Why is he is stuck in an unhappy marriage?

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   DDEposted 10 years ago

   Why is he is stuck in an unhappy marriage?
   
   This man is married to a woman who shares the same values as he but that is just about it. He is unhappy and pretends to be happy. Is he afraid to talk about it or is he trying to please her?
   Also, he is Catholic so that makes a difference to  their marriage. Do you think the religion has a lot to do with the fact that he does not want to leave her? This  is her second marriage.

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   liesl5858posted 10 years ago

   Being Catholic, I think that is why he does not want to leave her, on the other hand he might love her or trying to make a go of it first. On the Catholic religion, people don't approve of divorce. But you say that this is his second marriage. I suppose he is trying his best not to make this second marriage fail.

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      DDEposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      Religion also plays a role here thank you very much for sharing your opinions.

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   dashingscorpioposted 10 years ago

   The beautiful thing about a door is it lets those who want in (in) and those who want out (out). All relationships and marriages are "at will". No one is "stuck" with anyone. We're always where we (choose) to be.
   If someone is "unhappy" in their marriage and they (choose) to stay then (they) are (choosing) to be unhappy.
   Having said that some people would rather endure unhappiness than to become a "divorce statistic". Others elect to have affairs to fill the void of unhappiness in their marriage. And still others stay in the hopes that things will change overtime. He may feel having any woman is better than having no woman.
   A lot of people hate the thought of returning to being single and starting over in the dating pool. The bottom line is he isn't "stuck" he's there because he doesn't like his other "options" any better than what he has. Some people will only leave an unhappy marriage or relationship if they "fall in love" with someone else. Much like leaving one job for another. They dislike being alone especially if all their friends are married or coupled off.

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      DDEposted 10 years agoin reply to this

      ''They dislike being alone especially if all their friends are married or coupled off.'' A true line indeed" Thank you

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   billys1posted 10 years ago

   Dear DDE
   Is she Catholic also? Why is he so unhappy?  Did they marry in the church?  Why did they marry in the first place? Have they both forgotten the things that attracted them to each other?     Do they have an active sex life together? Are their children? Is she unhappy? Do they both take their marriage vows seriously? Many many questions here. We are all responsible for our own happiness, no one other human being is responsible for making us happy, unhappy, content, at ease, anything.  I repeat---NO ONE CAN MAKE US ANYTHING--->BUT GOD!  It is simply how we respond to the actions of others that makes us feel as we do.  He is responsible for his happiness and so is she. Thats the first rule taught in Psych.101. The fact that he cannot talk to her says a lot about his feelings of insecurity and low self-esteem.    Happy Halloween

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