job so in that respect let's pass the buck.
Adultery is adultery. Any sex outside of marraige, to include utility sex inside a marraige, should be considered a sin. If this sex leads to abandoning you partner it should be grounds for breach of manners and the violator should be branded with the letter "A", for ---hole, in the middle of their forehead.
ever had any really good "utility sex"? just wonderin - never heard that term before. teehee utility sex I'm picturing it -doing the laundry, paying the bills, having sex, mowing the lawn - the to-do list!
Wow.... haven't certain christian views changed since biblical times
Didn't a famous biblical king jump the wife of one of his soldiers and enjoyed it so much that he decided to get rid of the poor guy by sending him to battle, so that he would get killed and thus legitimise the 'A' that he wore on his crown? /
I suppose that act could be interpreted as 'abandoning your partner' couldn't it?
What a Truely Wonderful thing... the Preaching Double-Standard BS is!!
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