What does it he really mean when he kisses you but doesn't want a relationship?

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  1. Poetic_1 profile image61
    Poetic_1posted 14 years ago

    What does it he really mean when he kisses you but doesn't want a relationship?

    I have liked this guy for 2 years while I was in a horrible relationship. And I know he liked me. Well two weeks after I was dumped he kissed me. And not just like a little peck, like full out kiss. It actually made me dizzy. Well ever since he has kinda been avoiding me. Stopped coming in my work and stopped hanging around me. When I finally got a hold of him ater 3 weeks more I asked him what we were and he said, "I don't really want a relationship. I want to 'focus on school'."

  2. stricktlydating profile image84
    stricktlydatingposted 14 years ago

    He probably wanted to kiss you for two years, but knew he couldn't as all that time he knew you as being someone in a relationship. When he finallly got to kiss you he completely freaked out! Went into hiding, didn't know what to do.  He feels uncomfortable about it for whatever reason. Just give him a little time to calm down (sort his feelings out).

  3. Hmrjmr1 profile image69
    Hmrjmr1posted 14 years ago

    He probably had built up an unrealistic expectation and when he got his kiss he realized you weren't the "one". He has done mostly the right thing though by not leading you on after he knew, It's hard for guys to do the break up thing verbally, (though we should do it more). Take it for what it's worth and move forward, keep looking for the right one. Good Luck.

  4. profile image57
    MysticLingerieposted 14 years ago

    If you like him and would like a relationship with him. Just tell him put it out on the table, maybe hes just nervous. If you tell him you wouldnt mind trying out a relationship with him, then his true feelings might come out. ONly thing is that make sure he is not the rebound person. After getting dumped some people tend to feel sad and often on the rebound end up hookin up with someone worse or that they dont even like. Just make sure thats not you other then that best of luck.

  5. liuwenhua profile image59
    liuwenhuaposted 14 years ago

    Did you brush you teeth? smile Jusk kidding.

    He could be a 'player'. Some guys like challenges. They court girls who are attached. They find it a great sense of achievement if the girl started to fallen for him but eventually they lose the sense of challenge and start looking for new target again.

    Well, my advise is ignore him, don't answer his calls, avoid any form of contact. Start dating someone else. He will know and now its your turn to play hard to get.

  6. kelseyrocks.ol profile image61
    kelseyrocks.olposted 14 years ago

    this is simple, ive had a zillion boyfriends and boys who are just friends and if hes easy to read you will get it. it means he really does like u hes just not willing to be commited to one girl yet. its true youve known him for awile but he still might be trying to figure you out. so just chill and let it happen slowly. make him want to be with you. then he will think you are the greatest thing ever. have fun with him in the mean time and he will ease his way to your heart.

  7. H P Roychoudhury profile image43
    H P Roychoudhuryposted 13 years ago

    Kissing is an expression of feeling of love. If he is a lover one should wait for him till he is settled in mind to accept the lover with full heart and not only with kissing. Give time – time is a factor that heals the hurt.

  8. Michellcat profile image59
    Michellcatposted 13 years ago

    It means he kissed you, but doesn't want to date you.

    He probably has liked you all this time, and his feelings came to a head and he kissed you.

    But while you were in this horrible relationship, he might have been dating too, you know. There may be a girlfriend in the picture that he doesn't want to dump for someone who didn't dump their guy for him. Probably he's getting even with you, for the two years that he wished you were his and you weren't.

    Maybe suddenly now that you're free, he feels rejected because it took you this long to notice him. Either way, the three weeks of avoiding you, are at least as important as one little kiss. Forget the kiss, and remember those 3 weeks instead. 

    Take him at his word and see other people. If he complains, remind him that when you were free and wanted him, he didn't want "a relationship." He may change his mind, if you don't pursue him and don't act needy about it.

  9. Rose Ella Morton profile image60
    Rose Ella Mortonposted 13 years ago

    Girl you turn him on.He did it as a joke, but in the middle of the kiss he started to feel the red hot passion. He freak out because he knew at the moment you had the power to break his heart and turn his world upside down.
    As he told you , he is trying to keep his mind on school. Please don't give up . After he has finish school you both can start where you left off.

  10. Heywife profile image61
    Heywifeposted 13 years ago

    You asked him a question and he answered you.  He kissed you and he doesnt want a relationship.  You need to believe what he's telling you and move on with your life.  A kiss is a kiss.   It could have been simple curiousity on his part, an impulse but what ever it was,  it was and clearly ( I finally got a hold of him 3 weeks later ) he's not looking for more.

