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Other people says that" cheater will always be a cheater" Do you think so?

  1. Miss Jara profile image61
    Miss Jaraposted 3 years ago

    Other people says that" cheater will always be a cheater"
    Do you think so?

    Well people makes mistakes and we all deserve a second chance. But others never learned. They did it once then they do it again. And still then asking for another chance.
    It is not funny to play with other people's feelings.

  2. dashingscorpio profile image86
    dashingscorpioposted 3 years ago

    No. Logically it makes no sense to believe that it is possible for a person to be an (ex) smoker, drug user, or drinker but if he or she has cheated they are forever stuck cheating for the rest of their lives!
    Monogamy is a lifestyle (choice) not a DNA code!
    "The once a cheater always a cheater" is a self-defense statement one makes to protect oneself from taking a (risk) they may regret.
    Everyone is entitled to have their own "mate selection" criteria or rules, However to say someone who cheated on their mate when they were 18 is likely to cheat on their mate at 38 or 48 denies the possibility that people can learn from the past, mature over time or evolve.
    Lastly there are many instances where people overcommitted due to lack of knowledge of themselves especially during their youth or they were unrealistic about their expectations.
    Any teenager who believes they have found their "soul-mate" before figuring who (they) are is likely to experience heartache. One's youth is a time for learning, exploring, and discovery. Dating for them should be a FUN sociable activity and not some exercise to pretend as though they're adults.
    Another common mistake is making assumptions. Other than actually having sex with someone behind their mate's back many people have (varying definitions) of what "cheating" means.
    One person might consider having "secret friends" you correspond with or meet for lunch/dinner to be cheating, another might consider having a long distance relationship online with someone you've never met to be cheating. Others break it down by physical action; holding hands is cheating for some folks while others feel it's not cheating unless there is some form of sex.
    Finally you have those who never discussed being in an "exclusive relationship". They just "assumed" they were and when they discover their "mate" is also dating others they brand them as being a "cheater".
    Communication trumps assumption any day! Never assume you're exclusive. In order for there to be cheating a couple has to define their relationship and expectations of each other. Only then can you say there was betrayal if someone "breaks the rules".

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    Ian Mooneposted 3 years ago

    A cheater is a person who hasn't learn't what love actually is, or what it is to be a decent loving logically thinking human being..I'm a 42 yr old guy who know's for a fact, that no real man would ever cheat on their partner..A real man has pride, honour, decency, know's what love actually is, & know's he's here amongst other things to find his soul mate..Just like all the girls are here to find their soul mate, because that's who we want to be spending eternity with together..I see people where i live professing to love each other, but then they all seem to argue & cheat split up then get back together & so on..To me we're all down here on a mission, & we shouldn't have time for cheats, liars, or negative people..I do also know some couples who are in real love, & those people never argue, cheat or lie etc..Giving a cheat a 2nd chance is giving a cheat a licence to cheat, they got away with it once so they'l just be a bit more careful next time!..I'm not saying the many people i know who think their in love are bad people, not at all they just haven't learn't what love "isn't" yet & won't until they work it out like i did..I thought i loved all my ex girlfriends at one time, but now i know i never actually really loved any of them..I only realised that after meeting my soul mate, & then i felt a love that i could never put into words..I'm not embarrassed to admit it because I'm a real man, but what i feel now i never would have thought was actually possible..I actually worship her but then she worships me, & so all the worshipping is neutralised & it's just amazing all the time. :-)

    1. dashingscorpio profile image86
      dashingscorpioposted 3 years agoin reply to this

      All men are "real men". The only "fake men" are women who pretend to be men. Whenever someone uses the term "real" they mean according to their definition. I agree people who are "in love" don't cheat on each other.