    Focus on you, your life, your friends, having fun, your job, whatever it is you do  and when a relationship is right, it will happen.   

    It sounds like you still need time to heal from your last relationship.  To get back to yourself otherwise, you'd not given him a second thought when he kissed you and you heard nothing since.  Honestly, let it go.  He's answered you.  Accept it.  Good luck.  smile

  11. Poetic_1 profile image61
    Poetic_1posted 13 years ago

    Alright guys, it has been sixteen months. I don't need answers anymore. We never got together, we never talk anymore, he denys the kiss, and pretends that I don't even exsist. It doesn't matter what he meant. It's been time for me to move on and as much as I try to say that I miss him, I don't. Niether my ex nor him can tear me apart. College is right around the corner for me and it's just easier this way.

    Thank you everyone for your answers.

    1. profile image0
      Shelly Elliottposted 9 years agoin reply to this

      c'mon hope u found love.. good question.

  12. the pink umbrella profile image73
    the pink umbrellaposted 13 years ago

    This means that he had a moment. Maybe he liked you, maybe he still does. But maybe it was just a powerful moment that he heeded. Some people are all for that momentary loss of judgement, and dont take into account the feelings that are created in the person they throw them on. Im not saying he's a bad guy, im just saying that he did not think about or know about your feelings for him when he did kiss you.

  13. mkvealsh profile image60
    mkvealshposted 12 years ago

    It means he was thinking of himself only and not of you.  If you really want to know what a guy thinks of you, don't let him kiss you at all.  If he really likes you, he will still stick around!

  14. viveresperando profile image65
    viveresperandoposted 12 years ago

    He is letting you know he does not want a relationship.  Kiss or no kiss; he does not want a relationship.  I wish he would have told you that before the kiss.

  15. ArtAsLife profile image60
    ArtAsLifeposted 12 years ago

    Well stay around, make sure he wants to bring it furhter eventually, and im really curious how this turned out. THis was almost 2 years ago:D

  16. Elena Zuniga profile image58
    Elena Zunigaposted 12 years ago

    That hes not ready for a commited relationship yet but maybe if you waite when hes done with school maybe ull have a change tbh thats what i did in 6th grade LOL i was asked out and i said no and when they askedwhy bc i really wanna focus on my work and not be distracted or hes a virgin dk D; But Good Luck k? ;]

  17. profile image0
    lisasuniquevoiceposted 10 years ago

    It means he was trying to get somewhere with you, and at the same time keeping himself open to other people.

  18. suzettenaples profile image90
    suzettenaplesposted 10 years ago

    He just wants sex.  He hopes to get you in bed.  He wants a one night stand.  Who knows?

  19. tehgyb profile image80
    tehgybposted 9 years ago

    From a guy's perspective it sounds like he's afraid he's just a rebound guy, and he may feel you're acting clingy. Maybe he realized it just wasn't right?

    I don't know. Hard to say without knowing him and the situation.

  20. Kalmiya profile image66
    Kalmiyaposted 9 years ago

    FORGET IT.  Men like the physical as well as anyone else and if you grab his attention for a kiss for 10 seconds, well, that's it.  Enjoy it.

  21. profile image0
    Shelly Elliottposted 9 years ago

    Classic guy move. They are afraid to love, they don't embrace it, they run! From my experience, there is only one true love out there for us. We go through stepping stones on the way. My guess is this guy is just a rock in the way of your path. It is a big deal for a guy to commit because there is always somebody better out there. I'm not sure if this helps but I have dated a lot of different men and I am finally happy with my soulmate. We kissed along time ago and he left for a long time so he could 'groom' himself to accept that relationships are the most important thing in the world. Maybe a job, car, house all the material things are his priorities and it makes sense in this world where money is the only way to get ahead. Kinda sad.

  22. Oztinato profile image77
    Oztinatoposted 9 years ago

    It means he wants to use you for his own temporary pleasure!
    it means everything negative about a person who would do this. It is a big warning sign in neon lights.

  23. Rosana Modugno profile image74
    Rosana Modugnoposted 6 years ago

    I would say to ask him why he kissed you if he wasn't interested in a relationship but would it matter now?  It's been too long and he told you he isn't interested in a relationship, so let it go.  You don't want someone who isn't interested.


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